Recently I received an email asking if my resistance to bruising also indicates a similar resistance to pain. Does a spanking hurt less nowadays than it did when I first started out?
While my bottom no longer gets marked as easily as it did when I first began exploring the world of consensual spanking, I haven’t noticed a major difference in how I experience the pain. I’ve always had a decent tolerance and willingness to accept firm punishment, but I feel every bit of the discomfort. Even after many repeated spankings, no protective callous has formed (thank goodness!) and there’s been no deadening of the nerve endings so every swat stings and burns just as it always has. I still have very sensitive days in which only a few playful swats can have me jumping around and wondering how it is that I manage to get through full spanking scenes.
But maybe my tolerance has increased slightly over time. Positive experience brings trust that even an intense spanking delivered by a safe individual will leave me sore but not permanently injured. Feeling safe makes it a tiny bit easier to endure the pain – it’s the difference between taking a ride on a roller coaster after being fully strapped in and secured versus hurling myself off a cliff in a wheelbarrow – one is thrilling, one is downright terrifying. But feeling safe and willing only improves tolerance, not resistance as with the bruising. I may be able to handle the pain better, but it doesn’t physically feel any different.
For those of you that are spanked, have you noticed any changes over time in how firm a spanking you can take? If so, have you found that you’re able to take more while experiencing the same amount of pain or do feel that your sensitivity changes when you are spanked regularly?
May 4th, 2009 - 5:31 pm
I don’t think my tolerance has changed all that much over time. There are times when I can take more and more and more, and others where I am a big baby and can’t take hardly anything at all!
Now, how much I can take greatly depends on my mindset at the time, as well as whether I am being warmed up or not.
I do not mark like I used to, tho. That I do notice.
g.
May 4th, 2009 - 7:24 pm
I don’t mark as easily, but it actually entirely depends on the spanking how badly I bruise, even years later. However, every spanking hurts just as much as it did the first time, I think!
A hard hand spanking can still make me squeal and cause genuine pain, just as a hard strapping or caning can.
Good topic!
May 4th, 2009 - 10:01 pm
Pixie, do you ever get turned on sexually after a gentleman spanks you?
May 5th, 2009 - 12:32 am
You have “decent” tolerance? LOL.
As someone who has seen your first session with Dallas, you are one of the bravest, most durable spankees ever.
I still think that first session with Dallas may just be the worst spanking any girl has ever gotten. I certainly haven’t seen any that asked more of the girl or her backside.
Best – JH
May 5th, 2009 - 2:02 am
Pixie,
Another interesting topic. I always thought (hoped?) that my butt would toughen up over time or a certain number of spankings. But, in actuality it seems to have remained about the same. If spankings are received with little time between it seems the sensitivity is actualy increased …. I guess due to the stimulation of the nerves from the previous spanking. My tolerance seems to have increased slightly but that seems to be more psychological than physical. Bruising may have decreased slightly also but I have always bruised at least a little when a very firm (and they seem to be more and more frequent now …lol) spanking is given. The bruising does seem to heal faster but then I’ve never kept detailed records so there probably hasn’t been much change.
Angel had found a clip on-line from a show called “Manswers” that was talking about the Pudendal nerve and why we enjoy(?) spanking. I would list the link but I’m not sure how to do so, but if you search “manswers” on a search engine and then “spanking” (duhh!!) on the site you should be able to find it.
Thanks for another great topic,
Linde
May 5th, 2009 - 9:50 am
Pixie,
I always like that you include the word ‘consensual’ in your descriptions of spanking experiences.
The appeal of any spanking would be the high degree of trust that is offered. As you say, ‘a safe individual will leave you sore but not permanently injured.’
I very much like that people can choose to respect the limits of someone else. That’s why you call it ‘spanking play’ instead of something that’s meant to be harsh.
To me, the play aspect is such a foundation for every kind of fantasy that goes along with spanking. When you dress as Little Red Riding Hood, for example, I really believe in you, that you really are that for the moment.
It’s all about trust…:)
Fantasies are playful and fun–especially when they involve dear Pixie.
May 5th, 2009 - 12:49 pm
I definitely have noticed Suzy can take a much-much harder spanking now. But, I’d always assumed that was because her pain tolerance had changed. Your point about “feeling safe”… that makes a lot of sense though. Thinking about it like that… that surely has a lot to do with it.
I notice too that Suzy can, at times, take a ~very hard~ “playful” spanking. But, if the same spanking were to be given in a discipline setting… she’d struggle with it. So where the spankee is mentally surely is a big factor.
Lovely pic from PB… and hope the poison ivy is getting better.
~Todd
May 5th, 2009 - 4:11 pm
Hi Pixie,
Guess there’s always a delicate balance between emotional and physical feelings.
A hard emotionless spanking can hurt, but cause “no feel” at all whilst a sensitive spanking full of emotion can cause big tears…
To me spanking never has had to do with hardness. As – to me again – it is not a competition or a challenge “Who smacks the hardest.? Who takes the hardest.?”
A good spanking always should be an “act of love” in which both partners understand each others feelings and needs. That maybe series of frequently repeated spankings or an occasional one.
But ALL spankings need ALWAYS to be “sensitive affairs”. So the buttocks should remain sensitive to even the lightest slap. Isn’t spanking all about “sensing” each other…??
((((Hugs)))) Funbun
May 5th, 2009 - 4:19 pm
It is noticeable how regular players who are blond are harder to mark and recover from their marking very quickly whilst the darker haired, mark more and recover slower.
I have never met anyone who marks like me, after being spanked for so many years, I still mark heavily when taking some but recover at a break neck speed. Only very heavy play with hard (cane or wood) toys leave marks that last till the next morning and even they are usually very faded by then.
Spanking still hurts as much as the first time that I played but hard play is not as scary as it once was, as I know where it will take my mind. As time marches on I find that I am happier playing hard but now have trouble taking a high number of strikes per minute. More and more now I find myself asking for “Harder please Ma’am but not so fast.”.
I was very interested in what you said about feeling safe. It is easy for a male spankee to feel a little jealous towards female spankees, as it is easier for a woman to get play but although I would never get violent with a female top, there are very few who are big and strong enough to stop me if I decide to get up and walk away from a play because I did not feel good about how the top was acting. It just goes to show that the female spankee’s grass isn’t always greener.
Prefectdt
May 5th, 2009 - 6:54 pm
I haven’t noticed any change over time. I have noticed something odd though… I can take far more in a playful spanking than I can in a punishment spanking. Maybe it’s my own guilt… or anticipation… who can say?
May 5th, 2009 - 7:05 pm
Hard to say. I think overall my tolerance is higher than it was when I started out, but there are times when I feel like it isn’t. So much depends on headspace and, like you said, feeling safe. Other factors come into play as well — how long it’s been since I last played, what kind of warmup I receive, etc.
Interesting thing I’ve noticed — my tolerance is highest in front of a camera. The nerves, the excitement and the endorphins combine and I can go on and on.
May 6th, 2009 - 8:30 am
I think that your bottom has already started to turn
to callous deep dnow thats why you dont bruise so much now. In time you will be calloues. If I were you I would stop the Dallas type spankings also I wont do any more caneings. You dont need to do that. Like at your last DVD you cant do a better shoot than that, have to go to many eyes around so have a good day Bye Bye Ed
May 6th, 2009 - 9:36 am
My tolerance has increased over time, and as the spankings became longer and harder. I also have more tolerance to implements that are definitely ouchier once I have experienced them a few times. I guess fear of the unknown makes some implements hurt too much the first time. But after awhile it’s just pain that I’ve come to expect, and can get through it.
Hugs,
Hermione
May 6th, 2009 - 1:38 pm
Pixie, sorry to hear about the Poison Ivy, used to get it as a kid, been many years, thank God. Do you have any pictures of you w/ the calamine lotion on???
Thanks, Randall
May 6th, 2009 - 8:34 pm
Over time, my bottom has definitely become tougher with each spanking and my tolerance for pain has also increased, but it was already somewhat high when I started. That does not mean I want to be canned or whipped. Like anyone, I’m vulnerable and could be beaten senseless, resulting in serious injury or worse if I were to play indiscriminately and if I were to allow myself to be restrained for spanking.
I have noticed, though, that I have a definite spanking tan from repeated play. I’m not too worried about the discoloration, but I have to admit it looks funny in the mirror. However, I’m concerned about causing permanent nerve damage or tissue necrosis from repeated strikes to my backside.
Because of this concern, I now engage in lighter play with my wife. I have had to teach her how to use a full arm motion while breaking the decent of the implement just before impact. The pain is minimal, there’s plenty of noise, and I let fantasy do the rest. Using this method is a wonderful warm up by the way, giving me an opportunity to adjust to the intensity of the session without having to go into shutoff mode. Then it’s quite possible, and desirable for me at least, to take 20 or so hard swats in quick succession for added excitement, but it’s best not to over do it, like allowing one’s bottom to become somewhat swollen from overly vigorous play.
Back-to-back sessions on consecutive days does make the first few spanks smart more, causing my nerve endings to shut down more quickly. There’s less erotic enjoyment too so I try to place a limit around spanking in general so it doesn’t become an obsession.
May 6th, 2009 - 10:43 pm
wow Pixie .. i don’t mark that easily its takes a lot to mark me up
May 7th, 2009 - 3:02 am
Dear Pixie,
As a Spanker, I’ve noticed that if I go too long between sessions of spanking play (such as the months in between spanking parties) my hand and palm will get out of condition. The result is that my palm starts to get sore and–quite literally–it starts to “hurt me more than it does you”. Or if not “more”, than at least just as much.
If I can manage to play on a fairly consistent basis, however, my hand stays conditioned and my palm can spank all weekend long without causing me any problems.
Dr. Ken
May 7th, 2009 - 6:17 am
Pixie i suppose it depends if the bottie of the spankee is sensitive i suppose ,wow beverly did give you a sound whacking with her paddle didnt she cutie did you have to sit on a soft cushion ,sorry to hear that lovely Juliet is not filming at P.B. best wishes Juliet .Pixie love and spanks from tim xxxx
May 7th, 2009 - 10:39 am
Pixie, I find that I’m unable to comment intelligently about your delicious bottom, because you’re the most spankable girl I’ve ever seen.
That’s why my desires tend to get out of control whenever I see you bent across someone’s knee or upended over the edge of a desk, with a strap or paddle blistering your tough hide. You make me glad that I was born a male ; )
Cheers!
SS.
May 7th, 2009 - 9:57 pm
For me it really just depends. I definitely do not bruise as easily as I used to
I have days, like you said, where I can take intense whack after whack, and then days where just a few smacks have me rubbing my bottom in severe pain! Weird. But I guess that’s normal. Almost like my sensitivity/pain levels go up and down?
May 7th, 2009 - 11:06 pm
I hope you do feel safe with anyone you’d allow to spank you these days. You certainly seem like a good judge of character. Really sweet and smart!
May 8th, 2009 - 1:20 pm
Pixie young Nyssa made a lot of fuss over her spanking didnt she ?i got through this time llets hope for the best .love and spanks,tim xxx
May 8th, 2009 - 7:22 pm
ginger – Yup. I’m the same way. It’s amazing how much the mindset and our mood can change what we experience physically.
Marie – There’s something special about a good hard hand spanking too which heightens the experience.
Tom – Well that’s a bit off topic, but to answer your question, it would depend on who the gentleman is and what my relationship with him might be. There’s a big difference between getting spanked by my husband and getting spanked in a M/f scene, possibly by someone I’ve only just met.
JHThree – Dallas is legendary as far as how hard his spankings are but I know that I’m in safe hands. He definitely tests my limits, but knowing that I’m safe and cared for even while getting my buns roasted helps to take the tough discipline.
Linde – How little time is there between spankings that you’d consider frequent? If you don’t have much time to heal up (such as receiving a spanking and a Goody in the same day or even within a couple of days), it’s no wonder your poor bottom is more sensitive! My bottom hurts more and faster if I’ve been spanked a lot in a short period of time such as when I’m on a naughty streak.
If I go a very long period of time without a hard spanking, it seems like it hurts more than too, but it’s probably just because I’ve forgotten what it feels like.
dani – Safe and consensual is so key! Even if the spanking is very hard or done for disciplinary reasons, safety has to come first and limits should always be respected. I’ll get off my soapbox now.
Todd – The mindset makes all the difference between play and discipline! It makes me smile to read that your mutual trust and caring has so clearly made Suzy feel safe and loved.
Funbun – When it gets to the point that the competition for who smacks the hardest is to the detriment of the spankee and his/her safety, that is not cool at all. I dislike heartless and cruel spankings, though I do appreciate strict disciplinary spankings (such as a headmaster/student) as much as one between two emotionally entwined persons. No matter what the relationship between the two players, I am in total agreement with you that it is a sensitive matter that requires much communication and in order to turn out well for both players.
Prefecdt – I’m so envious of your ability to mark and then heal so quickly! Do you heal up fast from accidental bumps as well?
Physical safety is of course of great importance and something I worry about whenever playing or working with someone new, but emotional safety is up there too. I hope you always feel safe and have a positive experience both physically and emotionally with everyone that you choose to play with.
JBaby – Probably a bit of both and more. When I’m in big trouble and about to be spanked for real discipline, I can cry before the first smack is delivered.
Erica – Endorphins are a big help! One of the positive things about having a little stage fright.
ED – Unless I were to seriously increase frequency of severe spankings I don’t think I have to worry about callouses. Wouldn’t want that. I’d hate to give up Dallas style spankings though as a Dallas spanking is more than just severe; it’s real discipline and very cathartic. I only have the chance to see Dallas every once in a blue moon though so my bottom has plenty of time to recover and stay soft.
Hermione – I hadn’t even considered the fear of the unknown, but that is huge!!
Randall – The poison ivy is pretty much gone by now. I never ended up using calamine lotion as I skipped the OTC treatments and went straight to the doctor for Prednisone. Knowing how bad I get it, it’s worth the shot in the butt!
Annapurna – A spanking tan! I used to have that as well when I would regularly engage in very severe discipline within a short period of time. I had tan patches where the skin had broken or worn away and then subsequently healed. I tried using fading cream on them but it did nothing. Thankfully time and longer periods between severe spankings have allowed them to heal fully and go away.
Nerve damage or necrosis is certainly a much more serious matter though I’d hope it would be far less likely to occur. I’m glad that you’ve taken steps to ensure that it never does by modifying your way of playing.
crystal – Have you always marked little? You seem so fair skinned in the photos I’ve seen of you.
Dr. Ken – I was just chatting the other day about how much the spanker can end up just as punished as the spankee. While you can still sit at the end of the day, you probably don’t want to shake hands, hold a pen, or lift weights. Keep that spanking hand in good shape though and if need be, grab a hairbrush if you’re in a pinch.
tim – Beverly did an amazing job of thoroughly smacking my backside with that paddle. It is a bummer that Juliet has left the industry. She’s always welcomed back if she chooses. And yes, Nyssa is great at fussing and crying while still firing bratty comebacks.
Sorry to hear that you were having difficulty with your account. If you should have any questions or need tech assistance, please send an email to PB customer service or CCBill rather than leaving a note in the comments section. You’d need to send information regarding your account that should not be made public in order to troubleshoot effectively (and probably wouldn’t be of much interest for others to read on a blog anyway).
Serial Spanker – Thank you. I’m very flattered. Good to hear from you again.
Roxxy – Isn’t it funny how we pine for the days when our bottoms could bruise easily? As far as sensitivity and pain levels fluctuating, I guess spanking is like nearly anything else in that our reaction to it can vary greatly depending on all of the other surrounding factors.
2Good – I’ve made my share of mistakes though by not taking it slow and safe and other times situations arose that couldn’t necessariy have been foreseen, but I try to be as careful as I can be these days.
May 9th, 2009 - 2:48 am
I suspect that my marking and fast healing ability is related to some prescription drugs, that I have to take daily, for a genetically inherited blood condition. The drugs are designed to lessen blood clotting and pooling and a bruise is a sub dermal blood pool.
Although the rest of my body does not heal as fast as my bottom and back, which are used to taking some, I have noticed that bruises on other parts do tend to disappear faster than those on other people.
Prefectdt
May 10th, 2009 - 6:07 am
Dear Pixie,
Excellent advice, but just remember–if you and I ever get the chance to meet, YOU’RE the one who told me to “grab a hairbrush”….. LOL
Hugs and spanks,
Dr. Ken