Last week I wrote a post about hot buttons. About what minor elements in a scene can take a scene from good to fantastic. Of course these are all personal preferences and what can make a scene great for one person can be of little significance to another or could even be a total turn off. We are individuals with very different tastes even though we share a common interest in spanking.
So just as there are these minor elements that can be a total turn on for an individual, there are just as many turn offs. What is a big thrill for one person may have just the opposite effect on someone else.
Lee suggested that I do a post on these turn offs and I had to ponder for a bit if I was going to follow through even though I think it would be an interesting topic. My only concern is that I didn’t want anyone to become upset or offended if someone else were to strongly state their opinions and preferences. While that has certainly occurred several times on my blog already, this topic could truly court conflict. Still, I think it is far too interesting a topic to neglect and it could spark some good conversation.
So with all that said, let’s get down to business. What are your turn offs? What could potentially spoil a scene (whether one being viewed or one you’re participating in) for you and why?
Here are a few of mine:
Humiliation and insults regarding a girl’s weight and appearance. This is a big one for me and in fact I have been considering doing a rant post on this topic in the future. I wrote a long ramble one night after being upset by seeing such a video, but again, I was cautious about broaching such a potentially touchy subject.
Face slapping. The occasional single slap when a girl is really back talking her mother is ok, but for some reason face slapping generally makes me cringe. I want to see the girl’s bottom cheeks slapped, not her facial cheeks.
Sexual acts or suggestions in scenes depicting family members (father/daughter, uncle/niece). Yes, I know it’s all role play, but it’s a limit for me.
A lot of cursing from the spanker, particularly cursing at the spankee.
Spankees that remain completely motionless and truly look bored or about to fall asleep during their punishment.
So those are mine. Hopefully none of what I said was too heavy nor too upsetting to anyone. And just one final cautionary statement from worry wart Pixie here. Please remember there is no right or wrong. It’s all just a matter of personal preference.
January 11th, 2010 - 3:35 pm
I feel honored beyond expectation.
Lee
January 11th, 2010 - 4:09 pm
Where to begin
This will come as no surprise but I have lots of them. I will start with the first lot and come back for more later.
1) Granny Panties!! I’m talking your thigh length, belly button touching Montford’s here. Despite being an Englishman, I can’t stand the obsessive liking of school knickers, I find them to be ghastly looking!!
2) A top shouting. There is a big difference between being stern and being demeaning.
3) Over Bratting!! I like a spirited girl as much as the next guy, but learn to know when enough is enough
4) Clothing. If the bottom has dressed with little concern as to what my likes are then that is a big turn off to me.
5) Mean Spiritedness!! This trascends the actual spanking part, but if I believe that someone has a mean spirited demeanor towards others about them, then I am so turned off that I don’t wish to play with that person.
6) Debbie Downer!! No explanation needed, I like bubbly, fun people who make me smile
7) Topping from the Bottom. Everything in moderation of course, and code words, higher/lower etc are perfectly fine. But if you wasn’t a bad girl you wouldn’t be in this position, so suck it up and take what you have coming
There are 7 to start with, more to come later.
January 11th, 2010 - 4:49 pm
Pixie, I agree 100% with all of your turn-offs. I don’t like spankings where the spankee is disrespected for who they are or what they look like. That’s not what spanking is about for me. The spankee may have behavior and attitude traits that are punishable, but that doesn’t make them a bad person. Spanking isn’t for bad people. I don’t want them slapped in the face or cursed at. There’s pain and shame in spanking, but that’s supposed to be good for them.
Other things I can think of that spoil a scene for me:
Inept spankers who don’t know their target. I don’t like spanks too high or on the hips.
Flimsy implements. Getting spanked with a rolled up newspaper or soft, light paddle is boring. Large, heavy, unwieldy implements are not good, either. Anything causing bleeding is a total turn off.
Fake, over-the-top reactions that don’t match the spanking they’re getting. This isn’t as bad as spankees being completely motionless and bored, but if I can tell the model has no real connection to spanking, it’s boring for me.
Too much enjoyment or amusement shown by the spanker in a punishment scene. It’s supposed to be serious and a difficult situation.
January 11th, 2010 - 5:40 pm
A male spanker who looks & is dressed like someone that security would toss from a bus station.
A male spanker far too old for the girl he is spanking.
The girl looking back at the spanker, you can’t tell he’s back there?
“School girls” with tatoos. [wtf?]
Cheerleaders [cliche]
January 11th, 2010 - 5:56 pm
My turn offs. A beating, there is a fine line between a hard spanking an a beating.
Floggings are in the same boat as beatings
Faking I know that alot of spankee fake because of there high pain level but all that yelling and kicking.
Smiling and laughing at the end of a spanking come on its a spanking.I know that the spankings hurt.
Girls getting there butts tore up with a cane
I do like crying and tears but you dont see much of that.Look at Pixie getting spanked at Dallas an you can see the differents when she is crying and not.
Thats it Bye Bye Ed
January 11th, 2010 - 6:08 pm
hi punkin,
i’ve never been shy about turn offs[as you well know].
no one should be belittled for the size or appearance of anything, period!!!!
if i had my drouthers and magic lamp i’d wish to have a dinner with ruth gordon and margaret rutherford over paris hilton, charlese whoever and their ilk.
anything that draws blood or raises real blisters is out for me. my darling kelly [when i suggested getting a paddle] said ohhhh nooo…the palm of your right hand is plenty good enough.
as far as attire goes, i can’t think of anything that turns me off. plenty that turns me on tho. even granny pants and girdles come down/off.
if a video shows a girl obviously enjoying what’s happening then it’s holden caulfield time….phoney.
i’m so old and out of touch that i can’t imagine a girl who would go to a spanking party wanting/needing to be spanked. all my experiance has been that the spanking itself wasn’t so much fun but the aftermath….a warm bottom can surely lead to a hot p***y! so if i ever did attend a party i might be turned off by a girl who approached me[fat chance] saying spank me.
another great post.
best,
ddon
January 11th, 2010 - 6:33 pm
A huge bingo on that first one. Know for some it works and all… but for us… that’s a for sure hard limit. Discipline should come from a loving and caring place. It’s a “this is for your own good” and it should be positive. Saying would could only be called “mean”… no way.
That goes both ways though. A spankee should be respectful of the discipline spanking process. If not, there are ways to deal with it. But ultimately it has to be there… and that’s a hard limit too.
Really good topic!
~Todd and Suzy
January 11th, 2010 - 7:04 pm
I am agreeing with so many of these. Humiliation/verbal abuse, face-slapping and a lot of cussing — all huge NO’s for me. And Richard, I detest granny panties. I do not own a single pair. I don’t care if Bettie Page made them look sexy; they are not flattering. And the age disparity thing? Nix.
A major turn-off for me is baby words. I’m not into age-play, and the overly cute words make my flesh crawl. In particular, the word “tushy.” I want to throw up in my mouth every time I hear that term.
Stay the hell away from my back door. ‘Nuff said, there.
When watching a video, I don’t want to see blood, gigantic purple hematomas or a woman screaming and bawling in agony. But on the flip side, pattycake spanking annoys me. It has to be enough of a spanking so that I wince and squirm a bit in sympathy, but not so that I’m looking away in horror.
January 11th, 2010 - 9:34 pm
Hum….
Heavy…Bruises, with OTK hand/small implement spanking. This would be expected with other forms, but with OTK, I don’t expect to see “brutal beatings”.
Ageplay, even if just non sexual, and spanking only. Creeps me out, and ruins the scene. Hate especially when it is thrown in suddenly without warning.
Unnecessary nudity-nakedness for nakedness sake. Would rather see the “unbarring”, than someone just beaten naked. Degradation/humiliation…scenes/films that turn sexual, but don’t advertise themselves as such…especially “discipline” spankings that flip like that. Makes me worry for the model….
THONGS- No fun.
Rudeness, and inexperience from a top. Includes yelling, being overtly physical etc, a clearly inexperienced dom is a pain to watch.
Spiritless spankees..
January 11th, 2010 - 10:13 pm
Another great article!
Things that spankees do to turn me off..?
I don’t mind any underwear.. it’s coming off anyway. That whole area being tidy is a plus. Oh and spankee must be female
“Topping from the bottom” is an interesting phrase. I think it’s overused. If the spankee is still giving instructions on the second spanking maybe the spanker didn’t listen properly first time around. Or, the spankee likes to receive a different kind of spanking than the spanker wants to give. Non-compatible play partners are inevitable, you can’t like everyone.
January 11th, 2010 - 11:07 pm
Good post, and yes, all of them are a immediately stop watching thing for me. I’d also add excessive bruising, welts, etc..while I want realism (no patty cakes, caress type spankings), I also don’t want it to resemble what I would expect in hardcore s&m. A rosy female butt is sexy; excessive welts and bruises are not. Sniffling and some sobbing add to a scene, but uncontrollable screaming and whaling detract from a scene.
January 11th, 2010 - 11:46 pm
I agree with most of what’s been said, particularly regarding a general sense of decency and atmospheric fun. A nervous or uncertain male top is a real let-down, also, every bit as bad as an overbearing or vulgar one.
January 12th, 2010 - 2:26 am
Dear Pixie,
Honestly, I read your list and feel like you must have copied my paper….
I’ve said this before, I do like reaction. Whether it’s a body movement, or a verbal noise, or a little leg kicking (not on the level of the Rockettes, but a little flutter-kick)–all of these I like. So probably my biggest complaint is the girl who doesn’t react.
If she’s trying to prove that it “doesn’t hurt” or soemthing–fine, you win, nice playin’ with you, let me go find somebody else.
Dr. Ken
January 12th, 2010 - 2:51 am
Naturally since everybody has different turn on’s, it is surprising on how much people agree on the turn off’s.
Also everybody has a different take on spanking from foreplay to strict discipline and punishment.
For me, a spanking is something given out of love, not sexual love. but a wish to correct behavior or as something earned by behavior, so I like to see some physical contact.
A arm around the waist in an OTK or the free hand touching the back while paddling someone on a bed, but in some way touching, making it less impersonal.
So, for me turnoffs are when there is no contact like a caning.
I understand some senarios require that like some school girl ones.
Teacher is often not allowed to touch.
Lee
January 12th, 2010 - 3:55 am
Mr. Windsor’s posting pretty much mirrors the way I feel 100%
Tony
January 12th, 2010 - 7:55 am
Like you, Pixie, I don’t think that it’s true to life when the spankee lies motionless over the spanker’s knee……I have to tell you that both of my ladies move a lot when they’re over my knee……squirming, wriggling, kicking, scissoring!! Of course, it’s all in vain because the spanks continue to land exactly where they should….on their naughty bottoms.
Aristotle
January 12th, 2010 - 8:38 am
A lot of the same – bruising, blood, major welts – the stuff that makes it more of a beating than spanking.
Then there is the too much talking spanking. Couple of smacks – yak,yak,yak, couple more smacks – yak, yak, yak. Turn a 1 minute decent spanking into a 5 or 6 minute droning on production.
But the main thing that makes me quit watching a video real quick is the tap, tap (or pattycake), go through the motions, fake spanking. One step worse is when the spankee “acts” like it is more than that.
January 12th, 2010 - 10:08 am
The idea that you are able to distinguish between on and off buttons and then describe them to others in a thoughtful way is a definite sign of intelligence. Saying this is actually relevant to the post because it shows how much I dislike the attitude that fetish people are somehow not as likable, strange, etc.
I just want to live in the magic world of self-acceptance and concern for the preferences of others. When you say ‘preferences,’ you are showing your thoughtfulness in knowing people can be different, yet still likable. To me, that’s an amazing quality! You know something about my history and why I would make such a point of saying that.
Please just keep up the great work, Pixie! It means a lot!
January 12th, 2010 - 11:38 am
For me anything that smacks of cruelty — severe punishment, marks, shrieking – is an off button. Lesser but still an off button is silly bratting.
January 12th, 2010 - 2:15 pm
pixie yes i agree with very much your turn offs in spanking themes ageplay is alright if it is played in good taste and everyone happy unpleasantness is a major no no to me ,scruffy clothing another one ,love and spanks from tim xxxxxx
January 12th, 2010 - 2:50 pm
Underwear below pyjamas . baring a bottom immediately, poor dialog, no reaction from the spankee. Too much focus on the spanker. naked spankings. wooden actors. using poor hygine as a reason to spank ( a certain site does it all the time). The taking of rectal temperatures.
All of the things pixie mentioned herself.
January 12th, 2010 - 3:43 pm
Typical for you, Pixie to be concerned about such sensitive topics as this one. You’re such a nice woman..!
We seem to agree on most issues here in “What is a “turn-off”.
Maybe I can add a few more things that are ruining a scene to me;
A WRONG ENVIRONMENT. Spankings that take place in “studio-like” settings where they normally would never happen. To me it can show disrespect for the customer who buys the movie. Kind of “We don’t care as long as there is a bum spanked.”
Spankings that START TOO SOFT, with very light slaps on jeans or skirt, followed by harder slaps over panties and hard smacks on the bare buttocks. I would prefer to see a spanking start on panties with firm smacks, to firmly continue on the bare. Somebody needs to be punished for her wrong doings and that starts straight away. (I know that “warming-up” is a necessity for many, but lots of girls have buttocks that are well-trained enough to accept a firmer START).
You know I’m not in favour of overly hard spankings, but a firm approach right from the beginning does it to me.
THONGS BEING TAKEN DOWN ruins it totally for me. When you want to spank BARE you can do so when the girl is wearing a thong. So taking it down is not necessary and ruins the scene for me.
And this leads automatically to VAGINAL EXPOSURE. It’s my firm believe that a spanking should focus on just that. Smacking the buttocks. When glimpses of the vagina are seen in the process, as the girl is turning and twisting it’s fine with me, but to target the camera on the vaginal area is ruining the scene. There are zillions of other sites focussing on nudity and sex. At a spanking site there is no necessity for this, as I believe.
A very interesting topic, that might be followed by :
“Describe the spanking scene of your dreams”.
But I’m afraid that could become the longest topic ever…
((((Hugs)))) Funbun
January 12th, 2010 - 3:47 pm
High *expletive censored* heels on female spankers. OK very occasionally a scene may need these but usually they are not necessary and for me very unwanted.
So shall we watch the beautiful poetry in motion that is an experienced female spanker doing a stand up delivery or shall we make her look like she has had her feet set in concrete by making her wear 5 inch nails?
Prefectdt
January 12th, 2010 - 4:15 pm
This is very interesting. For me, there’s been a big element of evolution. When I started out, I was very much focused on pure disciplinary spankings, intended to be “for your own good”. Any suggestion of unfairness, or even any sexual element, was a turnoff. But I kept meeting girls who were interested in things I thought I didn’t like, and it expanded my horizons. These days I can role-play quite unpleasant characters and enjoy it
.
There are still some things that bother me, though. I don’t like a top to shout or get angry. I don’t like a girl to be punished for being stupid, or fat, or thin: for me, punishment scenes should be about what you have done, not who you are.
Hugs,
HH
January 12th, 2010 - 6:45 pm
Screaming from a spankee is something I don’t care for. If it seems like torture, I just want to turn away.
Not a fan of tattoos on a spankee.
Meanness from the spanker. They are role models after all and should be respectful.
When a scene has no wrap up and ends with spanks continuing.
Most of all:
Lack of dialogue. I want to hear banter mixed with scolding and I certainly need to know WHY the spankee is being punished.
January 12th, 2010 - 10:12 pm
The biggest turnoff for me is a spanking that is abusive and/or lacks caring for the spankee. Yes, a spanking should hurt, but I really don’t think it needs to go beyond that necessary to prevent a repeat of the behavior… it’s like the cutting off of the hands for stealing.. yes it prevents the crime but it goes farther than necessary.
Cursing by the top is disturbing and disrespectful, as are calling the spankee names or telling her to “shut up”.
Spankees who are supposed to be getting punished but they are grinding on the spanker’s lap.
A lady learns that she is to be spanked and verbally objects but there is no physical objection or resistance…”Oh no what are you DOing?” as she flops herself over her chastiser’s lap… too much of a reminder that the scene is scripted.
Nudity for nudity’s sake (out of context)… in some scenes it really would not happen.
Great topic, Pixie!
January 12th, 2010 - 10:49 pm
It took a while to think of something, because generally I enjoy everything on Punished Brats.
The only turn offs I can think of are:
— jewelry and body piercings (other than earrings)
— a girl wearing jeans or some such is spanked by hand, and starts screaming with the very first slap
— a spanking where the person doing the spanking is leaning awkwardly over some furniture and is barely able to reach the girl he or she is spanking, much spank her properly.
— girls with tattoos used to look weird to me, but I think I’ve gotten used to that.
I used to
January 12th, 2010 - 10:52 pm
PS: We see a huge variety of tastes in this and the previous blog entries. That is one of the things that makes the PB site so good, so I would hate to see you try to avoid everything on every list. I think that the vast, vast majority of your scenes are great, so some variety, even if something I don’t particularly care for comes up is a good thing.
January 13th, 2010 - 2:25 am
My off button is when the scene goes pervy. Any punishment scene where the spanker stops and starts rubbing and making inappropriate arousal comments and sounds. Smacks of molestation and that creepy person everyone knows to avoid.
Also, zombie spankees in videos. If she is trying to be stoic, I at least want to see her struggle to keep quiet with a grimace or two.
Tattoos and piercings aren’t a problem unless they’re on a spankee who is being portrayed as an innocent and ignored when exposed. Of course, after a certain number or in certain locations, innocence is lost.
January 13th, 2010 - 8:03 am
Yelling by the spanker. Being stern is different than being obnoxious or mean.
Leaving marks that almost look bloody or are far too excessive.
Too much resistance/whining by the spankee. Eventually she must submit for her punishment.
January 13th, 2010 - 8:20 am
wow pixie that hairbrush slammed down on your bottie didnt it ,in your latest vid ,we have had more snow here have been feeding the birds in the garden and taking the ice off birdbaths to help them ,love and spanks from tim xxxxxx
January 13th, 2010 - 8:44 am
I agree with all of your comments, Pixie. And like you predicted there are some differences of opinion above. I can only add that HONESTY in info given and exchanged is absolutely neccesary and COMPLIANCE with safewords, limits and process are absolutely neccesary or they become a BIG TURN-OFF.
I guess you could add …..
Finding the spankee’s name on the local sex offender’s list or failing a background check due to pending investigation into the disapearance of previous wifes and girlfriends.
(That SHOULD be funny but it’s not!!!)
Even lightning shooting out (lol) is a turn-on for me if done with respect for the spankee!!!
Another great topic, Pixie!!
Huggs,
Linde
January 13th, 2010 - 8:47 am
Correction to above … Make that finding the SPANKER’S name on the local sex offenders list … although I guess it could go both ways.
Linde
January 13th, 2010 - 8:04 pm
My main turn offs are a spankee:
i. with tattoos;
ii. who swears;
iii. who is clearly untroubled by the spanking or who is actually enjoying it;
iv. who keeps her panties on (even if it’s only a thong);
v. who is not, in the end, completely repentent.
January 13th, 2010 - 8:16 pm
Mike Cane
I am from England now living in the states.yes i like the cane.
my off buttons
caning some one till they bleed.
hearing some scream.
forced spanking
Mike Cane
January 13th, 2010 - 8:45 pm
A few of my turn-offs:
-large, obtrusive tattoos on a spankee
-demeaning language from the top towards the spankee (bitch, slut, stupid). I much prefer to hear words like naughty, bratty, bad girl, etc.
-scenes where the spankee overreacts to a fake love-tap spanking and thrashes wildly while screaming like a banshee; almost as bad is the spankee who lays there like a dead fish and doesn’t react at all no matter how severe the spanking
-any punishment that draws blood
Great topic, Pixie!
January 16th, 2010 - 12:27 am
Two things I hate to see. First, a bottom being allowed to argue with a top. Someone being spanked should be submissive and saying “yes, sir” and “I won’t do it again”, and that’s about all! No backtalk, no complaining, no having to be told five time to say their line. When disciplinarians allow their spankees to do this, it drives me crazy! The spanking is obviously not having a proper effect!
The second thing I hate to see is, when a model keeps throwing her long hair back so we can see her face. It completely ruins the scene for me, makes it unreal. It reminds me she’s doing the whole thing for the camera. Tying it back in a ponytail would solve the problem. Please, give those girls a scrunchie!
January 17th, 2010 - 1:16 am
I can’t stand the bloody cane photos etc. That’s going waaaaaaay too far.
When it comes to you Pixie, there’s an image thing happening. Sure spankings can be painful but I don’t think anyone who follows your blog or PB wants to see you hurt behind reason. There’s a real likeability going on and I don’t think a sense of fun ruins the reality of Veronica or anyone else giving you what for. Your birthday spanking of a year or so ago is an example of a painful Pixie using a sense of humor and still getting across of the brush etc.
The way to make the abusers, fake or real, go away is to ignore them. Don’t subscibe to them or buy anything they have to offer. If someone agrees to that on their own with a dom etc., then that’s their individual problem.
For myself I don’t mind a good belt or tawse but something that can leave permanent marks is going too far. One way of causing maximum sting with a belt is to fold it over and let a single strap hamg down. You have to feel that single strap to know what I mean.
Oh, I hate the patty cake type spanking or an overdose of foul language. It doesn’t add to the reality and at least to me, is a real turnoff.
January 17th, 2010 - 2:15 am
I was wondering if you were going to post this follow-up topic, and was considering suggesting it! Great minds, of course.
I agree with pretty much all of yours, Pix. Scolding is fine, but verbal abuse of any sort is a huge turn-off. I hate hearing the words “bitch” or “slut” being directed at the spankee. I also don’t like scenes that mix spanking with sexual activity or sexual talk.
A few more:
Excessive modesty: Embarrassment at the bottom-baring is just fine, but not humiliation. I like the spankee to feel enough comfort and trust with the spanker that this is not the number-one issue.
Undeserved or mean-spirited spankings: Anything were the spanker does not seem to have the spankee’s well-being at heart, or is openly enjoying giving the punishment (satisfaction at a brat’s comeuppance is one thing; reveling in inflicting the pain is another). I don’t like the spankee to feel demoralized or “broken” after the spanking, and I don’t like when the “crime” motivating the punishment is something I don’t believe anyone should really punished for (e.g., masturbation).
Excessive struggling: Kicking and wriggling are great, but I don’t like it when the spankee is truly making a physical effort to make an escape — and the spanker is therefore exerting effort to prevent that. Restraint by anything other than human hands (or perhaps a leg) is a turn-off for me.
“Private parts”: I’m not squeamish about the human body, and inadvertent glimpses are just fine; however, I don’t like when the camera seems to seek out and linger on the spankee’s exposed anus and / or genitals.
Age issues: The spanker seems too young for the scene, or the spankee seems too old.
Strapping or caning on the hands.
Mouth-soaping: This is the only one on my list that I’ve ever seen show up in Punished Brats, and it honestly doesn’t repel me, so much as bring my interest in a scene to a screeching halt (and my thumb to the fast-forward button). I would never complain that it’s included in a few PB scenes (including one of my absolute favorites, “Get It Over With”), but would not be thrilled if were to become a major recurring theme.
Some have mentioned not liking complete nudity on the spankee. While I agree that the bare bottom, framed by clothing, is most aesthetically pleasing, I think mixing in the *occasional* fully nude spanking — especially when it makes sense for the scene — can be a rather exciting change of pace.
January 18th, 2010 - 12:54 pm
Ok, Pixie, my friend, since I made the suggestion, guess I oughtta post my turn-offs. I tend to agree with all of yours, dear girl, plus a few others, to whit: extremely severe punishment( that’s why caning turns me off) , also the spankee acting bored, too much struggling, mean-spiritedness, too much attention paid to the genitals, anus, etc. (a brief flash is ok,tho) I think making the spankee take off all thir clothes is phony. if it were a bath/shower scene, that’s a different story!!! all I can think of right now,lol Lee
January 19th, 2010 - 8:52 am
It’s nice to support the majority
My “off buttons” which are hit most often are:
- tattoos (sorry, no exceptions)
- any spanking which is too harsh, aka beating (“violence button”)
- mechanical spanking or motionless spankee
- yelling by the spanker
- any disrespect for the spankee’s body, meaning remarks on weight or focussing on parts which are not spankable
- spankee’s face covered by her hair
- wrong environment (a living room is not a room of a school etc)
January 20th, 2010 - 5:52 pm
What can ruin a spanking for me is…..
-total nudity (sorry but I stop at bear butts–and CAN’T stand it when the men strip to spank the girls)
-sex (glad PB has none….and I don’t want to do any EVER)
-screaming (if I have to turn the volume down then it bugs me)
-overacting/underacting….either spanker/spankee knows how to act and give/take a spanking or they don’t
-foul language
-torture (spanking should be to teach a lesson not draw blood and really “hurt” someone–so no whips, gags, torture devices, etc)
-underdone spanking (by this I mean the spankee is being a brat and the spanker isn’t really trying)
-too much talking….OK I get there are conversations set up but get to the point and the spanking….I don’t want to watch a discussion for 10 minutes, I want to see a model spanked
-any “real violence” (unsafe hair pulling, beating, punching, disrespect, etc)
-no compassion–a model acts like a brat and gets her butt spanked/paddled/blistered (fingers crossed for me one day) but when all is said and done they should be made to feel safe and cared for (in most every case–but not all of them….not right away anyway). When I do find a partner I want them to spank me when I deserve it BECAUSE they love/care about me. Being shown a little compassion after is what should happen, not just threatening to increase the spanking next time, or ordering them harshly to get back to work. Again NO SEX, but a hug/cuddle would sure make me feel better then being yelled at.
-rudeness/yelling from either spanker or spankee–respect should ALWAYS be shown/given
-models always swinging their hand back–I get it it hurts, but it’s a punishment, it’s supposed to hurt. Their hand should be held behind their back/smacked not pushed away.
-No penalties–models should be given extra strokes for misconduct. Saying “get back in position” and not adding one or two extra strokes doesn’t seem to get the message across. You tell a kid not to play in the road, they do it anyway. They get punished for it, they don’t do it agian……(catch my painful drift?)
January 23rd, 2010 - 12:40 pm
The BIGGEST turn off for me is to see a man as bottom. Yike! Especially one with a huge bum. Sorry but there’s no vulnerability there in the picture whatsoever. I don’t care who the spanker is – maybe it’s a mother figure at least I will not vomit, but a younger woman or man, uhggggggggggg. You get the jist.
January 29th, 2010 - 11:21 pm
Turn offs for me:
I generally like playing the role of the naughty school girl so I don’t like these things:
-Nudity in spanking
-Bare bottom corner time
-Tattoos on schoolgirls
-schoolgirl uniforms that are clearly NOT real. (stilettos, ultra mini skirts, massive cleavage)
-spankings that go on forever there should really be no more than 15 or 20 swats max. anything more just totally takes away from any hint of realism.
-scenes that don’t build up at all, just go right to the spanking.
The reason for all of that is that again, it totally takes away from the realism. No teacher or parent would ever spank someone bare. I like cornertime imagry but no teacher or parent would ever make someone stand in the corner naked, or with their bare butt on display. So don’t do that. No parent or teacher would deliver something crazy like 150 swats to someone.
I guess I like the emotional aspects of the spanking that occur before the actual spanking itself. I wish more scenes would draw that part out a lot longer.
January 31st, 2010 - 7:07 am
I only have a few off buttons myself. One is excessive cursing from the spanker or spankee. Maybe one or two swears from the spanker to emphasize their anger, or have one slip out of the spankee’s mouth, especially if that is what they’re being spanked for in the first place. Another is overacting. While I realize that in a spanking clip the participants are acting out a scene, the spankee shouldn’t act as though they’re being murdered. And the spanker doesn’t need to act as though they’re trying to murder someone. My third is when the spanker gives the spankee a wedgie to get at bare cheeks. Pull the panties down, you lazy bum! Or make the spankee pull them down, one of the two. Yet another is when a spanker/ee is clearly enjoying it WAY too much, and it’s not an erotic scene. And while I like most implements, I am not fond of the cane, though I confess to not really knowing why. And lastly, excessive marking, which may explain my distaste for the cane. I’ve seen way too many clips and pics where a cane was used, and it left angry, deep welts. A red sore bottom is a must of course, but there’s no need for potential scarring. Well, that’s my two cents anyhow
January 31st, 2010 - 7:41 am
One last off button for me. Excessive struggling, as well as the inability to control a struggling spankee