When it comes to our fascination with spanking, there is often a lot of secrecy and embarrassment. What would our friends, family, neighbors, or employers think of us if they knew? The fear of ridicule and misunderstanding can keep us from fully exploring our interest for years … or even a lifetime.
But is there any part of you that enjoys having a little secret? Do you get a charge out of having another side to you that others would be shocked to discover?
Although keeping secrets isn’t always pleasant, I like having a naughty side that isn’t presented to everyone. I am a shy, quiet girl that likes the outdoors, helping animals, and watching sappy teen flicks. You probably wouldn’t guess upon first meeting me that I have a stack of storage boxes in the closet filled with costumes and spanking toys. I don’t necessarily view it as a dark secret that I have to hide. I see it as a fun and naughty world that simply isn’t everyone’s business.
So how about you? Maybe you look forward to playing on a forum or writing spanking stories after a day of vanilla chores and responsibilities. Or maybe you enjoy being the only one in the office on Monday that knows that you have a bruised bottom (or sore hand!) after a weekend of spanking play. Or perhaps you simply like having the world of spanking fantasy (stories, videos, blogs, photos) as your getaway from the routine of everyday life. In any case, I certainly hope that the world of spanking provides at least as much pleasure as it does distress in having a secret pleasure.
I suppose this aspect of secrecy doesn’t apply to those that are able to live the lifestyle 24/7 and choose not to hide their kink from anyone, but I’m guessing that most of us don’t fall in that category. I could be totally off, so correct me if I’m wrong!
March 14th, 2009 - 12:22 pm
Well put, dearest Pix. I love the naughtier-than-thou satisfaction I experience on the train ride home from shoots, knowing that no one would EVER guess where I’d just been or what condition my bottom was in! (Assuming they’d give a rat’s ass, of course-i am SO egotistical!)
Can’t wait to see you next week!!!
March 14th, 2009 - 12:29 pm
Hi Pixie
I have never thought about spanking before except as a
punishment,now that have discovered the world of spanking
I don’t really know what my feelings are.I certainly enjoy
watching the girls of PB get there butts warmed, but I don’t
think I would like to take there place.(except Veronica could
spank me any time)And as far as keeping secrets, I think we
all have one or two.
Love AK
March 14th, 2009 - 1:58 pm
Since I am living with my family, the secrecy part can be a pain in the ass at times, but like you said, I more often than not smile to myself when people look at me disinterested, thinking that I am a boring mundane girl and having not he faintest clue as to what I really am. I derive great enjoyment out of kinkifying vanilla situations in my mind, though I always hope no one notices my blush when something becomes too blatantly kinky.
March 14th, 2009 - 3:03 pm
Hi Pixie,
As a retired high school teacher from NJ (35 years in the system) I, of course had to keep my “kinkiness” as a spanko from all but my “very vanilla’ wife. What I would frequently find interesting is how many female colleagues and even students would sense the spanko part of me somehow. Comments would be made and subtle innuendos about being spanked by me without any encouragement on my part. I always wondered if somehow that part of my personality stood out. Could this possibly be true of most tops? I seem to notice the submissive side of women on occasion so I guess this works both ways. I am a rather large man with a “teddy bear” image and have actually had women request a spanking from me and on occasion have given a swat or two! Noel
March 14th, 2009 - 4:07 pm
Hi Pixie!
You have presented another great topic, one I was hoping you would explore!
Spanking is very deeply ingrained in my psyche, and I have guarded it over the years with the utmost care since I was four. I feel no embarrassment sharing my experiences here because other spankers/spankees like myself can relate to my personal story without damaging condemnation. Do my vanilla family and friends know of my inner life? No. Even when a few of my friends have brought up the topic of spanking, I have listened carefully and acceptingly to their spanking desires without divulging my own similar predilections. If I were to reveal my secrete to non-spanking participants, it would be devastatingly humiliating. If my family were to find out, their estimation of me would fall considerably, making it nearly impossible for me to look them in the eyes. Should our gaze lock at a family gathering or at the dinner table, even for a moment, I would certainly feel that damning “P-word” forming on their lips in reference to me.
While society’s attitude toward spanking may be quaint in a restricted sense in regards to a M/f power-sexual exchange leading to an almost ineffectual series of spanks to a clothed bottom, I cannot help but feel that society’s true sentiment toward how we actually spank would be far less accepting. It’s this lack of acceptance that has made it difficult for me to be fully accepting of my spanking practice, leading me to feel at times doubt, guilt, and shame. Throwing off the shackles of society’s hypocritical, inflexible, and puritanical view of how we practice spanking has not been an easy one, and it will be a source of personal struggle for me the rest of my life. So in this regard, yes, I have not fully explored and developed my interest in spanking. But your blog has certainly helped me in that regard.
I can’t really say that I feel energized about my secret. I would love to share my spanking-play experience with the uninitiated, but the general acceptance of our lifestyle and our way of being will only be found in the distant future.
You’re right, Pixie, I would not guess that you have a closet filled with costumes and spanking toys, but I am very glad you do and I’m glad you told me. After learning about your secrete, my reaction toward you still remains the same: you are a very sweet and loveable person; how could you be otherwise? Your secrete passion simply gives you that extra spark of attraction.
While I don’t play on forums, other than this one, or write spanking stories, I do enjoy the afterglow of a good session, one that leaves a warm, burning sensation when I sit down, even a week later. Am I the only one at work who enjoys the lingering effects of spanking? Well, probably not, but I do enjoy trying to discern who among my colleagues enjoy our energetic pastime. There is one woman in my office who has inadvertently admitted to owning uniforms and ridding crops and has a desire to dispense discipline. Hmmm…Maybe she missed her chance to join the military or a riding academy?
March 14th, 2009 - 5:49 pm
Pixie,
The secret part of my life started when I started dancing after high school. I always worried about running into someone who knew me or recognized me. Then I realized that I was only going to run into people who had a (possibly just as secret) interest in watching people such as myself doing what they came to see. I guess the “naughtyness” added to my spanking desires because I would often fantasize about a boyfriend or some relative finding out, coming to the club and either in the back room or after I had been hauled home, giving me a “more than deserved” long, hard, bare-bottom spanking.
As it turns out, Angel will always have a reason to spank me and I will always feel deserving since I literally teased hundreds of lonely men into thinking they were the “one”. I actually confessed this to a minister and ALMOST told him I felt I needed some sort of physical retribution for my actions, but luckily I chickened out.
I used to wonder how you could keep your secret after being on so many websites but then I realized that the only way someone would know your “secret” self is if they were looking for that sort of thing on the internet.
I know we ALL have secret desires and interests. I’m just glad to be among like-minded people such as yourself and have the ability to share these feeling and emotions!!
(I’d also like to say that, I too, feel that Veronica could easily put me over her lap without a fight ANYTIME …lol)
Linde
March 14th, 2009 - 6:01 pm
I think the idea of enjoying the secret is a very healthy approach. And it’s true, virtually everyone has a secret or two or three.
-Alan
March 14th, 2009 - 9:31 pm
I personally like keeping my spankings a secret from almost everyone. When I was growing up I was spanked often even past my teen years. What I never told my stepmom Victoria was that I liked our little secret and I enjoyed being in class knowing that my butt was bruised and no one else was any the wiser. Now as an adult, I have only let in a few close friends who always wondered about me and now they wonder no more. There is nothing wrong with keeping a little mystery about yourself. I also like to keep spanking implements out in the open as well, I have a riding crop with the end of it shaped as a hand. I also tell my guests that it is a cat toy. My cat Doodin, has bitten it clean through, although it does a nice job of warming my bottom too.
March 14th, 2009 - 10:09 pm
I think the “secret” aspect of spanking is a big part of the allure for me. If I came across it as a matter of routine in everyday life, if they reported it on national tv, if it was something people chatted about around the water cooler at work, it might get boring for me. Since I was a kid, spanking was something to be embarrassed about, and I never wanted to talk about it with anyone—especially that I thought it was such an exciting thing. I still feel that way as an adult, and it’s a subject only to be shared with people who like it or like talking about it. Other than my wife, that does not include anyone in my family. I have no problem with that.
Now if I’m on a train and see you or Beverly, I wouldn’t guess you might have just gotten a spanking (if I had never seen your work). But I might be imagining it.
It’s very hot that you two have your naughty secret world. Even hotter that you share it with those who want to know.
March 14th, 2009 - 10:32 pm
Hi Pixie,
I just realized that I have been fascinated with spanking since a was probably seven years old when my tutor who was also a school teacher really warmed up my behind just for the “fun of it”. I remember that I was wearing really short “shorts”, and I almost cried afterwards.
I always “envied” her students that got into trouble and got spanked by her at my school. I never got into trouble at school or anywhere else. Stupid me…
No one knows this “little secret” of mine and it feels good to know that there are people like me who lead a completely normal (and boring, sometimes), and also share this feeling.
I hope that someday I can fulfill this experience again! It has been too long!
Love your site and your blog. You have very interesting topics.
I can’t wait to read Veronica’s interview!
Thanks Pixie for opening a whole new world for me
March 15th, 2009 - 2:48 am
I’m in a couple of musical groups ( i make a large part of my living in tribute bands)almost everyone that i work with knows I am into spanking. I have never felt that they could care less. i just don’t think that being into spanking is that shocking anymore. There are far more toxic kinks to be involved in. I’m pretty sure that spanking is considered pretty tame in a world where people are cutting and pooping on each other. Every woman that i have told tells me either “yeah, spanking , that’s fun” or ‘ not really my thing , but I can see the attraction”. In other words, they are completely unfazed.
March 15th, 2009 - 2:53 am
Gosh so much how I feel too, about the secrecy, and who to tell.
My other problem has always been that I don’t believe in spanking as a solution in real life, but I can’t stop “liking it” Good to see your views.
thanks for sharing
March 15th, 2009 - 6:24 am
Which is the greater shame: my love of spanking, or my love of Farscape? I’m only a man–such questions are beyond me.
And excuse me, but “Although keeping secrets isn’t always pleasant, I like having a naughty SIDE…” (emphasis added). Side? Pixie has a naughty aspect or lateral part? But for the most part is a good girl? I’ve always found a good girl’s naughtiness a Hell of a lot cuter than a bad girl’s. I assume I am not alone on this. A character is far more interesting when it owns conflicting natures. “I know I shouldn’t do this… I MAY be punished for doing this… but I HAVEN’T done this in three weeks… so I’m do, right? No one would PUNISH me, right? I mean… It’s been THREE WEEKS!”
Something so adorable about that mindset.
PB
March 15th, 2009 - 7:43 am
pixie a lovely post ,my interest in our favourite topic began some time ago the characters in my popular comic papers if they were naughty got put o.t.k. by their parents for big spanks ,there was even a teacher male who occasionally in the classroom at my school during maths lessons would close the door and would put a young schoolgirl o. t.k .and would give her a spanking for fun she enjoyed it . i think he was a spanko and her a lthough i didnt know that term than then i meant to say so no wonder i am a spanko .As i live at home i have to lower the vid being played as the spanks can be loud lol lots of love Pixie from tim xxx
March 15th, 2009 - 9:45 am
“There’s a man who leads a life of danger . . . “
March 15th, 2009 - 11:22 am
I just look at it as “None Of Your Business”. I don’t think about what my teachers or co-workers like sexually, vanilla or otherwise. If someone came to me & said “We see by your computer you visit Spanking Pixie I’m pretty sure my reaction would be anger rather then embarasment/excitement.
March 15th, 2009 - 1:51 pm
Great topic. I definitely like the secrecy aspect, especially when my penchant is shared by an understanding and enthusiastic partner in a relationship. I think it can strengthen the bond and add to the intimacy between two people.
I don’t care what the world at large might think, but I would be concerned about my family’s reaction might be if they found out somehow. I have five sisters, and as a man I would be afraid they might think I was a misogynist. I’ve seen how vanilla people can misconstrue the motivation and dynamics of spanking. Do you ever worry about your family discovering the spanking part of your life, or are you confident you can deal with that situation if it ever arises? Take care.
March 15th, 2009 - 2:40 pm
Not sure how I feel about the secrecy, but just had to say I love the phrase “naughtier-than-thou”. Best wishes.
March 15th, 2009 - 2:58 pm
Most of my life, I have been hiding (or trying to) my spanking interests. As a ‘boss’ I was sometimes teased by female staff members – a few actually bending over, saying “spank me” – which was extremely difficult. But I had that old-fashioned idea, that the working place should be a safe place for all and didn’t act. Well, acting as if it was a joke, but not spanking them whilst every cell in my body seemed to scream: ‘Spank her ! Take her over your knee..! She wants this..!!’
Only in my mid fifties, urged by Rosaleen Young to do so, I opened up more, but still only in ‘spanko-circles’.
Compensating for my non-spanking activities by fantasizing about it and… making drawings of spanking scenes (some of you might have seen my little drawings) and a few drawings of you, Pixie, as well. The one where you are spanking Beverly (pure fantasy) one of my best so far. (Maybe you could add a few ‘mock-up’ photos of you with Beverly over your knee, now that you see her soon, in your gallery)
Looking back, in my early sixties now, I regret not having played more; having been more open about it and accept the ‘invitations’ of women who sensed my spanko interests.
I would say to all who read this: ‘Open up! Go for it! Don’t make it hard to yourself. Spanking is so much ‘An Act of Love’ to most of us, that we should not be burdened with feelings of ‘guilt’, ‘embarrassment’ or ‘shame’.
I hugely admire you Pixie, and your collegues at Punished Brats, as you all dare to share. Dare to show your feelings, act upon them… As there should be no need for secrecy at all…. For all of us…
Love and kisses, Funbun
March 15th, 2009 - 3:44 pm
It is not embarrassment, shame guilt or the such-like: nor the dear of musinderstanding or ridicule: for me it is rather the fear of discovery. I have had the interest as long as I can remember – but did not discover the whole world of spankiness until just as few years ago. But I know, from conversations and communications that if I were to emerge from the veil of secrecy I would be in danger of losing my job, my home – and probably most of my friendships. So it is a secret world – part of me longs for the day when I could become more open: but even visiting sites has to be covered up and hidden as even my computer is not solely for my use! But I have discovered a whole network of lovely accepting people through their blogs and these give me great joy and a sense of belonging! Maybe, just maybe, one day I shall be able to meet some of them….Till then, the secret remains.
March 15th, 2009 - 4:40 pm
Back when my spanking video company was still located in Southern California, everyone we did business with knew what the subject matter of our company was. When I walked into the bank to make a deposit, the tellers would cover their butts with their hands and giggle, which was cute the first 2 or 3 times but got kind of old after 17 years. Once we re-located to Nevada, we started out with a different corporate name, unlike our DBA (doing business as) name which remains Shadow Lane. It isn’t something we’re ashamed of, it’s just that some things just aren’t everybody else’s business.
March 15th, 2009 - 4:58 pm
Hmmm, great question, Ms Wells…
As I’ve gone from being a young teen spanko to a practising adult spanker, this has gone from being a question of secrecy to one of privacy. As a young teen, I was actually quite disturbed by my fantasies (I’d somehow expected to “grow out of them” during puberty) and truly had no idea that anyone else felt this way.
During my later teens, I started to see cultural references (including of course, the actual spanking magazines so common in England) and started to open up to close friends who either shared that sense of excitement about spanking, or at least could see it was harmless and fun. As soon as I realized that there really was nothing wrong with me, that my fantasies weren’t violent or abusive or somehow harmful, it stopped feeling like my secret and just became a question of my right to privacy. I don’t need or even want to know about my colleagues’ or acquaintances’ sexual or intimate lives and I really don’t want them to know about mine.
March 15th, 2009 - 5:24 pm
We both view spanking as a bit of an escape. Spanking is real to us, of course… so it’s not fantasy. But, we do make sure to keep it fun. If some part of spanking becomes stressful, we don’t dwell on it too long before moving on. Just don’t have much tolerance for drama.
By doing that, we’ve managed to keep our spanking time fun and something to look forward to.
Do wish we could let more in our secret. Would much-much rather be able to say that we’re seeing a spanko friend… or share how much fun a recent spanking party was. But, we know that would make some uncomfortable… and that some would judge us harshly. To avoid that stress, we are cautious about how open we are.
Doesn’t really bother us though. While it would be nice to share, we accept that the world just doesn’t work that way. Some would simply rather not know… and some are better off not knowing. Sure they have their secrets too though.
Todd & Suzy
March 15th, 2009 - 7:04 pm
Every one has a secret. My secret is my spanking interest. All I can say is that it sucks. There is some one around me most of the time. I cant have the sound on if Im looking at a spanking web page and I can only be on one a every short time. I got to see Pixies Blogiversary spanking this week . That was posted on Feb 12th Pixie as you have said spanking isnt every thing. Another thing I like about your post is they arent ever long. My wife is taking a bath as I write this. Every one have a nice day
Bye Bye Ed
March 15th, 2009 - 9:49 pm
Pixie, I’ve had the spanking fantasy as far back as kindergarten and I’m in my sixties. Personally I would like to get rid of it because I don’t know anyone who is into it in my world. If I buy any videos I make sure I throw them away so nobody should discover them. I thought about going to a hypnotist to lose this fantasy. You take care Tom
March 15th, 2009 - 10:45 pm
I’m an open book. For me holding something back is like lieing. I’m not comfortable with that but the alternative…telling…is 100X worse.
I have this reputation of being a shy good girl. It’s fun to shock a co-worker with a smart aleck remark, esp. when you overhear them telling another “she’s quiet AND she’s fresh!” Go me!
It leaves me smiling thinking, “You have NO idea!” “You probably think I’m a shy little thing who leaves work and goes straight for the library.” Nope, right for my laptop for some spanko surfing.
March 15th, 2009 - 10:57 pm
Great question/topic Pixie.
Like Noel, I am a retired middle school teacher in California [42 1/2 years in the system]. I taught at the same school I attended 50 years ago, and have been living in the same community for 59 years. Naturally, I keep my spanking interests a secret from my friends (not in the scene), and was fortunate to meet and marry a spankee wife (Thanks again Tony and Eve for the introduction).
Looking for a way to have my collection of videos, books and magazines more accessible than in the back of the garage.
Charlie
March 15th, 2009 - 11:04 pm
I’ve been aware of my fascination with all things spanking since my earliest years. In those days, there was no specific term, “Spanko,” and every non-vanilla form of sexual interest was pretty much lumped together under the label “kinky.” I didn’t feel shame, nor did I limit my “kinks” to just spanking when I began exploring, but the implication of the word was clear: keep such things to yourself.
These days we’ve got a different label and sub-label for every kink imaginable, though I’m quite satisfied with being ‘just a Spanko.’ After quite a number of years working very crushing schedules, then teaching, I’ve at last begun giving sway to my interest in spanking. At the end of a long day – heck, during a long day – I often find myself thinking up various spanking scenes and stories, usually inspired by something picked up on my spank-radar. But being generally kinky wasn’t wasted, as all that earlier exploration led me far afield and I frequently color those stories with elements of the many things I found outside the realm of the normal. However, despite my personal comfort with this interest, I’ve never shared the smallest detail of it with anyone else I’m in professional or familial contact with. I see it as a personal preference that is simply none of their business.
March 16th, 2009 - 12:14 am
I don’t think that I would be embarrassed if someone found out. If they were digging – perhaps they shouldn’t have been? If it’s accidental, I would probably shrug it off as best I could. Otherwise, it’s not anyone’s business what I do on my weekends, etc. I value my privacy and have no desire for most to know what I do on my own time, including my roommate, etc.
Good topic, as usual!
March 16th, 2009 - 9:01 am
To Me I do try to hide it my spanking spanko side to myside but usally i do not want to hide it with certain person. if there one female i want to ask if she want to spank me or give me spanking then my mind is focus in on her and trying get chance to ask or tell her about spanking.
sometime i may even ask if they like to be spanked or into spanking and see what thier respond be last few time i show few female my spanking t-shirt i have they laugh they say they like it. but when i go ask if they want do spank me they say no so i just try tell them they don’t really have to if not want to and don’t bother them again with it.
i will admit there usally no real reason why i ask certain female about it so to me i don’t mind who find out about my spanking fetish one way i look at it when you pass away ya family or friend is going find ya spanking toys or video or dvd that you own . so they are going find out anyhow some day.
one last thing maybe a family memeber or friend already know about ya spanking side just don’t care or bother them at all. casue u may be shock how they reaspond when it finally get leak out.
i say pixie if anybody leak out ya spanking side to people u should spank them or send them to one of ya spanking top lol to get the spanking for spilling ya secert lol
March 16th, 2009 - 11:06 am
Hello Pixie!
For me, keeping it a secret is a must. I am surrounded by a family and community that would be appalled if they knew I liked spanking. Though, these are the people that think looking at a girl and saying she is beautiful is a sin. Though my belief is that there is nothing wrong with playful disciplinary spankings, and erotic spankings between loving people.
So many down here think it is disgusting and abuse, and therefore wrong. Now if I were to go up to a random girl and slap her butt then that might be a problem, but with me I pretty much make sure I have it in writing before I touch any girl. lol. Though maybe I am just wierd, but I don’t care about being weird too much.
But again I know they would love to tear into me just like they did on other topics, mainly when sex is appropriate. That experience taught me much: mainly that when people think something is wrong they cannot see the forest for the trees. For example, everyone tore into me when they found out when I thought sex was okay…and told my I was so wrong, yet not one considered the fact that I was and still am a virgin (By my own choosing). After a while they did quit…mainly because I had so many points to prove my case that they couldn’t get anywhere. It was so hypocritical of them too, so many that made mistakes that ruined their lives were so insistent that my beliefs were wrong, when my beliefs kept me from making any of those mistakes.
Point being, I went through all that with them once, and if they ever found out I liked spanking, it would all begin again. I just don’t want to deal with that, and I don’t want to argue with people that I do care about…it is such a waste of time.
Though, in truth, my brother does know, but he is amazing in how he sees it. His basic attitude was, “I don’t get this at all. Spanking is not what I want to do, but I am not living your life.” He never went and told anyone, he doesn’t think any bad of me. Even though he doesn’t understand it he feels that different people have different needs and desires, and that does not make these things bad. Of course before he ever knew I never worried about him knowing, but with everyone else I do worry and I just want to let them keep seeing me as the nice helping, honest, responsible, hard-working, german-speaking, crazy-cycling-idiot, that they have all come to know. If they knew I liked spanking all the other good I do would go out the window in their minds.
Well, time to go back to me being quiet now, have a good day pixie!
D. Gray.
March 16th, 2009 - 12:42 pm
The question for me is would I be considered a “pervert” if someone found out?
Well, maybe yes because it IS a bit kinky. But then if 45% of California voters think it’s OK for two men/two women to marry, then how bad can it be?
Even in these times, I think that it would be bad for my business, my family would look at me funny, and acquaintances might hesitate in shaking my hand.
March 16th, 2009 - 5:14 pm
Another thought…
I was thinking the idea of telling even my closest friends about the spanko blogs/sites I read is too scary to consider. When asked by a friend which sites are my favorites I said, “Ummm….there’s this one with cats…and cheeseburgers, yeah, I like that one.” Hehe!
March 16th, 2009 - 7:56 pm
As I look at the comments I see alot of talk about
playful spankings OK Im dumb what is playful
spankings. Help Bye Bye Ed
March 16th, 2009 - 8:57 pm
Hi Ed,
While I’m not a spanking expert, it’s my guess that a playful spanking has less intensity behind it than one motivated by punishment or discipline, and it is usually accompanied by a lighthearted attitude during the delivery. I’m sorry if that sounded a bit clinical!
March 16th, 2009 - 11:16 pm
It would be cool if you did a scene with a young lady freaking out when someone unexpectedly walks in and watches her getting it.
March 17th, 2009 - 1:24 am
Dear Pixie,
I think having a little secret is good. We don’t need to share everything about ourselves with everybody. It’s nice to hold a little something back, some part that is uniquely me.
That said, it would be nice to have one special lady in my life that I could share it with….
Dr. Ken
March 17th, 2009 - 1:27 am
Dear Pixie,
I think it’s nice to have a little secret, something is uniquely our own. We don’t have to share everything with everybody. There’s nothing wrong with holding on to a little bit of yourself.
That said, it would be nice to have one special lady in my life to share the secret with….
Dr. Ken
March 17th, 2009 - 4:34 am
For me, with vanilla friends, I often like to share the “secret” as a testament to feeling of closeness and trust with the person. There’s always a lot of buildup, disclaimers, and “testing the water” — and I can usually feel my heart beating in my chest — before I come out and say it. I guess it’s what I use when I want to feel that I have “no secrets” with someone. A couple of times I have regretted the decision (once because I was outed to someone else, once simply because the close friendship ended abruptly and I wished I hadn’t revealed so much of myself), but mostly it’s been a positive sharing experience.
March 17th, 2009 - 10:54 pm
Nicely addressed topic, Pixie. My nearly lifelong awareness of our shared and seemingly genetically predisposed affinity is known to mostly a handful of scene people. Also, my kink-vanilla hybrid wife is well aware of and has participated in these tendencies–however, not as avidly as have I.
As a respected professional in my community for many years, disseminated knowledge of my proclivities and practices would
certainly be career-ending, unfortunately–simple as that. Judicious and discriminating selection of play partners through the years has fortunately kept the secret bottled up. And I also admit I’ve “walked between the raindrops” in a major way this entire time.
Long may THAT continue for myself and anyone else who’d stand to lose a great deal by being outed.
March 22nd, 2009 - 2:26 pm
I love having a special secret that nobody at work or in recreational activities knows about. The secret is between my husband and me (and everybody in the spanko blogosphere, of course.) I feel naughty sitting and talking with office mates who would really never guess I am so “different” at home.
Hugs,
Hermione
March 22nd, 2009 - 9:40 pm
We all have an alter ego. I think if spanking is your
thing, you want to be around or talk to others with
the same interest. It can be hard to find. Some really
like rough stuff and bondage which is not my thing.
Some like birthday spanking or spanking games which are
cool. Most people do not understand. No sense in trying to explain it.
March 23rd, 2009 - 1:26 pm
There’s another aspect of spanking that needs to be treated with quiet discretion and secrecy. I speak of the unintended and powerful “crush” (for want of a better word) I have developed for a certain young spanking model, who’s charms have won me over completely. She is the girl I wish had been my girl all those years ago when I hungered for a girl just like her. Discretion forbids me from mentioning who she is, but her smile and pout and her delicously-spankable bottom are well-known these days. She knows who I refer to. And with that, I should leave it there.
(((Hugs)) to her anyway.