I know that certainly with foods, one’s pallet can change over time. Canned Spaghetti-O’s are no longer a dietary staple and vegetables might be savored rather than slipped to the dog. But what about in the world of spanking? Have you found that your preferences have changed over time?
I’d say that my own spanking pallet has changed subtly and some strong preferences have softened as well. I used to have no interest in topping at all but I now enjoy it. My preference for super intense, bottom bruising play (first hand and in viewing) has been toned down significantly. I appreciate the romantic aspect of spanking play between couples rather than always seeking disciplinary scenes.
I think perhaps these shifts are due to repeated exposure to different styles of spanking. At first my reaction might have been “no way, not for me” but over time I picked up on some new elements that were to my liking and gradually grew to enjoy greater variety. A bit of burnout may also have played a part and it’s refreshing to consider something new every once in a while.
What about you? Have you noticed any changes with your own spanking preferences and styles over the years? It could be anything from evolving from a spanker to a spankee, changes in preferred implements, or new favorite scenarios. Share your thoughts!
March 20th, 2013 - 6:03 pm
SUPER blog topic!
After getting spanked by both men and other women, I have learned that my preferred tops are other women of varying ages. I have the most fun with them. The irony is I enjoy disciplinary spankings most from other women. I would still bottom to men at parties. And as for spanking play with a boyfriend, I would stick to more playful smacks.
I have performed top roles to other women and one man. I enjoyed the opportunity very much, but know my special love is on the receiving end.
I adored you as a bottom, but actually think YOU really have hit your stride so to speak as a DEMON of a top!!!!
March 20th, 2013 - 8:46 pm
Fantastic topic! Thank you for bringing it up. I’ve been a fan of yours since the beginning and although I can’t say for sure I’ve always felt we’re prob pretty close in age – I’m 30. Assuming that’s true, then like me you went most of your teen years without internet; only to have a massive explosion of online content upon entering college. Which is where I found realspankings.com; followed not too long after by punished brats, and then all the others.
Way back when you first came online; I would supplant myself into your place, but only from the perspective of a parental spanking. The fantasy was always that my parents/grandparents/etc. (not my actual parents, but online characters like David) had discovered some misdeed, and I deserved painful punishment.
Then at some point, I grew up and things changed. Even before I met my husband, I no longer wanted to be over “mom or dad’s” lap. I can’t pinpoint exactly at what age it disappeared, it’s been a while now since the fantasy of parental punishment spankings had been completely replaced with more sensualized play. Painful slaps made way for sexual smacks.
One of the ways I became aware of this change was in the pictures I was looking at. In your work, for example, I rarely look at the early pictures anymore. Because in those – it’s a “girl” being spanked. Nowadays, if I view spanking scenes, I prefer those like your work in “Pixie Perfume Girl.” There you were a grown-up, dressed like a grown woman. You are wearing the type of clothes I wear to work.
When I was 22, the pictures of young Pixie getting spanked in her schoolgirl outfit were exactly what I wanted/needed. At 30, it’s the older Pixie that I’m looking for. A personal fav is the Secretary scene you did with Dallas. My husband and I own a restaurant, and have enacted similar instances more than once once the staff had gone home (don’t worry, it was sanitary lol).
Anyway, I hope you don’t mind me using you as an example throughout my comment here. It’s just that your blog topic really struck a cord with me. As a fan of your work for all these years it’s really interesting to me how much my tastes have changed as I’ve gotten older – and watched you do the same. And the truth is, the “grown woman” spankings are so much more sensual to me than the naughty girl fantasies I had when I was younger. It’s almost like that was the training ground to become comfortable in my sexuality today…
March 20th, 2013 - 10:38 pm
I think in most ways my tastes and desires haven’t changed. I’ve always enjoyed spanking for fun, play, and erotic stimulation. I’ve always liked most hand spanking OTK on a couch or bed so everybody would be comfortable. I’ve never been into discipline or punishment. What’s different for me now is my fantasy life. I used to fantasize about spanking in traditional trappings — like spanking neighbor girls for feigned misdeeds, getting spanked by an attractive teacher. But, mostly now, I think of spanking as between consenting adults with similar needs where spanking is at the core of one’ sexuality — whether the spanking is sexual or not.
March 21st, 2013 - 5:00 pm
My tastes have definitely changed over time. What changed? Mostly trying new things. I didn’t really think that I’d ever want to play with heavier instruments, as either a top or a bottom, and then, lo and behold, I realized that I liked the marks that they left, and I enjoyed experimenting with new toys. I also used to hate intense play as a top, because I don’t particularly like seeing a marked up bottom, but over time, I’ve come to realize that if the bottom likes more intense play, it can be just as enjoyable if I focus on different things. I’ve also come to enjoy topping far more than I ever expected to. Like Alyssa, I think that my preference in scenes where I picture myself in place of the bottom has also changed some to include more romantic/adult type scenes.
March 22nd, 2013 - 6:33 am
Indeed! My tastes have changed a lot!
When I was younger, I was into implements in a big way. Screw the hand, I wanted canes, paddles, tawses. I wanted to really feel the pain. Then I went through a phase of only being interested in light handspankings after I had a caning that left me with a mass of black bruising, a swollen backside and a trip to A&E, having to clumsily claim that I slipped on the ice and landed on concrete – he’d damaged something or other. Now, I like implements and hands. I’m not so hot on the more intense implements any more – specifically canes! – but I really like a good spanking with a wooden spoon.
Additionally, when I was younger I was disgusted by daddy roles in play – it really put me off. Now, it’s as hot as hell for me!
March 23rd, 2013 - 7:51 am
Pixie ,well the news is so depressing ,the weather here in U.K. ditto at the moment so it is nice to see pretty girls being spanked and playing ,love and spanks.,Timxx
March 23rd, 2013 - 11:06 am
Pixie,
I read your blog quite often but I usually never post. However, I like this topic because I think tastes can definitely change. I was never open to switching roles when I first really started exploring spanking. I only wanted to give spankings. While I still have a strong preference for giving, I’ve found that it can be interesting to switch and be on the receiving end once in a while. It gives me good perspective.
So yes, I do believe that spanking interests evolve with time, and I think that’s one of the ways to keep it interesting.
Keep writing!
Steve
March 23rd, 2013 - 11:50 am
You can’t fool me young lady! I know you are still slipping those green beans to the dog!
I think my tastes have stayed much the same for quite a while although there is some ebb and flow so to speak. My preference has always been a bit more sensual than disciplinary, but still enjoy seeing a “school girl” get spanked. It’s probably about the control and the domination. My preferred “well spanked bottom” is quite red, but welts and tram lines don’t appeal to me a whole lot. I tend to be a hand and hairbrush kind of guy and would only be inclined to pull out a paddle or cane if a naughty young lady were being particularly bratty and defiant.
So definitely some variation to avoid burn out, but my major preferences have stayed much the same.
March 23rd, 2013 - 1:37 pm
I’m afraid I will always be a pedant: I think you mean “palate”…
March 23rd, 2013 - 7:43 pm
When I first started out, I preferred (giving and watching) bare hand, otk, “mother/(grown) daughter” role spankings.
Now, all this time later…I’m *exactly* the same
Not sure if that makes me less diverse or more loyal, but oh well
We all like what we like!
March 24th, 2013 - 5:49 pm
I don’t think I’ve changed so much as expanded. I still like what I always did, but have branched out more as time has gone on, mostly in terms of implements. I was always a strapaholic, and still am, but have played with so many more things as time has gone on. I’ve actually started to burn out more and more. I’ve done this all my adult life, and it just isn’t as important any more.
I have gotten more into playing with singletails. Not to hit anyone with them, just improve my skills.
March 26th, 2013 - 4:06 pm
I am primarily a bottom, but I tried my hand at topping at a local party and I found I like it. Even though my hands got the worst of it. LOL
When I first got into the scene, I started with only two implements. Now there are five! Two otk straps, two leather paddles and a hairbrush. The hairbrush is fairly new and I am not sure I care all that much for it. At least it is different.
I also have found I can take more than I thought I could. While I am not a hard player, I can take a pretty good spanking and the last time I went for an hour and the only break was when my top applied lotion.
I have come a long way and I finally feel comfortable enough to go bare with my top. It took me over a year. However, she is the only one I will do that with and I will not do it at a party.
I am hoping I will be able to become a switch and get my hands toughened enough so I don’t hurt them. Of course, I can always use implements.
March 26th, 2013 - 9:19 pm
Firstly, great topic.
Yes my taste have changed, and Alyssa made great points. When younger, I did enjoy the schoolgirl/parental/brat flavor that is common in commercial spanking content. I tend to now like scenes that seem realistic for RL, or offer something unique.
I have a lot more ideas, and methods of explaining what I want, and don’t have to draw upon archetypes to express an emotion. If “parental” makes me feel vulnerable, I can try to create a scene where I can be vulnerable outside of that role. If “schoolgirl” makes me feel bratty, I can express myself in a bratty way, without plaid. Or I can flip the script and be a bratty top.
I can’t ignore being able to finally start to play in real life, and the impact that has on the type of spanking content I enjoy. After playing more in real life, I enjoy watching clips that are closer to what’s possible and likely. Being able to see a realistic moment in time(even if historical/science fiction, etc) still fascinates me. Because even if the content is fantastical, it takes me outside of the realm of the usual.
March 27th, 2013 - 7:59 am
Pixie ,the little business girls reserve the spanks in the latest P.b. pranks video with young Pi and Joelle ,love and spanks,Timxx
March 27th, 2013 - 8:00 am
reverse i mean.
March 28th, 2013 - 12:02 am
There can be an evolution in spanking tastes like the food metaphor but it can also be like the seasons. You may find in the future that Summer is here again.
March 28th, 2013 - 6:44 am
even so i prefer to be one getting spanked i notice i wont mind spanking a girl that enjoy being spanked herself when she need it that why i say iam a switch
sometime and half time i dont know if i be ok getting spanked by a female that get spanked too or like be spanked even so i may be one getting spanked more casue i misbehave more
then come part where i want to be spanked and get spanking from feamle who a top and one who hand out spankings to naughty boy and she never get spanked
April 1st, 2013 - 10:49 am
Hi, Pixie,
My preferences have changed over the years too. I now only enjoy spankings that are less intense, more intimate, and of longer duration. My fantasy life centers more on fully consenting adult men and women in a romantic situation.