Just today I was informed via text that I’m in for a doozy of a spanking the next time I am in the vicinity of said Ticked of Top (ToT). Of course honestly I don’t think my infraction was all that bad and it’s totally being taken out of context and all in all someone’s fault …. but not mine. So then ToT stated that the other naughty one in question and we will be punished together and we can hold hands. Sweet gesture though I’d rather hold hands while skipping along the sandy beaches or something.

Anyway, I just wondered for those of you who have been threatened promised a spanking, how long do you react to the future punishment with nervousness and anticipation? Do you need it fairly immediately with only the delay possible occurring because you are in public or with vanillas or kids etc but as soon as you two are alone, your ToT is going to deal with matters? Or can you deal with waiting for a punishment day set a week or even a month away? And probably in the meantime add to the list of infractions. Or can you deal with indefinite timelines so as my own example.

I don’t know the next time the spanking stars will align just so for me to meet up and for me to be up for such a spanking but that threat I got today sent chilly waves of dread throughout my body. But give me a few days and I won’t think about it too much as I know the follow through will be a long way off and then I start womdering if by the time we meet next, will he even remember??? Such a minor infraction, such an angelic face as mine , it will long be forgotten. So I quickly slip back into my comfortable state, settle the waves of dread, and go about as if all is well again.

How about you? How do you react to spankings that are promised but cannot be delivered immediately? Are you caught up in thought about them until they come to be or do you nearly forget them until, whoops, hey I’m OTK!!

And I still think there is a section in the spanking handbook vol 3 section 14-a that states that a spanking threat / promise is no longer valid after 4 business days.

 Ever feel this way? Ever get really fired up and ticked off over something someone posted on the Internet that you feel is completely wrong?

I admit that I sometimes do. Lately I’ve been getting pretty annoyed and loud on a few vanilla forums that pertain to a health advocacy group I am involved with. I have had to take a step back at times and remind myself to chill out and pick my battles. There are some things worth fighting for and some that I need to let go as there will always be differences in opinion.

Since there is such a huge online component to the spanking community, I think the same pertains to our fetish world. There are times when comments, opinions, or blatantly incorrect factual information is posted online that bother me, but I try to be selective in when or if I respond. I think I’m pretty “out there” in the spanking world and am definitely not a faceless, anonymous being behind a computer screen so when I post anything, I am mindful of what I write as I would be in any conversation done face to face with a mixed group. Trust me, there are times when I really wish I felt comfortable jumping all in on a discussion, but stop because I wonder how my input will be received and judged for various reasons.

I don’t hold my tongue though when certain lines are in my mind crossed. If someone posts telling me how I am supposedly really feeling or thinking, I’m going to speak up. For example, I’ve stated many times that I am not sexually aroused by spanking although I find spanking very wonderful and emotional on a different level. Please don’t tell me I really am becoming a quivering love puddle ripe with lust with every swat from every spanker I have ever played with and I must masturbate on the car ride home from shoots. Sorry, but noooooo! My body, my mind, not true, I’m certain.

Huge sweeping generalities towards specific sub-groups within the community that I find personally inaccurate? I may chime in. But that kind of goes back to my previous statement about needing to make a judgment call on how my input will be received.

Slander, nastygrams, and complete hijacking I try to quell without fueling any potential flamewars at least as far as my blog. What goes on on other blogs and sites is not really my place to say and again it’s a judgment call if there is something that pertains directly to me as I find at times it’s only an attempt to get a rise out of me and I’d rather not feed into it.

The smaller stuff, the pet peeves, I may commiserate over with a friend and then let go. Errrmmmm, repeatedly.

What brings you to speak up and voice your opinion on a matter? Are you fairly open in sharing your view or are you hesitant on an online forum? Hopefully this is a topic which you’ll feel comfortable in giving your opinion!

I have been busy editing photos for upcoming Punished Brats updates and I came across this one of Veronica spanking me in Cookie Drive.  What do I notice straight away?  Lily Anna napping while I’m getting my bottom smacked!!!

Wha … wha … what??  I mean I know standing in the corner is boring, but at least she gets to face her nose outward.  And if she is soooo very sleepy, I think I should be pushed right off Veronica’s lap so that Lily can take my place and get a little wake up call.  In fact, I think my spanking sentence should be fully commuted to Lily’s bottom.  All in favor, say aye.

AYE!

My mom was in town for about a week to help me out around the house and cook some homemade chicken noodle soup for me.    She arrived on very short notice and I had neither the time nor the energy to give the house a thorough vanilla cleansing.  I did the bare (ha!)minimum in packing away all the implements in my toy bag, putting the labeled PB editing DVDs in a storage bin, and moved all of the website files to a secure account on my laptop.  No worries, right?

Well, my mom says casually one morning, “I took the laundry basket out of your closet and moved that box of … stuff into the back corner.” 

That “stuff” would be a box of cute, unworn panties saved or when I can shoot again topped with a cat o’nine tails I’d tucked in there for safe keeping.  Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrreat!  She didn’t bat an eye though, bless her.  I’m sure she just thinks (and correctly so) that my husband and I have a kinky little loving relationship.

If you were to choose which cane would be used on you, which one would it be? I was curious if there is a cane out there that you would recommend, that after 40 strikes would NOT leave bruises that day or the next? Thanks.

While I have taken the cane before and rather like it (depending on who is wielding it), I do not declare myself to be an expert by any means. There are girls that are far more experienced and thereby probably more knowledgeable on the subject I’m sure. But now that I’ve given that disclaimer, I’ll be happy to ramble on about my personal findings.

I think the only cane that I could promise would not leave bruises after 40 strikes is a candy cane. The delightful sugary treat would not have much impact and would no doubt break on the bottom before the final strike. The spanker and spankee could then enjoy a sweet moment together eating the broken bits of the former implement; something that cannot be done with leather, wood, or most other implements.

If that is not an acceptable idea, then it’s really going to depend far more on how any cane is used and how seasoned the bottom receiving the punishment is rather than the type of cane itself that will determine bruising … especially given the 40 mark.

Thin canes have a tendency to be very whippy and can easily wrap around towards the hip area that is very prone to bruising.

Thick, heavy canes will leave deeper, heavier bruises. All of the force of the swing is concentrated into a narrow strip at impact and despite the relative light weight of the cane, it can leave lots of bruises in comparison to even a (light-medium weight) paddle for this reason. It’s sort of like the difference between getting an open hand smack on the face or getting punched. The open hand will distribute the impact and result in a larger red mark. The knuckle sandwich has a smaller surface impact, but is much more likely to result in a bruised cheek.

I personally do not recommend random cane like objects. I was once caned with one of those mini-blind wands. It happened once and will never happen again. The unforgiving plastic plus the hex-sided shape plus a rather jerky spanker resulted in me sporting pooling, bleeding welts that took a long time to recover from. Never again, but that might be personal preference and spanker’s technique more than the implement itself. Still, I’m not going to try ever again.

So does that mean all canes are horrible, evil implements sure to leave bruises? NO! I quite enjoy a good caning from an experienced spanker who possesses good aim. I have received quite a high number of strokes and not bruised afterwards. But it’s hard to say how each individual bottom will respond and I don’t think you can guarantee a bruise-free experience from any implement or even then hand.

must be a mutation

Just as I don’t like to start off a play session giving an extended laundry list of things to please not do during a spanking (I usually limit it to please don’t spank my thighs, please don’t touch my lady bits, and please don’t use degrading terms and see how things go), it feels a bit unnatural to ask the spanker a million questions about his or her preferences. Whether it’s at a big party, a friendly get together, or a private session, there’s always going to be a first time and the expected awkwardness.

It’s certainly not just about my enjoyment, but the enjoyment of the spanker and I want to play in a way that suits him as long as that’s within my comfort level. But short of asking him to complete a questionnaire, I suppose the only way to find out is along the way in play.

It can get a little confusing though when taking on roles during play. The spanker, in the role of strict top, may say one thing when really hoping for another.

For example:

What the spanker says:

Pixie: Oww oww oww! *kicks wildly*
Spanker: Keep those feet on the floor, young lady!

What the spanker thinks:

Pixie: Oww oww oww! *kicks wildly*
Spanker: Hope she keeps kicking so I have a reason to take down her panties.

Of course if you dictate every detail of the interaction, that’s not going to be very fun for either person. So since neither spankers nor spankees are psychic, how do you achieve the key elements of a good scene without belaboring every last detail and sucking the life out of the interaction? Thought this might be a good question with this being the season for spanking parties and therefore lots of first time meets and play coming up.

What do you do or have you witnessed a spankee do to help cope with the pain during play?  Kicking and cursing are fairly common reactions that some find helpful.  I’ve witnessed Lily Anna do lamaze style breathing.  She said it didn’t help much but it was a good try.   I tend to grab tightly to whatever I can reach – the bed spread, the chair leg, the spanker’s pants leg.  Grabbing the spanker’s arm tends to be quite effective yet short lived. 

 Any other coping mechanisms you’ve tried or witnessed?

**note: Comments section has been repaired!!  Ramble on.**

Thanks to everyone for your continued support in the comments here as well as in emails.  I am still dealing with a lot of medical issues right now and since it’s to the point that it’s impacting my normal spanky ways, I just wanted to post a quick status update. 

I have to unfortunately take a temporary break from sessions, filming, and parties.  I fully intend to be back full force as soon as I’m physically able and have my bouncy bottom back.  In the meantime, I of course still plan to ramble on here at spankingpixie and of course keeping up with the behind the scenes website duties at punished brats. 

And so since I don’t have any pictures of my two buns all aglow with splashes of red, here is a picture of my tulips instead. 

Next post will be back on topic!  Promise.  It’s already rattling around in my brain …

Thank you to everyone for all of your get well wishes!  I was just discharged from the hospital yesterday.  Unfortunately, I can’t say that I feel all that much better yet, but it’s really nice to be home.  It’s a lot quieter, comfier, and there’s a better wifi connection. 

I am sleeping more hours than my cat and when I’m not asleep, I wish I was so my posts may not be quite as regular for a little bit.  I’m going to try my best, however.