In corresponding with a gentleman the other day, he mentioned the majority of women into spanking that he’s spoken with can cite a particular incident from childhood that sparked their interest. It might have been something such as a reference on TV, witnessing a friend getting spanked, or having been spanked themselves. He wanted to know what my “exposure moment” was - what was it that caused me to develop my interest in spanking.
Although I can recall a few incidents that stand out clearly to this day, I’m not sure there was any particular one that made me become interested in spanking. I’ve always thought that I had an inherent fascination with spanking and so when I stumbled across a related reference, I took note; not the other way around. It’s a matter of chicken and the egg, I suppose. No real way to tell which came first, the exposure or the interest.
I have heard accounts from other spanking enthusiasts in which they can recall the exact incident (whether it’s in childhood or later) that it all clicked for them. Still others that said they feel they were born a spanko. What was your experience? Do you think you were born with the interest or do you think it’s something that develops over time and exposure?
June 22nd, 2009 - 10:56 am
I am with you, Pixie. I’ve always felt my interest in spanking was innate. Incidents and spanking references that caught my attention as I was growing up only did so because of my pre-existing interest. It can work the other way as well. I know a woman who had no interest in spanking until she was in her late 20′s. According to her, that was when she stumbled across a spanking site on her computer and she was hooked.
June 22nd, 2009 - 11:36 am
hi punkin,
didn’t u do this question a few weeks [maybe more] ago??
seemes 2 me i remember telling u about seeing my friend amy [names changed 2 protect the innocent] spanked 4 biting me when we were both in strollers.
that goes so far back that i might say the interest has always been there.
4 some it is latent & 4 many perhaps a single event like a film spanking, or comming accross a spanking web site, might trigger an active interest.
with my beloved kelly it was my asking if she had ever heard of or considered consensual spanking. she hadn’t but she said she would try anything once. so after 2 weeks of my protesting that she didn’t have 2 do anything she wasn’t comfortable with she got her 1st adult spanking. after it was over i asked her how she felt and she said “it was kind of exiting”. we were going out shopping the next day & she had some chores around the house she wanted help with. as we talked about our plans she said “& don’t forget we have 2 block out 20 min. 4 my spanking, ooops, i don’t believe i just said that”!!! she never ever looked back.
i hope ur feeling better. good luck on the upcomming shoot!!!
cheezecake 4 ever,
ddon
June 22nd, 2009 - 12:08 pm
You are right ddon in that I brought up a similar question in asking readers about their first experience. But I was wondering in this case if you feel that the interest came first or the exposure. What do you think?
Btw, the shoot happened already. It was Saturday.
It went really well!! Got some great stuff.
June 22nd, 2009 - 12:19 pm
Hello Pixie,
First of all, the chicken came first
Secondly, I do believe all of a person desires are determined from birth and our interest are then spurred on by something. I mean if you were not born with the desire, when one is exposed to it it wouldn’t interest you. At least that is how I see it.
I mean I feel I was born with it and then when I saw that report on 20/20 about spanking I couldn’t stop dreaming about spanking since, and when that girl said “You’ll have to spank me” I really got into it.
Cheers,
Drew Gray
June 22nd, 2009 - 2:02 pm
Pixie,
Although I respect the opinions of others here, I just would like this to be a private thing between us.
I feel I sometimes have the habit of straying off topic in my enthusiasm.
But, I really like the cartoon picture of you that’s new.
I’m glad you’re back safe from your shoot.
“Twinkle, twinkle little star. Pixie stay as nice as you are.”
June 22nd, 2009 - 2:23 pm
ddon, not sure if I deciphered your post correctly or not, but isn’t first spanking experience and knowing of your first interest two separate entities?
I have stated on many occasions, there was nothing about my childhood that would even remotely pique my interest in spanking, quite the reverse actually, I should have been turned off in a heartbeat with what I experienced.
That said though, as long as I can remember I would always turn the pages of the comics that I would get as a kid looking to see if the usual suspects got it that week, which they always seemed to
Any mention a girl would make in the neighborhood about having ‘got it’ at some point instantly drew me to question them. And then there is those ever so rare moments where I saw a girl get it (probably no more than 8-10 times) that hold a special place for me.
I can’t think of a single episode that drew me towards spanking, the thoughts were always there. It is possible that psychologically I would witness these events amongst loving families, and there is just a smidge of a thought that that plays a small part in my interest. Anything that happened to me was anything but loving and I have often thought that maybe I wanted the love that goes along with it. Even then though, I still think the interest was there, though it may have been nurtured a bit seeing other families.
June 22nd, 2009 - 3:38 pm
Definately born with it but god knows how that explains my thing for pyjamas. To be honest its probably not the best thing to dwell on the origins of individual spanking fetish. Just accept it lol.
June 22nd, 2009 - 4:01 pm
I have to admit that I believe I was born that way. As I said in my response to your earlier post, I recall witnessing a spanking when I was very small. I suspect that wasn’t the cause, but simply the trigger that released the spanko within.
Hugs,
Hermione
June 22nd, 2009 - 5:38 pm
This is similar to the question you asked a couple of weeks ago. For me, I was probably born with the gene, but I do remember the incident which sent me rushing to dictionaries, comic books, magazines, movies and interest in others’ experiences. that was in the second grade when a pretty teacher of mine picked up a classmate, put him over one knee and gave him a birthday spanking which I felt in all the familiar places. I don’t, however, think that everyone who is into spanking is born with that gene. I’ve introduced a number of women to spanking who had neither done it before or thought about it before. They just happened to have a very erogenous bottom which enjoyed the stimulation.
June 22nd, 2009 - 6:05 pm
Hi Pixie,
It’s my firm belief that you’re born with it. That it sits in your genes.
Growing up in a very Orthodox village (Spare the rod spoil the child) I witnessed many spankings both at school and at the homes of friends (we ourselves were never spanked) and I recall that such happenings fascinated me a great deal. Pitying the culprit and at the same time getting very excited by seeing a spanking taking place.
Like most of us did, I was looking for story lines, pictures, movies that contained spanking where ever I could and from very early age.
Not a day passed that spanking wasn’t in my mind and it still is (63 now).
So it certainly added to the feelings already in me to see whatever had to do with spanking, but the interest was there since I was born.
Another thing I still cannot explain is that FF spankings fascinates me most. Why..?? No clue. And otk over panties or bare bottom is the most attractive to me. Why..??? No clue… The way we experience our spanking feelings is probably as diverse as mankind itself.
((((Hugs)))) Funbun
June 22nd, 2009 - 7:21 pm
4 pixie & rw, [my most fav online friends]
i wish there was an easy answer 4 this. the memory of my stroller experiance goes back 2 1 yr-2yr’s old. i’m not sure if i really remember it or it was implanted by my mother, who told me the story several times. i do remember just where iy happened. on the sidewalk beside our house opposite the annunciation church. i’m sure mother never mentioned that.
so i’m left with a very early memory, but no idea if it created a spanko.
i learned 2 read, thanks 2 molly cleveland,[her real name] who read 2 me on her lap equally from thornton w. burgess & the national geographic. i was reading [but not always understanding] life, the sat. evening post at a very early age. the post had at least 1 illustration of a spanking i remember but i don’t think that was a trigger.
the one that may have been was in a nat. geo. from the mid 40′s by a female artist who did many depictions of ancient life 4 them.
1 was of ancient rome, a scene of a slave auction, a totaly nude blonde, with her head held down, was on the block. that 1 hit me at 4 years old or so.
don’t know if this was any help.
sometimes i think i take up 2 much of everybodies time.
cheezecake 4 ever,
ddon
June 22nd, 2009 - 10:50 pm
I firmly believe I was born with the itch. I recall as a kid being fascinated with the spanking process especially when others got it. Also, like many of you, I “bedded” down in the stacks at the library looking for spanking references. Educational/school spankings were a favorite library target as I grew up in a district where paddles were used frequently in school. I learned specific parts of the Dewey Decimal System that were more likely than others to contain spanking material. As I grew older, I sought magazines and periodicals that had spanking content. Penthouse letters and Variations mag were favorites. I don’t know that it all clicked at any specific point. Rather, I slowly realized what was going on, and that it was OK in a safe, consensual relationship.
June 23rd, 2009 - 12:16 am
I’d say it’s a large number of things for me. I can recall several different things, but can’t put some of them in chronological order. Here is the thing though.. I’ve talked with spankos that trace things back to some magic moment where their hardwired interest in spanking started. BUT, I think the interest already had to be there.
Here is an example… I have a friend that got caught stealing a sweater with a friend of hers. The friend’s mother came to pick them up. On the ride home she announced both girls would be getting spanked the moment they got in the door. Only once they did get home, the mother changed her mind. She spanked her daughter… soundly and within earshot. But she told my friend (who was about 12 at the time) that she would let her parents spank her.
Only, my friends parents didn’t spank her. In fact, they never spanked her.
She claimed that THIS is what made her a spanko. That this single incident played over and over in her mind and that she wised that she would have been spanked. That she needed to be spanked.
But others no doubt would have gone through the same experience and had a far different story to tell. Might be a ‘dodged the bullet’ story… or a story about a crazy friend’s mother running around threatening to spank her… or maybe even a lesson learned story, but one having nothing to do with a desire to be spanked as a grown woman.
So ~something~ else was there. Or better, I think… many-many other things were there. For some there might be a moment that ties it all together and the interest is realized. But there were other things going on.
And for me… there was no single moment. Just a bunch of things going back as far back as I can remember.
Interesting question,
~Todd
June 23rd, 2009 - 1:44 am
Dear Pixie,
I’m pretty sure that I was born with the spanko gene. It lay dormant for some years until I finally was old enough that everything just clicked into place for me. It’s been a voyage of discovery ever since!
Dr. Ken
June 23rd, 2009 - 4:19 am
I think we are born with a propensity toward spanking, a kind of polymorphous perversity, and we are also conditioned into the role of either spanker or spankee, even if that conditioning is indirect or unconscious. This conditioning can occur in the home or at school or come from society at large.
Genes, by themselves, do no make us spankos the way genes determine how one species of spider weaves its web like no other spider on earth. If nature were the root cause of our spanking behavior, dominate or submissive, we would see a very limited range in that behavior. Yet, we all know that no two people execute a scene in exactly the same way. There may be recognizable spanking themes with which we all recognize and perhaps share, but these themes are malleable and open to considerable interpretation and individualized expression, something genetics would not permit if our need for spanking were solely a product of our biology.
Polymorphous perversity in this context suggests a super sexuality beyond that solely limited to our sexual organs and key erogenous zones with the sole purpose of orgasm and perhaps procreation. It is the capacity for sexual excitation beyond typical (i.e., vanilla) arousal, usually elicited by anatomical features, facial expressions, intonation of speech, touch, smell, and even movement.
The reason an interest in spanking emerges in the polymorphous perverse individual and not something else, like bondage or a foot fetish, is a triggering event, such as the witnessing of a spanking, which lays the foundation for a spanking complex to form in both the conscious and unconscious mind before a triggering event of another kind can lead the individual down an entirely different path. The triggering event needs to occur before the psyche solidifies, after which the likelihood of a spanking complex taking hold diminishes greatly. Once the complex appears, it has the capacity to direct the individual’s attention toward all matters relating to spanking, and the individual may find him- or herself reading about it in the dictionary, searching for spanking themes in popular literature or the mass media, or fixating on the topic should it arise in daily conversation. These behaviors both strengthen and reinforce the spanking complex until it becomes a central part of a person’s character.
However, it is possible to become a spanko without an inherent tendency toward polymorphous perversity. Such individuals emphasize the disciple and punishment side of spanking and may derive little to no sexual satisfaction from it. For these people, spanking serves as a conveyance for the expression of both dominate and submissive character traits while also providing the opportunity to reenact important family of origin object relations (e.g., good and bad parent and good and bad self-object), all of which, of course, is a result of nurture and not nature.
June 23rd, 2009 - 6:15 am
Can’t say that I’m a born spanko, but my first memories of “discovering girls” demonstrated a preference for the ones with firm, full or well rounded bottoms.
After a co-worker in my late twenties suggested a spanking in what I can not figure out was a dare or a trap, the whole spanking kink took root and flourished.
While I did not spank that particular co-worker, I am happy to say I have spanked a few co-workers, and some other well deserving young ladies.
June 23rd, 2009 - 7:27 am
Pixie yes a similar subject well yes i think i have had the spanko gene a long time at primary school we got slapped legs wearing shorts if we were naughty from lady teachers ,also at secondary school my class saw a male teacher put one of my girlfriends across his knees and spanked her she liked it deborah her name pulled her school skirt up showing her white school panties love the word spaNK,saw it in English comic strips ,yes my friend got whached with a broom stick by his noregian mum love and spanks ,tim xxxxps i meant whacked .
June 23rd, 2009 - 10:08 am
Dear Pixie,
I would guess many people are born with it and those who don’t know it eventually find out about this as a result of an experience or gradual development.
As far as I am concerned, growing up in a very conservative area on the south coast of England, UK and going to private school since age 3 to 18 was a massive impact on awakening my spanko “gene” for want of a better word.
School was a massive influence on my spanko interests as corporal punishment was still legal then and I just wanted to be given a good spanking.
I never got “it” though. I reckon the teachers could tell I was a spanko so when I was naughty they deliberately chose a way of making me suffer by not spanking me!
My asperger’s has played a lot in my development as a spanko. I take things very literally and only see things with a very “black and white” interpretation so if say in television or film or a book I would come across a spanking reference like, “He deserves a good whipping” (Tom Sawyer?) My spanko thoughts would come into play usually with me as the recipient.
I hope this helps and that my comment is not offensive in any way. I seem to get into a lot of trouble when I say or write something and people misinterpret it in a way I didn’t mean.
happy spanking!
June 23rd, 2009 - 3:59 pm
I surely don’t know the answer, but I think Annapurna’s explanations maybe make some sense. A “spanko gene” sounds way too simplistic, and there’s no real evidence for it that I know of. To believe we’re “born with it” is much like many beliefs. It’s an easy answer, possibly true to some extent, but not very enlightening. Spanking is complex and means a wide variety of things to the many people who are attracted to it. So I suspect there’s no universal answer that explains how we all end up liking it the ways we like it.
I can remember when I first became aware of being attracted to the idea of spanking as a small child. It wasn’t attached to any spanking experience I know of. I was just laying on the couch and there it was. But just because I don’t know where it came from doesn’t mean I was born with a predisposition to having that specific attraction. And if it was due to a genetic predisposition, what do I know about the complexities involved? How do I know if spankings I got early in life, or saw early in life, didn’t cause some kind of change in me that lead to it? Or could something like that have triggered some physiological process that I was predisposed for?
To imagine we’re born with something like a spanking kink is hard for me to believe. It suggests to me we’re creatures that emerge from the womb hardwired for everything we’ll become. It makes more sense to me that we start with a lot of capabilities, limitations, probabilities and possibilities, and then through experience we learn, grow, and adapt. There are many sides to spanking with an inherent power to attract.
June 23rd, 2009 - 4:03 pm
I’ve got to agree with those who believe that the “spanking gene” is innate. I was spanked very rarely growing up, mostly between 3 and 5 years old, and I’ve been fascinated by it ever since. I’m convinced that I would feel the same fascination had I never been spanked.
Great discussion!
June 23rd, 2009 - 4:42 pm
First off, love the pic! Did you draw it yourself?
Hmm, was I born a spanko?
Quite possibly. As I have said in previous posts, I was attracted from a very early age to the female bottom and various contacts with it, initially pinching and tickling, and, given my upbringing, my concept of justice certainly sharpened my interest into spanking as I became aware of it.
The consensual power exchange is probably the most erotic aspect of it to me, as my favorite movies are those when the spankee seeks punishment either by request, arrangement, or by manipulation of events to the desired conclusion. From a non-erotic viewpoint, a spanking is an equitable and effective resolution to a problem as it is addressed, dealt with and corrected, then moved on from. No recriminations, ‘sore’ feelings or animosity, the air is cleared and all is forgiven. This may tie in with your previous post as you mentioned that although you disliked the pain in a spanking, without it, it didn’t feel genuine.
June 23rd, 2009 - 6:59 pm
Hi Pixie
As I said before I was never spanked when I was growing up, and I
do not think that I would want to be spanked now.(except maybe
by Veronica) My interest seemed to start when I discovered
Punished Brats,I just love to see all you beautiful young ladies
going over Veronica or Davids knee. So I don’t think I am a spanko
as I just like to watch.(for now anyway)It certainly is a very
interesting subject.
Love AK
June 24th, 2009 - 8:28 am
I shall post more later, time permitting. But I wanted to bring up a term recently introduced by another poster.
“polymorphous perversity”
Am I the only poster here who not only scans other materials but also knows that this is a name used by a rock group?
http://poly-p.com/
Are we not only spankos …. but some of us are obsessed with obtaining info/knowledge?
Linde
June 24th, 2009 - 2:31 pm
Dear Pixie,
Which came first, the spanker or the spankee?
Dr. Ken
June 24th, 2009 - 5:05 pm
About Funbun’s post: I wonder if he’s a switch as I am. I, like he, am more turned on by F/F pictures (and artwork) because a. I find women more sexy in either position, and b. I can imagine myself in both positions.
June 24th, 2009 - 10:02 pm
Hi Pixie,
I was a normal boy growing up in a small midwestern town in Illinois and then one day at school I witnessed a female classmate of mine get paddled and my whole life changed and I was never the same.
I wrote about my experience on the forum link below if you’re interested in reading about it.
http://www.worldspankingforum.com/forums/true-accounts/7763-witnessed-school-paddling.html
Thanks,
Will
June 25th, 2009 - 12:55 am
I’m throwing in my lot with the “born with it” crowd — at least, that’s how I truly believe it was for me. The first time I recall becoming AWARE that I had a spanking fascination was when I was about eight, and looking through an old MAD magazine reprint paperback that I had just inherited from a relative. There was a cartoon parody of a Dennis the Menace panel, showing Dennis receiving a sound bare-bottom hairbrush spanking from his father, as the mother looks on with satisfaction (the caption: “If Dennis the Menace had parents with normal patience”). I always kept that book stashed so that I knew exactly where it was, and the spine over time developed a marked crease at that page!
June 25th, 2009 - 5:29 am
Pixie
For Me I would Said over The Times And years exposure Was For Me the spanking intrested. i had wintess a few spankings my cousin had gotten even so i already had intrested in spankings.
i mean when i got older i seen my other cousin the younger one get spanked once i watch my grandma turn one of my female cousin over her knee and spanked her hard casue she was throwing a temper tanturmn and was hitting her older sister hard and rude to my grandma may had hit my grandma so my grandma grab my cousin who was yelling no no while crying guess she knew what was going happen my grandma turn her over her knee and spanked her hard in front of everybody rest my family nobody said a thing about it. my female cousin was just a kid at time her sister was sitting near by watching too
isaw another cousin get spanked casue he was being rude to me and hitting me and he was just a kid these 2 instance i did not have spanking intreste then but it grew later on as i got older
so what iam saying is if i seen my aunt uncle, grandma spanked my cousin or other grandkids didn’t shock or surpise me that much cause i knew how they felt about spanking and believe it. plus they may had done same to me when i was younger
June 25th, 2009 - 6:23 am
Pixie there has been a lot of interest in your latest subjecto childhood spankings which is good .Nyssa received big spanks from David that will teacher lol love and spanks from Tim xxxx
June 25th, 2009 - 8:30 am
Born with it. I remember feeling embarrassed seeing it on TV or in movies when I was younger, but I had a picture book where a bear spanked a doll & I looked at that picture far too much, I was never spanked [parents are old hippies], but I had a friend who was & I was fascinated when she talked about it. She & I were playing at her house once & had Barbies all over the place, her mother told her to pick up & get ready for supper but she gave the classic “I don’t wanna pout-face”. A few moments later her father showed up, stood in the doorway & merely undid his belt. She moved like lightning! I remember thinking what power! That belt was something she wanted no part of.
June 25th, 2009 - 3:51 pm
harry – so you feel that you were born with it too. I always figured if you could be predisposed to enjoy something like baseball or guitar, why not spanking?
ddon – how great that Kelly eventually came around to enjoying spankings so much as to remind you to give her one!
Schwarz – right. A nice combination of nature and nurture.
dani – Sure that’s fine if you prefer to keep somet things private.
Thanks for the compliments on my little anime inspired avatar.
Richard – I am with you about always having the fascination but being turned off by my own experiences. While I certainly have a love for spanking today, I do everything in my power to avoid participating in or viewing any scenes which are too close to my own unpleasant memories.
Paul – I don’t know that we’ll ever figure out the exact origins and I suppose there is no reason to fuss over it. As long as you can enjoy it for what it is, that’s all that really matters. And no matter why the pajamas are an important element for you, I’m glad they are.
Hermione – I suppose we have to be exposed to something in order to realize our interest. I wonder how many other things there are in life that I might have a passion for but just have discovered them yet. I hope there are many things for all of us that we can find over time.
CurtisG – Very interesting that the ladies you knew grew to enjoy spanking with time. They may not have been wired to be a spanko, but their bottoms were (as you mentioned) and perhaps they simply enjoyed making you happy as well.
funbun – There must be some sort of predisposition for the majority of spankos or else everyone in your village would have shared the same passion as you do given the similar exposure. While I think people can learn to enjoy something that isn’t a lifelong passion, there is just somehting that clicks for most of us early on.
mitch – And wasn’t it a big relief to realize that it’s OK and that you are far from alone? I wonder how many other students you went to school with might have frequented the same sections of the library.
Todd – I can’t pinpoint a single incident either which gives me the feeling that it’s always been a interest that was there from the very start. I have many early childhood memories which exhibit the interest having already been formed, but none that stick out as the very first one that got me started.
That is a fascinating tale about your friend. I suppose that some people wouldn’t have even remembered the incident or brushed it off or perhaps even had the excitement of getting away with the misdeed lead to future episodes of shoplifting. I hope the experience has led to many positive things in her adult spanking life … including, perhaps, a spanking from you?!
Dr. Ken – I hope you are loving every minute of the voyage.
Annapurna – Very interesting theories about the development of fetishes. Perhaps that are discovered later in life were cultivated ever so slightly earlier on but just needed a second, larger trigger to reignate the fascination. I do think we have the ability to change who we are over time though. We continue to evolve through the years as our situations and exeriences shape who we are and how we react. Someone who may have at one time been a tried and true submissive may grow to strongly dislike the role and desire to become a dominant (I’m thinking of at least one friend in particular who followed this path).
Redchief – a love of pretty bottoms is a good headstart
tim – Deborah enjoyed her spanking from the teacher? Naughty girl!
Phil – Not offensive or troublesome in any way, Phil! I think your comment was well expressed and I enjoyed the thoughts you shared. I now wonder too if the teachers could tell you were a spanko. Depending on how you acted in trying to get yourself in trouble, perhaps they were concerned about rewarding the bad behavior. But I also think as children we often believe (and in some cases fear) that adults have a magical ability to read our thoughts.
dana – I’d agree with you that pointing solely to a gene is far too simple. There are many elements that shape who we are throughout life. What I find interesting though, is that while many of us can share early childhood memories of looking up the definition of the word spank in the dictionary or being thrilled over a reference on TV, we have very different backgrounds – grew up in different places, may have been spanked or not, may have witnessed a real spanking or not, may have tried to elicite spanking accounts from friends or many have shied away from the topic, and yet at some point, something just clicked. I don’t know that we can ever truly determine how or why we develop the interest that we have when others who were exposed to very similar experiences couldn’t care less about spanking. It’s just something to ponder for but a moment … and then go back to enjoying the interest for what it is.
Dan – No way to ever know for certain, I suppose, but I too think I have the interest in spanking regardless of my own childhood spanking experiences.
D – Thanks! I can’t take credit for drawing the picture. I made it on an anime avatar generator, but I thought it was perfect because it even has my standard curly hair partially occluding my left eye.
The forgiveness after a spanking is very important to me although sometimes when watching a scene, I prefer the spanker to still be strict in leaving the spankee to sort out her emotions on her own rather than transitioning too quickly from tough disciplinarian to huggy consoler.
AK – I think you’d still qualify as a spanko even if you are only interested in being a spectator. I think that would describe a fair number of people in our community.
Linde – I sure didn’t know that it was a rock group, but it very well could just be me that is missing out!
will – Wow! That must have been quite a day for both of you. And how neat that you were able to connect with the girl again and get her to share some of the details of what it was like to be paddled.
Jeff – I keep hearing about references in MAD magazine. I never saw one in there. Clearl I missed out on the really interesting editions!
mikep38 – So for you, spanking was at first so commonplace that it didn’t grab your interest, but then later on when it did, you more clearly recalled the incidents from childhood? Did you feel it developed over time or was something that happened acutely, but just later in life?
karaJ – Wow, what a powerful image! My jaw dropped just reading your account of your friend and her dad.
June 25th, 2009 - 9:10 pm
Pixie,
Sorry I’m late with my reply but wanted to add my 2 cents. I’m with the “born with it people”. I really can’t remember a specific incident where I caught the bug. I didn’t like, enjoy or intentionally do things to cause spanking growing up. I did however become fascinated with the movie “McClintock”, “Blue Hawaii”, “Donovan’s Reef” and several others. I also loved looking at Dot, Little Audry and Richie Rich comics in the hopes of finding them in a predicament that resulted in an OTK panel. I also was able to find a Sept 1975 cover of National Lampoon which I treasure to this day.
But, along in my teen years, after my Mom decided I was too old for my father to spank me himself, something clicked ….. something seemed to have been taken from me that I longed for and missed. Mom took over and continued to give spankings but I rebeled and started doing things I wasn’t supposed to. The worse thing of all is I didn’t like myself and I was frustrated with life. I’m lucky to have made it through that time but I know that whatever someone feels inside … that they have to like who they are and feel good about themselves and what their likes and dislikes are.
Someone once told me, “I’m here because I’m not all there … but those of us on this blog are somehow wired pretty much the same … maybe a different wattage … but still wired the same.
The origin is not as important as the end result we are today. ….
My name is Linde …. and I’m a spanko!!! LOL
June 27th, 2009 - 3:12 pm
I’ve had this fascination for as long as I can remember, definitely before I started school. I had a lot of the same experiences as the others, being startled and delighted at unexpectedly coming across pictures and references in mainstream media. My parent’s had a box of their old (pre-1965) comic books in the attic, very politically incorrect and frequently requisitioned by me as, ehrm, visual aids!
I was born at the end of the 70s and grew up watching wimpy shows like Full House; can you imagine sweet Danny Tanner taking a strap to one of his girls? (It occurs to me that a great spanking surname was completely wasted on him!)
That would make a reunion show worth watching. “DJ and Stephanie take Michelle out for a mimosa on her 21st birthday, and the three sisters tipsily confess they only did all those terrible things to get Uncle Jesse to spank them.”
June 27th, 2009 - 6:56 pm
Forgive me i have not read all comments but this is such a fascinating subject for me,
I think spanking turned me on before i knew about sex (birds&bees sort of thing)
i was wanking on thoughts of spanking way before the idea of sex was even known to me.
i had a fairly strict mum but none of my siblings(as far as i know) have this kink.
July 5th, 2009 - 5:21 pm
Hi Pixie, I would have to say i think you are born with the gene as i remember no episode that shaped my intrest, but i do remember seeing the nursery rhymes, movies and tv shows (made me watch those shows and if there was no spanking in the next few weeks i tired of the show and moved on.) i did grow up in an era where spankings at home were the norm not the exception and it may of shaped me, but i always think i was born with it because i seemed to know more about than i should. Thanks for your question and thank you for showing us you and others otk. Have a great day.
Jim
July 17th, 2009 - 11:40 pm
Pixie,
I think it is definitely something you are born with in most cases, however I know others who say they were introduced to it later in life by a boyfriend or girlfriend. But I think the really true spankos are those who were born with the interest. I know I was born with it. All through my life and starting in early childhood, I was fascinated with everything spanking; the comic book, the story passages, incidents on TV, hearing about spankings, witnessing spankings, seeing paddles, straps, etc all held a fascination and excitement for me, and still do to this day.