When you’re watching a spanking video, do you envision yourself in the role of the spanker or spankee or do you simply enjoy the scene as it plays out between the characters on the screen?  Is your answer the same when viewing a spanking photo or reading a spanking story? 

Sometimes if I can really relate to the spankee or her misdeed, I’ll imagine myself in her place.  I’ll feel my own anxiety rise with anticipation and then cringe in empathy with every swat.  If the model is someone I know well however, it’s harder for me to put myself in her place. 

When I view a photo, I fixate more on the captured moment.  I enjoy looking at the girl’s reaction, the state of her bottom, the emotional connection between spanker and spankee.  I do the same when I watch a video, but without a clear storyline to follow, I’m only an observer. 

I think the storyline is somehow key for me as with a written tale, I’m again more likely to put myself into the shoes of the naughty brat. 

How about you?  Do you imagine yourself in the scene or are you more of an observer?  Does it make a difference who the characters are?

I love House … he can spank me any time

The one exception, and the only show recently that I’ll wrestle my husband for control over the remote for the big TV, is Cake Boss.  It’s a fairly new TLC show that I didn’t expect to enjoy as much as I do.  The cakes they create are beyond amazing and the personalities of the people that work at the shop and the customers they serve make it so entertaining.  Recently I caught an episode that really should have included a good solid spanking though.

A complete and utter brat of a bride came into the bakery the night before her wedding day, threw a fit, and ruined her own cake by dumping multicolored icing all over the elegant four-tiered calalilly covered creation she had custom ordered. 

Her flat, snotty attitude, outrageous demands for a brand new cake by the next day, and a phone call to the bratzilla’s devestated mom played out like the perfect set up for a spanking scene.  I was nearly ready to leap through the television screen and spank her myself with that spatula until her bottom was as red as the frosting!  I would have at least pushed her face first into her destroyed cake, but that probably would have resulted in us both getting spanked by the Cake Boss.  It would be so worth it.

I might just have to see if we can use this as inspiration for a future scene at Punished Brats where there won’t be quite such a happy ending for the spoiled brat.  Check out the TLC episode here:  Bratty Bridezilla Video (alternate video source: http://tlc.discovery.com/videos/cake-boss-bi-plane-bridezilla-busting-buddy.html (hopefully this will work for those of you that were experiencing difficulty with the first link)  and tell me if you get as fired up as I did.  Fast forward to about the 7 minute mark to see the brat destroy the cake and make her demands.

Although I can recall a few incidents that stand out clearly to this day, I’m not sure there was any particular one that made me become interested in spanking.  I’ve always thought that I had an inherent fascination with spanking and so when I stumbled across a related reference, I took note; not the other way around.  It’s a matter of chicken and the egg, I suppose.  No real way to tell which came first, the exposure or the interest.

I have heard accounts from other spanking enthusiasts in which they can recall the exact incident (whether it’s in childhood or later) that it all clicked for them.  Still others that said they feel they were born a spanko.  What was your experience?  Do you think you were born with the interest or do you think it’s something that develops over time and exposure?

Anyway, when I’m being spanked, I prefer to have at least a moderate amount of discomfort.  I want to feel truly punished and the experience to have an air of authentic discipline no matter what the set up.  I think I have a pretty fair tolerance, but I am definitely not a “pain slut” as has been suggested to me before.  The pain itself doesn’t do it for me.  It’s merely a single factor that contributes to the overall positive experience. 

And right now, it’s never been more clear that anything I get out of pain is solely limited to the realm of spanking.  I’m in a good bit of discomfort at the moment for completely non-spanking related reasons and the only thing it’s contributing to right now is making me frustrated and a bit sad.  I won’t go into boring details about what’s currently causing the distress, but no matter what the vanilla ache or injury, I’m not fond of it.  I could whine over a scratched finger or bumped shin, but when a post-spanking attempt to sit causes me to wince a little?  Well, I’ll probably still whine, but I’ll do so with a sly smile.

Since I’m a spankee only, I wonder if the enjoyment of spanking related pain is only limited to the bottom.  If I tried to give a spanking, I think the spankee would be very unfortunate as I’d quickly move on to an implement to spare my hand the discomfort.  I don’t feel the desire to have my hand hot and burning like my bottom, but as I said, that might very well be because I’m not a spanker by nature. 

So tell me, if you’re one that enjoys getting spanked, do you find that you can handle repeated hard swats to your bottom and yet cringe at the thought of a papercut?  And if you’re one that likes to give spankings, do you enjoy the pain sensation on your hand after a good bit of play? 

While I’ve had the chance to play out this sort of scenario in role play and in shoots, I don’t often experience this in real life.  On the rare occasion that I was spanked growing up, I was never made to wait for my punishment.  The swats were always delivered at the time of the infraction while I was dressed in my day clothes (well, perhaps minus the bottoms).  And today when I receive any playful punishments from my husband, the spankings are also typically given on the spot or when we next have a private moment.  I have acted up and become bratty at bedtime earning myself a sore-bottomed tuck-in, but I can’t recall being specifically made to wait until night time to get spanked for something I did earlier in the day. 

I’m kind of glad that I’m not made to wait until bedtime as the anxiety would be maddening.  How bad will it be?  Does he really mean it?  Will he even remember?  What if I hop into bed early and fall asleep really fast?  I suppose that anxiety is all a part of the punishment and it would be effective because I’d be on edge all day.  I can’t decide if I’d like it or not - and by “like” I mean in that same love-hate way I feel about the pain of the spanking itself.  I love the ritual, the routine.  I love the thought of going to bed with a hot bottom.  And of course, I love the pajamas.  But the anxiety might do me in (I’m a highstrung person to begin with) and I’d be bitterly disappointed if my punishment were forgotten or dismissed when bedtime finally rolled around and I’d spent hours worrying for nothing. 

What are your thoughts on bedtime spankings?  Ever receive one or give one?  Do you hate the wait or find the anticipation heightens the experience?  Do you enjoy the ritual aspect?  Do you enjoy seeing a bedtime spanking given in a scene?

Well, after our home improve-not project was complete, we were all standing in the driveway chatting for a few minutes when my husband swatted me on the butt with one of the old fan blades.  My eyes nearly bulged out of my head!  Not from the pain, but the shock.  His dad was standing right in front of and said, “what’d you hit for???”.  My husband just smirked and said, “she likes it”.  I so badly wanted to turn invisible at that moment but my superpowers failed me. 

This is not the first time that my husband has playfully swatted me in front of vanilla friends and family.  I swear he must either like flirting with the danger of getting caught or really enjoys seeing me squirm.  Or it could simply be that as Sister says …

a shirt from one of my favorite plays … can anyone guess why?

In any case, it can be tough to explain the appeal and all of the dynamics of the spanking scene to someone who isn’t into it themselves.  Heck, I think a lot of us spankos still struggle with explaining it to ourselves!

I came out to two of my closest vanilla friends several years back.  I was only beginning to discover the world of adult spanking at the time and while I had made a few good spanko friends online, I felt I needed to have someone local that I could trust to be my safety when I met a new spanking partner for some real life play.  At that point I had played twice without a safety - the first time went exceptionally well (courtesy of one Richard Windsor) and the second time went horribly wrong (courtesy of some total creep).  I didn’t want the latter to occur ever again.  

Before my next spanking meet up, I told my friends, K and M, about my long held secret.  I felt that it was particularly important to tell them this time as I was traveling out of state and would be gone for a few days.  I wanted to make sure that someone knew where I was in case anything should go wrong (you know, like getting chopped up and left in the cornfields).  

My friends’ reactions were very different.  As I recall, M was pretty relaxed about the whole thing.  While she voiced some maternal style concern over my travel plans, she was very open-minded to the idea of spanking even though it was not something that particularly interested her.  I remember K’s reaction more clearly.  She had immediate concerns, not only for my safety when meeting up with a stranger far from home as well as while submitting to discipline, but she questioned my intentions.  What was I thinking?  Why would I want this?  Was I doing this as a way of intentionally harming myself? 

I have struggled in the past with self-injuring and so it was quite reasonable to wonder if I was simply finding a way of getting someone else to hurt me for me.  That’s when it got tricky.  I had to try to assure her that it was not my intent at all and that it was something I had craved for a long time and could actually be fun.  Getting hit repeatedly until sore, red, and possibly bruised didn’t sound like much fun to her and if I think about it from a total vanilla’s perspective, it sure does sound more like setting myself up to get hurt than something enjoyable.  I fumbled to find words to explain something that I didn’t understand very well myself.  

I felt I had created a bit of distance between us when we parted ways that day.   K was upset and concerned, and in all honesty, I was too plus I felt terribly guilty.  K is an amazing friend though and did some online research about the spanking community when she got home.  She was reassured by the friendliness and normalcy she found on the various forums.  She also found accounts of others’ experiences that did a far better job of explaining the desire than I did in rambling to her that afternoon.  

In the end, K and M were both cautiously supportive.  They wished me well but reserved the right to be concerned for my well-being.  Exactly what I was looking for in a safety.  

By now, K and M are fairly comfortable with my interest in spanking.  I can chat with them about my work at PB or other things that are going on in my little world of spanking, though I choose not to go into any great detail about my actual spankings unless I’m asked (I don’t want to make them uncomfortable).  They’ll playfully tease me about my passion and the fact that my husband spanks me, and while I’ll blush madly, it’s all in good fun.

But even though I really lucked out and have two great friends who are incredibly understanding, I don’t share my secret with all of my vanilla acquaintances.  I’m not sure how many would be so accepting and I’d rather not tempt fate.  

Have you ever confided in a vanilla friend or if not, considered doing so?  How would you explain your interest?   

You’ve been doing more scenes lately as a spanker. You are a natural and seem to be enjoying the role. Is topping a new development or have you always had the interest?

Topping is a relatively new development, as I have recently felt comfortable enough with my more dominant side. This change has become apparent to me in my day-to-day life as well, in that I’m more comfortable expressing myself and taking the bull by the horns, so to speak.

Do you find it’s an advantage having been on the receiving end of a spanking many times before? Do you feel that it gives you a better idea of how to exact a firm spanking or do you perhaps end up sympathizing with the spankee knowing how painful it can be?

Definately an advantage. I got a feel for positioning, rhythm, etc when I was on the receiving end. I know that there is no ONE RIGHT WAY to spank, but it was certainly helpful for me to get a feel for the topping styles of a variety of spankers.

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 And click here for a preview of Beverly’s latest hairbrush spanking scene, Nanny Cam, coming to the members’ section Friday, June 5th.

Well, you could always strap on a harness and get tied up with ropes! No, not bondage (although we did get a little playful with the ropes and my bottom received a few swats with the tail end). Our little group headed to the rock gym for a full day of climbing.

Despite my fear of heights, I absolutely love it. I love getting an amazing total body workout, challenging my mind to figure out the best way to reach the top, and the rush I get when I am scared to death but push through to accomplish the goal anyway.

So that was my adventure for the holiday weekend along with some hiking, gardening, and sunning myself by the lake.  Oh how I love this time of year!

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Back to the topic of spanking.  A couple of months ago I was chatting with a spanker I’d been introduced to at the SSNY party.  While getting to know one another he asked how long I’ve been into spanking and I truthfully replied that I’ve had the interest for as long as I could remember.  I told him that even as a very young child I would look up the word ’spank’ in the dictionary and was titillated by a chance reference to punishment on television.  The guy kind of rolled his eyes and said that everyone seems to tell that same story. 

I was unsure of how to respond for a moment.  Perhaps I had disappointed him by not having a more exciting and unique tale, but it’s the absolute truth.  I’m not saying that he didn’t believe me, but I do think he probably has heard very similar accounts from others and was hoping for something different. 

I think many of us do share similar experiences especially when first discovering our fascination with spanking.  In conversations and email correspondence I’ve had with different people, so many mention the mix of excitement and confusion they felt when they’d witness a spanking or find a reference in mainstream media.  I know darn well I’m far from the only one that cracked open the dictionary to the ‘S’ section enough times to permanently bend the binding.  And at some point most of us typed the word spank into the computer and discovered the world of online spanking. 

Some of us were spanked growing up and others weren’t.  Some may have realized their interest very early on while others didn’t until much later as teens or adults.  But while we don’t all have identical stories, there do seem to be some common themes and many points that we can related to one another on - at least in the accounts that I’ve heard so far.

So tell me yours.  How and when did you first discover your interest in spanking?