Since I have been reading these posts I understand when pixie is over my knees she will not be feeling love pats.

My husband is my spanker, and he’s very concerned for my well-being. He enjoys spanking but I don’t think he really has the fetish. It’s erotic for him, and he occasionally threatens to spank me for some little infraction, but our spankings are just for play. I don’t think he could really punish me, and I don’t think I want him to!

It’s been a fun adventure as we’ve explored this new marital activity. We started out with just a few experimental swats, and moved up to a couple dozen. On my birthday, I wasn’t sure I could take it but he gave me a birthday spanking of a whole 52 smacks. I survived, wow! And wanted more! Then I discovered Pixie’s 400-count spanking for charity on the internet, and realized the sky’s the limit. It’s OK to want more – even LOTS more!

But the question of pain is scary for me. I enjoy what you would call a “lighter spanking” so much that I want it to go on forever. When my husband uses his hand or a ping-pong paddle, the pain is totally tolerable and I just get overwhelmed by the erotic sensation of submission and being spanked. I love trying to look back and see the paddle come down on my bare butt. He usually spanks me over his knee so that we both know he’s in control. I yelp or moan or wriggle and just love every minute of it.

Any yet, a light spanking doesn’t quite satisfy me, like Pixie has described. In my curiosity for “more, more!”, I went and bought a leather paddle. It’s a boudoir-style paddle with a beautiful painted rose, thick but somewhat flexible. Just looking at it gives me butterflies in the stomach. So now my husband uses this most often. (This is always consensual – I let him know which one I’d prefer.)

So how does it feel? It hurts! A moderate whallop with a leather paddle stings and delivers quite an impact. I sqeak with each one. With the paddle, I finally feel like I’m getting a REAL spanking, and I can start to imagine what the girls in the videos go through. I love it almost as much as a lighter spanking. The problem is, I think I have a high pain tolerance. My husband has given me as many as 350 swats with the paddle, 50 at a time with little breathing and check-in breaks. They’ve been moderately hard, I think. He describes his job as “hard work”, and his arm and shoulder get tired. I screech and grunt and kick a lot, but I haven’t cried or even come to tears. Maybe because it’s a play or “fake” spanking, or maybe I’m just emotionally “tough” in this way. I just haven’t turned that corner into the emotional release of crying, and I’m afraid of the kind of beating it would take to get me there!

I’ve read of some women who start crying after just a few smacks, and others who say they don’t cry at all. We’re all different of course. But I wonder, what would it take to get me over that edge, and would it be worth it? Would I have major bruises, and would I be turned off of spanking forever? Any advice from the veterans out there?

(This reminds of a topic suggestion I’ve been meaning to send to you for some time now: How many of us spankos have other bum-related fetishes / fixations / fascinations? For those that do, what are the common factors, if any?)

I hope you feel much better soon, Pixie. May the only pain in your life be the warm glow of a stinging bottom!

Hermione – What you say makes a lot of sense. Pain can be scary. A headache that is most likely going to go away in a few hours is one thing. A toothache where you envision infection setting deeper with every passing minute is something else!

Mitch – Bottom pain is uniquely pleasurable. Sometimes if I’ve done an intense workout or an extra hilly hike and I have a sore glutes the next day, it’s oddly pleasurable because it reminds me of a spanking!

Harry – Hand spankings do offer excellent immediate feedback. And from a bottom’s perspective, it’s kind of nice to know that you really are feeling everything that you dish out and can use that to modify the intensity as needed.

Ddon – yes, I’m interested in seeing what the “real” people say too. Sigh. I need to go plug my robotic self into the wall charger now.

Erica – Thanks, I’m hanging in. Wrapping straps – very bad pain!! High paddling – extremely bad pain!!! A little fear of the good pain can be fun. Fear of the bad pain is downright terrifying.

Scunge – Spanking helps with fibro? Hmmmm. I think we need to perform some investigative research and promote fun spankings as a new health regimen.

I was just chatting with someone yesterday about cherry juice – supposedly it has properties that are very similar to the COX-2 drugs and can be a yummy way to help with pain and inflammation. Just thought I’d pass it along. Perhaps a tasty cherry snack and a warm cherry red bottom can help you when you are having a flare up.

JC – I must have wimpy hands. They sting when I clap too much at a show or concert! You sound like a natural born spanker.

dani – ritual and consent is huge! If someone were to just grab me and start whaling away on my bottom without reason or consent (which unfortunately has happened), there would certainly be no pleasure in that.

Jeoffry – That’s a very wise way of thinking about it – a tool, not the goal.

Lorraine – Submissive is a way more accurate term as compared to masochist in that case! I’m surprised that the spankings don’t hurt the hand more since there are so many nerve endings there.

Annapurna – Meningitis! And not so much as a whimper? You are incredibly stoic.

Dr. Ken – I hope that you are currently keeping your hands in tip-top spanking shape. I’d be happy to help you with your training if ever I had the chance.

Todd – It’s good when spankers exhibit caution rather than trying to swing from the rafters and scaring the spankee away or even causing serious injury. It can be tricky to try to communicate sometimes without spoiling the scene or accidentally insulting the spanker by suggesting the spanking isn’t intense enough.

I think spankers have a really tough job. They have to try to read the needs of the spankee, be firm in tone (or whatever else the spankee might be looking for), have good aim, and endure the hand pain and exertion of delivering a solid spanking. There’s a lot more to your role than just randomly swatting someone’s bottom.

Linde – I’m with you in that it can be a turn off when you get the feeling that the spanker is intent in only causing as much physical damage as possible. I prefer when there is a little more to the act – fun or discipline, I’d hope that there’d be some caring too.

Kyler – Wow!!! That sounds like a very intense first punishment spanking! The capzasin must have kept the burn going for a long time.

Dan – Actually Dan, I think it would have been most appropriate if you had sent me an email on such a matter rather than leaving a comment on my blog that didn’t pertain at all to the post. So rather than go into too much detail in my response here, the simple answer is – because it is my personal preference not to engage in overt frontal nudity and to leave the focus on the more traditional spanking target area, the backside! This is not to say that I have never considered nor am I opposed to possibly doing a fully nude scene in the future, but the primary focus would still be on my bare bottom, not so much on my breasts and my pubic area.

Schwarz – OMG. I literally cringed and made noises of sympathetic anguish in reading about your recent injuries. I definitely wouldn’t want lacerations on my bottom. But for me, even bruises to bruises, I’m far more ok with them appearing on my bottom than on my shins.

Alan – Shoot!! And to think I bought all that catnip scented Mr. Bubble for nothing now.

Dr. Ken – Yes, yes, yes!! The interaction is key to me as well. I’ve tried self-spanking in the past or “phone spanking” where I was instructed by a long-distance spanker to discipline myself. It just didn’t work for me.

Tony – So simply put and yet so accurate.

^Mike – I agree with you that it is how we are wired. I’m not sure I can figure out the exact reason why we might be wired the way we are … and I’m sure there are others out there that would love nothing more than to be tied, flogged, shaved raw, and dipped in lemon juice because that’s they way they are wired. But even if we can’t ever figure out answers to the endless whys, I hope we are successful in the goal of having our needs met safely.

MikeP – Yeah, I think we do tend to forget the pain or at least the intensity of the pain we may experience from a spanking. I think it’s a protective mechanism of the mind. It’s not such a protective mechanism of the bottom though!

Verzeihen Sie mir Sir! Ich habe nicht die Absicht, ziehen in ihr Leben weder verursachen sie eventuell auftretende Beschwerden. Meine deutschen Sprache ist von der Schule. Auch ich bin ein amerikanischer durch Geburt.

My sincere apologies to the rest of the people posting. I did not intend to offend anyone and I guess I’m just a natural BRAT with a tendancy towards curiosity.

i also going to say lot of people who has never been spanked or not get a spanking in long time intend to forget the pain that going be involed with it and are reminded while getting spanked. but have no control to have it stop casue they getting spanking and may had desver it

but if it a fun playing playful spanking and it start to hurt they feel pain then it should stop right there and then.

so all in all if iam getting spanking i may want the pain to be there and i would want the spanking to hurt so i will feel and expereince the pain and try to reember how much pain there is so i don’t have go thru it again lol even so i may forget and have to feel and expereince it all over again. like u and all those punish brat and female spankee has to do