I hate saying no. I always have felt that way because I tend to be a bit of a people pleaser. Sometimes though, I just have to. Asked to do something on a Saturday when I have already made a prior commitment? Have to decline (enter guilt). Offered a giant helping of Aunt Trudy’s green bean casserole? No thank you! No, no really. I’m good, thanks (feel guilty but it’s a matter of self-preservation). I’m sure you’ve been in similar situations.
But what about if you’re asked to play with a fellow spanko and don’t wish to do so? It’s a fairly common party issue but it could be an online request or an in person inquiry. Is it a bit tougher for you to decline knowing that the person is dipping a toe in the world of spanking and has perhaps had to gather a lot of courage to ask?
Do you simply say no thank you? Maybe promise some other time? Or do you agree even if you rather not? I find it tricky, but does it have to be? Sure, I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings but it’s probably not fair to keep saying “maybe later” either. And while saying yes can sometimes be fortuitous and lead to an unexpected good time that would have otherwise been missed, it can also lead to trouble when a bad vibe proves true.
How do you or would you handle a spanking situation where you wanted to say no? Have you ever been in such a position? And if the shoe was on the other foot, how what response would be preferred?