I attended the SSNY party on Saturday and had such a great time. I’m afraid I don’t have photos to share though as I chose to leave my camera at home this time around for various reasons. I did pose with Sarah Gregory for a few of her photos though so maybe you’ll see them if she chooses to post them on her blog.
This was the first time I’ve had the chance to attend a spanking party without also vending and I was looking forward to having more time to mingle and play and fly under the radar so to speak. It was tricky at first not having a table to distract me. As I looked out into the room of others who’d just arrived, they were either chatting in small groups or assessing the room and getting acclimated themselves. My social anxiety kicked into high gear. I clung desperately to my friends Richard Windsor and Emily as we all looked for other familiar faces to say hello to.
Soon enough the tension began to ease as other attendees came up to say hello and I got to engage in easy flowing conversation. I’m very thankful to everyone who did because I am only too happy to chat, but I’m terribly afraid to be the first to say hi. That is something I really need to work on because I know that I can’t be the only one that struggles with such anxiety and perhaps others are standing by hoping that I’ll be kind enough to make the first move.
In addition to chatting, I had the pleasure of getting to play a few times throughout the night. A couple of the spankings were friendly straight to the point over the knee sessions with a little small chat and smiles in between ouches. The others incorporated role play including one session which went remarkably well and went on for nearly an hour I think! It can always be a bit of hit or miss (no pun intended) when playing with people you may have only met moments before or chatted with a few times online, but things went very smoothly.
I think all the spankers must have been packing their A game because I was incredibly sore by only 9:30. I’m not sure how much more super firm spanking I would have been able to engage in, but you know I would have kept going if only I didn’t have to head out early. 
Next time I’m going to make sure that I don’t have to miss out on half the fun because it really was a shame to have to leave just as things got started!
Still, I was in attendance for two and a half hours and I’m shocked at how quickly the time flew by. Party time always does. Excitement, panic, joy, discomfort, anxiety, disappointment, relief, regret and more are all experienced practically all at once. It’s a wild ride of emotions and total sensory overload that it takes a while to process it days later.
I don’t think I’m experiencing post party drop so much as post party guilt. I feel badly about having to leave early and for missing out on the opportunity to play with or even chat fully with some people I’d promised to catch up with at some point. I know it probably happens more often than not no matter how long you stay as it’s hard to connect with everyone in only a few hours when we’re all pulled in a million directions at once. I’m already looking forward to the next SSNY party and I plan to redouble my efforts to meet up with those I missed this time around including Mike who has a little matter to discuss with me and Richard Windsor who ratted me out to Mike. 
I’m not sure what party etiquette dictates, but is it appropriate to attend and make it a priority to meet with those I may have missed seeing last time?
I normally don’t mark that much after spankings these days, so imagine my surprise when I discovered that I had speckled bruising on my cheeks the next morning. I told you the spankers were on their A game! I tried to elicit sympathy from my husband by hiking up my shorts and showing him the marks. He responded by landing a solid smack on my already sore bottom and said I no doubt deserved it. Hmph!
Big thanks to Jules and Mike for putting together another wonderful gathering. I look forward to next time!
July 14th, 2009 - 9:50 pm
Pixie,
I’m sorry you had to leave early, too. I bet you were the prettiest one there!
Glad you had a nice time.
July 14th, 2009 - 10:52 pm
It was so nice seeing you again
I am glad you had been able to make it, even if you had to leave early!
Next time, we’ll catch up!
And party etiquette? You can make whoever you want, your priority
July 14th, 2009 - 10:53 pm
Hi Pixie!
Wow, you are marked; you poor thing! I hope you heal up soon. Are you doing anything for your sore bumbee (bottom)?
It does bother me a little to see you with a bruised behind! Did you go over the top?
I guess I’m a little behind the times. (Pun not intended, of course.) I can see attending a spanking party if I were single, but I wouldn’t do it as a married person. Come to think of it, I would have trouble doing it at all, and I like spanking! Boy am I really a wacko!
I don’t know what to say about your social anxiety. You have nothing to be shy about. Believe me! Maybe you can desensitize yourself by getting involved in pet projects (pun not intended) in which you find yourself giving informal talks to others about the care and feeding of little critters, or perhaps about how others can find good homes for dogs and cats who are kept at local shelters.
July 14th, 2009 - 11:37 pm
Thanks pixie for the kind words, I’m very happy you were able to attend. I would also like to thank Richard for the ammo, but I think i have some of my own now with what I learned at the end of our party!!!! I’m so looking forward to SEEING you next time……..Bye for now,
Mike
July 15th, 2009 - 12:01 am
Hi Pixie,
I’ve always wanted to visit NY. (lol) I tell people it is to see the Statue of Liberty, a play on Broadway or Times Square. But actually I just want to attend one of the SSNY parties and meet you. Since Angel and I are no longer an “item” I would have to find someone to go with me since I’m sure there are plenty of people who would want to “discuss” my going alone when I got back if I were to do so. I do have a special friend who I have written you about that I might be able to talk into going with me but we would have to do some serious planning to both take some time off at the same time. But, who knows. I am afraid I too, would be hesitant to approach you and start a conversation. I’m sure you are surrounded by countless fans and friends … but I would do my best to at least say “Hi”.
It does appear that whoever was lucky enough to play with you wasn’t messing around. That’s my kind of party!! LOL
Glad you were able to attend the party even if your time was cut short.
Linde
July 15th, 2009 - 12:07 am
In regards to party etiquette, I have found that it is nearly impossible to play with everyone that you want to play with at a party. What I do to combat that is to make sure that I play with the people who I missed out on the previous time/s.
At the most recent party there was two young ladies that I missed out on playing with at the FMS party, I made it my absolute goal that those two would be the first two that I would play with that night. At the next party it will be the same, there is three people that I need to put an extra effort into playing with (Yourself, Jules and Miranda) then if I have time afterwards I will seek others.
I’m sure it is probably a lot tougher for you with the requests, but the way I try and look at it is this. If you played with someone at the previous party, then it is only fair that you are able to say to those people that there was others who missed out the last time. I don’t think anyone would have a problem with that, at least they shouldn’t.
One of the reasons that you and I haven’t played at an SSNY party as of yet is for that very same reason. We have played both on and off camera many times and it is only fair that others get that chance also. I know for a fact that you haven’t made your last trip over my lap, not by a long shot
There is no way that you can please everyone at one 4 hour event, let alone the 2 and a half hours you were there. Everyone also has to understand that you need breaks as well at these parties, one to recover, and two to just socialize and mingle.
July 15th, 2009 - 1:53 am
Pixie–I’ve attended 2 and 3 day events in Chicago with the Crimson Moon group and still come away not having played with everybody I intended to. Heck, right now there’s one lady I can think of–first time we met at a party, we planned on playing, but it didn’t happen. 3 months or so later, a 2nd party, same plans–we still didn’t connect. A 3rd party and a 4th–we still haven’t gotten the chance to play! (That’s right–I’m not talking about hours or day–4 whole PARTIES passed by!) Sometimes, though, it just works out that way–when you’re free, they’re not. They’re free, but you’re not. You’re both free, but one of you just played and needs time to recover–and by the time they’ve recovered, the other one isn’t free again. You just do what you can and go with the flow.
There’s no set party etiquette, as far as I know, so if you want to make it a rule for yourself to next time give priority to the people you missed this time–I say, go right ahead!
Hugs and spanks,
Dr. Ken
July 15th, 2009 - 2:11 am
The parties sound like a good time. I’ve never attended one simply because I don’t know where they are. I’m sure being a novice there’s some etiquette I need to know. I’ve been into spanking for a long time but have never run across anyone who wants to hand one out. I’ve asked a lot of friends over the years but, nothing doing. The good thing is we’re all still friends and if they think I’m weird nothing has ever been said. After the first turn down, which is usually asked for in a light manner, I don’t mention it again. I feel it’s important to respect their likes and dislikes which is probably why the friendships have lasted a long time.
You may remember that thanks to you I had a session with one of the PB stars almost a year ago. Great time, great person. If you and she are any indication of the kind of people at these parties I’ve really been missing something.
July 16th, 2009 - 8:39 am
In recent months I have found myself thinking more and more about these parties, and how very deeply I wish I could attend one. If I could spend a few hours with some nice, friendly, nonjudgmental people, give a few spankings to a few lovely girls, and get one or two good spankings myself, I think the experience would do much to satisfy the longing I’ve been feeling for the last few years now. As I’ve said before, my lifelong fixation has been brought to dynamic reality only a handful of times, with only one person (who has submitted to real disciplinary spankings from me, but has also been willing to spank me in the context of role-play). Sadly, she lives 1000+ miles alway, and has not been able to visit me for over two years.
Logistically, with proper planning, I could get out to NYC and back for one of these events (I live in New England). The real obstacle is the guilt I would feel for even asking my wife if she would mind if I went. It’s not as much about the hand / bare-bottom contact with other women as most vanillas would probably assume; it’s more about the idea of leaving her and our three small children, on a weekend (even for less than 24 hours), and investing the money and the time on something that is 100% self-indulgent. I’m afraid of hurting her feelings, and also of putting her in the position of telling me no (and then possibly feeling guilty herself), or saying yes even though it hurt her. She has known all along about the one mutual-spanking relationship in my life, and been okay with it (yes, I asked her first), to the point of making sure that at some point in each visit, my “niece”-friend and I would have the necessary time in the house alone together.
But that’s different. For whatever reasons, my wife has always felt comfortable with this woman and trusted her from the beginning, and known that her relationship with me was 100% non-romantic and non-sexual. Also, this woman wasn’t flying up to visit us just for spankings. The idea of my traveling out of state, for the sole purpose of attending a spanking party with a bunch of strangers, just seems like a very different matter.
The other, lesser issue for me would be overcoming the emotional flashbacks my own social past, and fearing rejection. How much would it suck, to take a four-hour bus ride to a spanking party, and have not one girl there be willing to spank me, or let me spank her? From what I hear, I guess that worry is pretty irrational — and without the much greater issue I already described I would definitely overcome this one.
Still, Pixie, if I ever did allow myself to attend a spanking party, I would want it to be one that you were attending as well. I would be one of those people waiting and hoping for a chance to go over and introduce myself, maybe chat for a few minutes … and who knows? I don’t know if I could get up the courage to ask if you’d like to over my knee, any more than 22 years ago I could have gone up to the most beautiful, popular girl at the prom and asked her if she wanted to dance!
July 16th, 2009 - 6:06 pm
Jeff,
Please excuse my intrusion, but have you considered inviting your wife to be part of your spanking world as a spanker, spankee, or both?
July 17th, 2009 - 3:06 am
Poor Pixie! Kisses better.
But I can’t blame your hubby, give a spanko a target, and they’re bound to react! I know I would, given half a chance (or cheek).
It’s always frustrating having to leave a party early; I’ve worked nights doing security, so have had to leave several lively shindigs to go and keep the ninjas away.
As for party etiquette, it would be a mark of great consideration and gentility to mark your card in advance with those who couldn’t mark your bottom beforehand (or backhand), and failure to do so could be an interesting and original idea for PB?
A shame about no pictures, but our loss is some lucky spanko’s, as well as your, gain. Still, gives me an excuse to check the lovely Miss Gregory’s website (like I need one). Hope you have a nice soft cushion handy for the next few days!
July 17th, 2009 - 1:37 pm
Pixie i havent commented fora few days as i had to get a new wireless router for the laptop so missed you cutie ,glad you had a spanking good time at the party wow you had a sore behind at the end lol. .nice to have young Erica back and young lavender also big spanks for both of the minxs lol . love and spanks from tim xxxx
July 17th, 2009 - 6:31 pm
Old Erica here. Pixie, I know you know I have the same sort of social anxiety at parties, even spanking ones where I feel most in my element. I think you may be surprised with just how many share this with you. Acknowledging it and accepting it go a long way toward dealing with it.
I’m surprised that the event was only four hours. I know I’d feel a whole lot of pressure in that short a time, to cram as much as I could into it. Party etiquette? You’re the last one who has to give that a second thought, honey. I don’t think you could offend anyone if you tried. The vote is unanimous — people like you and think a great deal of you.
July 17th, 2009 - 11:37 pm
Yeah, you wave a freshly spanked bottom at me, I would give it a well deserved whack as well. And maybe more, especially if you partied without me.
July 18th, 2009 - 1:17 am
I am glad to hear that you had a great time, but I tell you that you have more courage than I do. I would be a nervous wreak at a spanking party.
July 18th, 2009 - 1:55 am
Hi Pixie,
Just wanted to say it was really good chatting with you at the party, even briefly.
I also really appreciate your candor talking about the social anxiety that I think all of us do or can feel at parties. You’re certainly not alone there and it’s really to your credit that whatever you feel your presence is always such a warm one in public.
Also, remember, no matter what social anxiety you might feel, it’s at least matched by the nervousness so many other smart, interesting people may feel who’d love to come up and talk to you but are afraid of looking like a fool themselves! Yeah, people are funnny…
Look forward to seeing you at the next SSNY.
July 18th, 2009 - 5:40 pm
Dani – Next time I certainly hope to stay the whole time. Even if I couldn’t play much more, it would have been nice to just chat.
Marie – Great to see you too!!! We definitely need to catch up. I know it can be so hard when we’re both going in a zillion directions, but surely we can sneak off and chat for a few minutes.
Annapurna – I haven’t done anything special to try to heal up my bottom. Just a bit of time will take care of the very minor bruising. Of course continuing to get a few passing swats here and there probably isn’t speeding things along!
So many people attend parties that are married, either coming with their spouses or on their own, but I can understand your hesitation.
I’ve always been shy and no matter what the gathering, I am a nervous wreck. But actually, attending spanking parties really helps me break out of my shell a bit.
Mike – Eeep! I’m now desperately trying to figure out what it is I might be in trouble for. And having to wait months o find out and receive my comeuppance? Not faaaaaiiiiiir.
Linde – It would be fantastic if you were able to make a trip up to NYC. See the sights, enjoy great food, and attend the SSNY party.
I know it would take a bit of coordination, but I hope that you’ll seriously consider it. If you were to come, I’m sure we would chat about it ahead of time and I’d certainly keep an eye out for you to say hi … as long as you weren’t about to be spanked for some naughtiness at the time!
Richard – There are a few people that I really, really want to play with or at the very least have some time to talk with – people that I completely missed out on at this party or may have promised to catch up with and then never managed to connect with before I had to leave. I want to make good on my promises and also have an enjoyable time in playing / meeting with people I am friendly with, but I worry that in doing so, I’ll come off snooty if I show up to a party with intentions of who I might play with already determined. Ah, I know, I’m a worry wart! Spank me for it.
Dr. Ken – that’s very reassuring and since you are a regular party. I think I will make it my absolute priority to meet up with those that I didn’t get a chance to last time and I will hope that I’ll still have a chance to play with others that ask a little later in the evening.
Joe – The parties are fantastic and there are lots of wonderful people that attend. I’d say, definitely consider coming to one of the parties if you can. You can learn more about SSNY by visiting their website which is linked under Finding Pixie. Also, is there any chance you might meet up with my PB friend again?
Jeff – That is certainly a difficult position to be in. Annapurna makes an interesting suggestion of bringing your wife along. However, while I’m sure she would be treated very well and hopefully have an enjoyable time chatting with other attendees of the party, I can understand that it may not be comfortable for her if she is not into spanking herself. I’m not sure if maybe making a weekend getaway to NYC might be a possibility for the two of you in combination with attending the party. Again, just a thought, but I completely acknowledge the fact that having small children can make things much more complex. I only thought it might be a possibility as your wife was very understanding of your one spanking relationship, albeit a very different situation.
I think most of the attendees have a fear of rejection and the unknown. If you are going to attend any of the many wonderful spanking parties that are held across the country, I’d recommend trying to get to know others that are planning on going as well before the event. Network a little, join in on chat groups, and post on the forums to meet attendees online first. That way you’ll have a few people to look forward to meeting up with when you arrive. Certainly if we were to attend the same party, I’d be more than happy to meet with you.
D – Yes, it was a bummer to have to leave early, but it was a fair compromise. My husband had been called in to work the next day and even as it was in leaving at 9:30, we didn’t get home until 1:00am!
I am leaning more and more towards marking my card in advance as you say and making it a priority to meet up with those that I had made promises to in advance. I want to do my best to keep my promises!
I’m not sure if I’ll bring my camera the next time or leave it home again. I miss not having any photos to share, but it was nice having one less thing to carry and worry about. Also, since I didn’t have a promo/vendor’s table this time, I wasn’t sure if cameras were welcome or not since other attendees’ privacy is very important.
Tim – Hope your internet issues are all resolved now.
I had a wonderful time at the party! Thanks.
Erica – It’s actually really comforting to know that others struggle with the same sort of worries and anxiety. I’m often surprised to hear who feels the same way especially when outwardly they are presenting themselves as being full of confidence.
I’ve found that attending these parties are pretty helpful in giving me a relatively safe opportunity to push myself to be more outgoing. It’s good practice for when I have to attend somewhat less fun large vanilla gatherings.
Redchief – What if I waved an unspanked bottom at you? Would you still give me a whack?
Schwarz – Well, if ever we were to be at the same party we could meet, exchange panicked expressions, and then I’m sure we’d fall into easy flowing conversation. It wouldn’t be too bad. I promise.
Max – It was great to see you too and have the chance to talk a bit. Thank you for saying hello to me as I stood nervously at the door! It’s always a pleasure to chat with someone so friendly. I hope to see you at the next party as well.
July 20th, 2009 - 2:30 am
Annapurna, I appreciate your question. I thought about including this in my earlier post, but felt it was already getting too wordy. Since you ask, though … well, I don’t know how well I can really explain it. My wife is the person in this world to whom I feel closest (as she should be), yet in the area of spanking, beyond the occasional playful swat, I would not feel comfortable either giving her a real spanking, or accepting one from her – and I am pretty sure she would feel the same. I just wouldn’t be able to enjoy the dynamic, from the top or the the bottom. Issues from her own life history, as well as from some of the ways we interact as a couple, would somehow get in the way. Thank you, though, for caring enough to ask.
Pixie, I really appreciate your thoughtful response – thank you!! Of any scenario I can imagine, the one of including a spanking party for me in the context of a larger trip seems the closest to possibly being doable. Thanks also for the confidence-booster, if I ever do have the pleasure of meeting you somewhere!