just my thots pixie. u have as many facets as a perfect cut 7 carot diamond. & a great blog. if u want my “a tale of two spankings” which covers some of the above, just ask & i’ll email u.
keep up the great work!

as ever
ddon

dani – It’s a night and day between consensual and the non-consensual spanking experiences. I find that writing this blog helps me a lot in working through my own thoughts and feelings about spanking and the feedback that I get here also helps to reassure me that I’m far from alone.

Crystal – I’ve never felt a flogger or a whip. My husband occasionally uses toys like the brush, paddle, or our cat toy riding crops, but usually he uses his hand.

Serial Spanker – In casual conversation with some of the cast members on our site, I know that some do get turned on from spankings in general, but the experience of spanking or being spanked on set in a scene that is not overtly erotic is very different than an intimate spanking between two people privately. There is definite chemistry between some pairings, but with the cameras, lights, crew, and other cast members as well as the desire to maintain a professional demeanor, I don’t think onset outright arousal is as common outside as you might imagine. Again, chemistry between two players does occur and I can think of at least one pairing that I believe would have enjoyed a bit of private time, but even when there is arousal or attraction, the players maintain a professional air on set.

Dan N – very good insight, Dan. Thank you.

007 – Thanks!

Dr. Ken – You are too funny.

Charlie – I’m glad you enjoyed this entry. It really did help to sort things out in my own mind a bit.

Schwarz – Feel free to comment as often as you’d like. Definitely crosses a line in my book to feature any sort of sexual attraction between parent and child. Eeep. That’s a big squick factor for me.

Just as with men experiencing an erection without true arousal (as in your case working on the door and I assume the door wasn’t anything really exciting) women may appear wet when not actually stimulated. But I think in Serial Spanker’s comment, he was specifically referring to becoming turned on by the girl over his lap rather than it being coincidence or caused by incidental contact only.

Funbun – I greatly enjoyed your explanation and reading the distinctions you make between spankings as foreplay and spankings for discipline. The situation surrounding the spanking makes a huge difference.

Pallidbust – I think your pet theory is very well thought out and sound. Excellent!

D – You gave me something to think about in assessing my own preferences in watching videos. I always like when there is a little bit of a storyline to explain or demonstrate why the spankee is deserving of the punishment. While many times the punishment probably exceeds what would truly be given in real life, we have to push the boundaries of reality at times in order to offer a long and intense enough spanking for viewing on a website. But when the girl appears to be a true victim, that doesn’t push my buttons. And when the embarrassment of a spanking crosses over to insults and an intent to demean, I’m turned off entirely. We all have our own preference though, I know, and so what leaves us cold is exactly what heats someone else up to boiling.

tim – I had a lovely vanilla vacation with my family. If only my dad would overcome his resistance to wifi, I would have been even more relaxed not having to worry about snagging the cable line in the middle of the night to keep on top of urgent PB matters and updates!

dani – Thanks! I like to be well-rounded and hope that it comes through.

Ed – Why does it scare you?

Linde – “We’re not all wired the same … but we probably share a lot!!” That is a brilliant statement.

Kyler – I’m glad you can relate. And I nominate Pallidbust to lead the research team on spanking theory and practice.

Annpurna – I don’t know why I developed this interest. I think it was something that was born wired to enjoy. The spankings I receive these days are in no way a means of reliving the spankings I received as a child. In fact I dislike doing father/daughter scenes as whole because I don’t want to do anything that would even come close to what I may have once actually experienced. Spankings are a release, fun, stress relieving, and so much more than I think I can describe briefly.

2Good – I like the challenge of doing harder scenes. I’m definitely not relaxed though. Adrenaline is a huge help in getting through. Rather than focus on anything, I prefer to just let go – a rare moment of giving up control and liking it. I actually dislike having a lot of lines to worry about when I’m doing a more intense scene because I’m pretty distracted by the pain.

tim – Glad you enjoyed Sarah’s latest update. Good stuff!

ginger – Exactly! Who knew that spanking was so complex?

Dr. Ken – There is so much more to spanking than the actual smacking of the bottom. Everything that goes on before and after plays a huge part too.

Dr. Ken

The need, the effect of the spanking. THAT’S what is desirable.

g.

Like you I, too, liked to be spanked, but I also like to spank as well. But for me the question is rather simple: how hard do I like it? Well, I like it fairly hard, but some days I can tolerate more intensity than others; it all depends on how hard and how often I have played.

As a kid, I was more than fascinated by the concept of spanking; I actively engaged in the practice by playing both roles, for I dare not involve anyone else out of a genuine fear of discovery, a fear that I still have today. However, when I was a kid I didn’t go out of my way, either, to be spanked by adults; rather, I did the utmost to avoid physical punishment. Yes, there was the pain of the spanking, but the possibility of having both my body and psychological boundaries violated were more of a concern to me than humiliation or physical discomfort. Besides, rarely if ever did I cause my parents trouble or grief, even as a teenager.

In your situation while growing up, you say that actual spankings did little to foster an interest in the practice, but yet you were drawn to stories about spanking or catching glimpses of it on TV, and then feeling flustered by it. Do you have any idea what might have motivated this interest?

All my adult spankings have been consensual and have only occurred with my wife. I have not played with anyone else, nor do I want to. Again, like you, if a spanking were forced upon me, I would not like it, and the experience would be nothing more than a combination of torture and rape. Consent is everything; feeling comfortable and emotionally close to my spanking partner is very important. Spanking for me is a very personal and intimate exchange, something I don’t feel comfortable sharing with most people.

I don’t feel pain quite the same way as you, Pixie, but then I’m not a professional spanking model either. I like many of the same tactile sensations that you have reported, but I also like the sting as well; that is, what I can feel of it. My body has an uncanny ability to shut down its pain receptors, which makes a spanking more than tolerable, even enjoyable. But then again I don’t indulge in caning, whippings, or brutal paddling. I must be careful, though, of my heart; I can take only so much stimulation before an ischemic event is triggered, followed by fibrillation.

You say that you need a good deal of pain in order for you to enjoy the other aspects of a spanking and to also get the sense that the spanking was real. Would you say that spanking for you is a reliving of the spankings you received as a child or the spankings that you feared you might have received? Are spankings another way for you to experience emotional states you would not otherwise have access to? I know it is for me.