A few years back when I would meet with a spanker for disciplinary spankings, I would sometimes be ordered to prepare myself. I had to lie over the back of the couch, bare bottom perched up high, ready for whatever awful implement was headed my way. I hated it with a passion.
I could handle taking down my pants and panties as I knew the spankings were almost always going to be straight to the bare and I’d rather undress myself than have someone else do it for me. But having to wait in such a exposed position was perhaps as much punishment as the spanking itself.
While lying over a soft yet sturdy low-back couch was surprisingly comfortable, having my bottom on display was certainly not. I could feel the cool air on my naked cheeks and all I could think about was my impending doom. Much like the corner, I couldn’t easily see what was going on around me, and more importantly behind me. That always makes me nervous but especially so when there is a very good chance that the shuffling noise I hear behind me is someone reaching into a toy bag to retrieve a paddle or a strop!
There was never a set amount of time I could be left to wait. I might have only a few seconds between getting into position and my spanking or I could be left for what seemed like an eternity as the spanker attended to another task such as checking his email. Unable to relax for a moment, I had little else to focus on but what my poor bottom was in for and how I’d managed to get myself into so much trouble yet again.
I’d have to admit that this technique certainly did increase the intensity of my punishment without necessarily affecting the severity of the spanking (though they were quite firm, believe me!). For those of you that spank, do you ever incorporate an unspecified amount of wait time to up the anticipation or do you prefer to tend to the naughty bottom as soon as possible? And for spankees that may have experienced getting into position and waiting, are you anxious for your spanking to start or can you ignore your vulnerable position and enjoy your last reprieve?
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I just posted on Pixie’s Previews that I am planning to do a mini-interview with Veronica Bound. Once completed, I plan to cross-post the interview here on my blog. If you have a question you would like to be considered for inclusion in the interview, send me an email or drop me a line here in the comments section. Help me make this interview a good one … Ms. V will be using an evil bathbrush on me during the next shoot and so I think it’s best to try to get on her good side. 
March 7th, 2009 - 7:44 pm
Depends on the person and the offense. If the person sees it as a reprieve and I find that out, I will be more speedy if they have really screwed up or have screwed up the same way one too many times. If the person sees waiting in this manner as a punishment my tactic is reversed. Whether I use corner time or the technique you described depends on the person as well.
March 7th, 2009 - 9:27 pm
Hey Pixie-
Another great discussion topic! As you know I am not a spanker but rather the spankee so I asked the hubby what he prefered to do when I was to recieve a punishment spanking. He would usually leave me only for a short amount of time, I tend to get all squirley and can’t stay still. He always removes my jeans and panties, because he knows how much I hate having someone do it for me, that adds to my punishment in my mind. Then he is usally quick to get at the punishment at hand, and it is usually severe and leaves marks.
Now in my mind having to wait is the hardest thing for me to do. All I can think about is my impending doom and how much it is going to hurt and then that makes me want to keep moving to try and find a more comfortable position. I have found that I can never find one when I have to wait for a spanking. I think a lot of that is from my childhood when I would hear the dreaded words from my stepmom
“Go to your room and put your nose into the corner. I will be up there later to give you your spanking.” My stepmom was a great one for torturing me on the waiting time, which could be as long as an hour. Years later I finally had enough courage to ask her why she made me wait so long sometimes and she said that was so she could cool down and not end up spanking me in anger. So as it would turn out I pissed her off a lot as I was growing up. In fact I still have the art of pushing her buttons to this day. I guess some things never change.
March 7th, 2009 - 10:08 pm
The worst is this scenario: spanker calls spankee on the phone and says that “when I get home you’re gonna get it.” Spanker comes home but either has forgotten about the threat, or silently decides not to carry it out. Spankee is too scared to ask, for fear of reminding him. Spankee is on edge for days afterward.
Also for those of us who cross over from spanko to medical fetish, there’s plenty of possibilities. When I was in college I had to go to the campus health center because I was having trouble peeing. You got whatever doctor was on duty that day, and mine was a hot woman who informed me that I would need a prostate exam. She excused herself for some supplies and was gone for what seemed an eternity – probably 10 minutes or so. In the meantime my mind had kicked into high gear fantasizing about the combination of pleasure and humiliation I was about to experience. The exam itself was, alas, quick and anticlimactic.
March 8th, 2009 - 9:02 am
Pixie,
As always, another great topic that I could write volumes about. Psychologically, the *first* spanking from a new spanker (okay, so I spanked around) regardless of actual outcome was the most nerve wracking because of the element of the unknown. Sometimes I would be trembling in anticipation only to find out that I had a newbie (vanilla?) that never actually spanked someone before. When waiting totally exposed was involved it always was an extremely intense emotional experience. I learned quickly to make sure I knew what the spanker had in mind and what, at least in general, to expect. I learned that you COULD ask for references (lol).
Anyway, as to my preferences ….. I HATE WAITING and that is probably WHY I usually end up doing so bare bottomed over his lap or the back of our very comfy sofa while I’m lectured and given time to “reflect” on my behavior. It’s definately not a reprieve, only an intentional delay of events. I mean, once your panties are down and your bare bottom is higher than your head …. where can you expect things to go.
Okay, a possible question(s)for Veronica (who I adore seeing you over the lap of) ….
Angel likes to tell me to relax my bottom cheeks before he starts (continues?) my spanking .. says it is supposed to not hurt as much or causes less possibility of bruising. I have a hard time doing this, at least right away, hence the waiting time exposed.
Do you make simular demands and do you find the spankees able to comply with the request? and will you continue the spanking regardless of the spankee’s willingness or ability to comply?
Thanks again, Pixie for a great blog and the oportunity to share!
Linde
March 8th, 2009 - 10:51 am
Pixie may i ask a question to Veronica ,.Did you appear in spanking videos before joining punished brats ?i enjoy your appearances as a spanker on them .best wishes to you Veronica . Pixie an interesting post,very amusing another note Wendy Richard who starred in Are You Being Served bbc tv comedy set in a department store passed on recently she wae a very fine actress who did a lot to help dogs in England lots of love from tim xx
March 8th, 2009 - 12:56 pm
Hey, great topic! I have more than once been sent to get ready for a punishment. Unless he specifies the corner, it means bottom bare, laying on the bed on my tummy waiting for him. It could be 10 minutes, but is usually 5 or so as he finishes reading something online, or other.
It’s nerve wracking but mostly because it could take any length of time really. The most he’s ever made me wait was fifteen minutes and I was nearly in tears by then!
March 8th, 2009 - 5:38 pm
Hi Pixie!
How sweet and kind of you to respond to my last post. You’re so wonderful, and I love reading your words. You’re like a dear, distant cousin who shares the same naughty interest as mine!
I’m switchable, but prefer to be spanked. My practice started when I was three years old, before a time I was even able to formulate a rationale for spanking, which for many incorporates punishment themes. Such darkness did eventually enter my spanking regimen by the time I was seven, but it never gained a secure foothold in my motivation to either spank a woman’s upturned checks or to feel a strop or bath brush on my bare bottom.
Because spanking is how I communicate sexually, I don’t incorporate wait times, nor do I subject my wife to embarrassing or humiliating positions. I have no desire to violate her dignity or privacy for my indulgence. As to attending to her naughty bottom, well if I had to wait for a punishable transgression, I would most likely die of old age. Rather, I simply and unabashedly say that I love to spank her and that doing so is very erotic. So in one sense she is in an ongoing state of anticipation because she never really knows when the next spanking will happen. But her concern is very minimal: although I can and do spank firmly, she knows that I will really never hurt her or cause undue pain or embarrassment; I don’t have the heart for it.
As the spankee, waiting time prior to being spanked or corner time afterwards is a real big bore. I won’t submit to either. I really like being led by the arm over my partner’s lap, but not by the ear. Nor do I like to be pinned; it feels sadistic.
I have a slender, muscular body shaped by years of weight training and intense aerobics so I am not uncomfortable by my naked form, even during a probing medical examine.
As an aside, and if it’s any consolation to you, Pixie, I hear your feelings of discomfort regarding the time you laid over the low-back couch with your bottom completely exposed for a disciplinary spanking. I can say this unequivocally that your feminine form is perfect and is only eclipsed by by your sincerity and sweet innocence. In the instance you so kindly shared with us, the person that was really exposed was the spanker, not you.
Anyways, bringing the bath brush to my vanilla spouse, telling her I want to be spanked, and then lying across her lap is still nerve racking. My stomach is twisted in knots; my awareness of my immediate surroundings dims and narrows to that of a four year old. I relax my bottom and patiently wait for the first spank. Sometimes I feel the cold wood slide across my checks, a nice touch, before the first resounding SMACK! I’ve been spanked hundreds of times, but the first blow still has a startling effect, making it feel like it’s my first.
After your bath-brush scene with Veronica, I would love to compare notes with you so to speak. The bath brush is a favorite toy of mine, and Veronica is both a beautiful and compassionate Top, if compassion and topping are at all compatible. She seems both firm and vulnerable, which is an irresistible combination.
So here’s my question to Veronica: “When you are spanking someone you like, what thoughts and feelings do you experience, and how do you find tension release during the spanking?”
I hope that’s not too personal!
Best wishes,
March 8th, 2009 - 5:44 pm
I have sometimes left my spankee in a bare position over the couch for up to 20 minutes…anticipating her “reward”..I will sometimes wet her bottom at the start of her waiting with a damp cloth…she knows a “moist” spanking will be sharper on her exposed behind than a dry one…she says it feels like an electric spark travelling through her behind….she is never allowed to see what implement I choose to use, so that’s always a surprise…
March 9th, 2009 - 1:28 am
The dear friend / “niece” whom I have spanked is not emotionally comfortable with the idea of having her bare bottom on display, either bent over something or in a corner, before or after a spanking, so I would not even consider trying to order her to do so. However, she is usually bared and over my lap for a few minutes before I actually start spanking, as I like to save a portion of the pre-spanking talk for then. It makes me happy to know that, besides her fear of the imminent pain, she is comfortable with the exposure when she is over my lap. (Since she is a sexual abuse survivor, I do not take that lightly.) And she GLADLY re-bares and goes back over, when, after she’s had some time to reflect, I agree to give her bottom some lotiony TLC!
March 9th, 2009 - 1:33 am
Oh, I forgot to add my question-suggestions for Veronica: If she cares to share, has she ever been on the receiving end of a spanking? Also, does she ever spank males? If she does, how does she find the experience different from spanking females? If she doesn’t, what are her reasons? Thanks!
March 9th, 2009 - 6:37 am
Hi Pixie,
Whilst I know that making the naughty woman wait for her spanking after her knickers have been pulled down and/or she is over the knee/bending over increases her anxiety and adds to the punishment I very rarely do this.
Once one of my ladies is ready, over my knee with her knickers down, I just want to get down to applying my hand or spanking implement to her bare bottom. Just occasionally, I keep her waiting whilst I scold her for her misdeeds and neither of my two ladies likes that.at all….in fact the older of the two urges me to ‘get on with it’ and that is a foolhardy thing to do when she is over my knee with her bare backside waiting to be spanked!!!!!!!!
Aristotle
March 9th, 2009 - 1:20 pm
hey pixie i have few question for you to ask the lovely talent beautiful veronica
1) would she ever allow any of the punish brat female give her spankings) hint hint all female punish brat female like pixie is very good girls and well behaved too, lol you can add this too her if want
2) how did she get into spankings?her begining etc. was she spanked growing up
3) like another person asked has she spanked mens or gave spankings to men if she be up to doing that
4( how could she give the sweet friendly beautiful pixie all thos espankings pixie did nothing to desver them
(go easy on pixie with the hairbrush make it short one
as for what you talk about i really had not ever thought of having stay in postion for spankings to me guess depend on what the reason was for being in that postion begin with and if person male or female enjoy doing that
March 9th, 2009 - 2:47 pm
Excellent question. Have never done the “waiting in position” thing that you describe. Main reason for that is… 99% of discipline spankings are OTK (or over the lap). Kind of hard to be made to wait in that position.
Instead, waiting is done in the corner. There is a “talk” about exactly why a spanking has been earned, and then it’s off to the corner. There, once nose is in corner… pants and panties are tugged down to mid-thigh and then a few more words are said. Sometimes it’s being told to “think about what you’ve done to get yourself in this position, and then when you’re ready you are to come out and tell me why you’ve earned a spanking” … or… the exact reason is boiled down to a sentence or two and you’re to think about that until I come and get you for your spanking.
So not quite the “the spanking could start at ANY moment” sensation… though a smack on the bottom is certainly possible if there is too much moving. Does create plenty of time to think about the decisions that were made that lead up to this point… and what’s going to be happening because of it very shortly.
Todd & Suzy
March 9th, 2009 - 3:15 pm
Hi Pixie,
As a child, I remember being sent to my room to wait. That was horrible, lol. I remember the feeling in my stomach. Talk about anxiety!!
Now, when I’m going to be punished, the wait time is usually between the phone call and the arrival. Which always feels like an eternity, and brings that same butterflies in the stomach feeling. I think I would just rather get it over with as fast as possible!
Chica
March 9th, 2009 - 4:33 pm
As I read some of the responses from spankers about preparing their spankee for spanking, I must admit to my stomach doing flip-flops. I am not accustomed to sharing my experiences about spanking or hearing about the experiences of others so I am finding this particular topic a little more intense than I imaged it would be. If any spanker would like to answer, from his or her own perspective, the questions I have put to Veronica, I would like hearing from you.
March 9th, 2009 - 4:43 pm
I’ve definitely found that the “suspense of anticipation” is a great technique to apply, and it’s pushed buttons in some of my partners that they never knew they had. Long before the Internet put such things at one’s fingertips, and before I’d found a partner with whom to experiment, I read a comparatively rare spanking article in a borrowed skin mag which gave me a keen appreciation for different ways of making the spankee “await her doom.” Part of the article described in great detail a father who still spanked his three late-teen daughters, and how he always explained, while they’re bare and OTK, why they’re getting spanked, making them say it back to him, often – but not always – making them wait an additional few moments until the spanking actually begins. These and other techniques he employed showed he clearly understood how to heighten their fear of the known by skillfully making use of the unknown.
Odd how, when first starting out, the things you see or read can have a significant impact once you finally get the chance to employ that stored up information. The reality is that waiting is more effective as a technique if used somewhat sparingly, depending upon the frequency of play/discipline. And the number of ways to incorporate it into scenarios is probably only limited by the imaginations of the participants. A spankee in an outdoor setting, say lying over a fallen tree, could be made to wait, fully bared and acutely aware that they’re exposed to anyone observing at a distance or happening by; multiple spankees can be placed over the back of a sofa, but only one may be immediately paddled or strapped, leaving the others to “await their doom” as they listen to the first one “getting it,” knowing sooner or later it’s their turn. And so on, and so on. In between though, there’s still something to be said for giving a naughty bottom a short but blisteringly hard spanking that leaves the miscreant dancing and clutching her suddenly flaming bottom, if only to make the waiting the hardest part later on.
March 9th, 2009 - 9:50 pm
Thank you..:):)
March 10th, 2009 - 6:44 pm
Who’s the strongest spanker for you?Veronica?Clare?…
March 11th, 2009 - 10:19 am
Wednesday – That certainly makes sense to tailor it to the recipient to ensure that no matter what, the discipline isn’t so fun and easy to endure.
Alex – An hour is like an eternity when you are not only in the corner, but know you have a major spanking coming! But I suppose it is much better in that case to have the wait until she cooled down. Major kudos to you for having the courage to ask her why she did it that way. I still try to avoid the topic of spanking and punishment with anyone that isn’t a fellow spanko.
Southern Expat – That is an awful scenario to endure in r/l, but that would make for a really fun scene to do for the site. I’m going to note that down.
Linde – That first meeting with a new spanker is indeed intense. Even if you’ve chatted a while and had gotten references (I’m not sure that I’d have thought to do that either), you still can’t possibly know what it’s going to feel like, if the dynamic will be just right, how far you can push it with smart remarks and struggling … so much to worry over in addition to the actual bottom warming.
Thanks for your questions for Veronica. With so many great topics posted here and sent in email, I think this is going to go from a mini-interview to a rather long full-fledged one.
Tim – I’ll be sure to note your question for Ms. V down too.
Marie – I suppose a shout from the bedroom of “hey, can you hurry it up? I’m waiting over here!” would not be a wise move as a spanking is already looming. Probably would move things right along, but at a price.
Annapurna – I’m particularly struck by your mention of your vanilla wife using the bathbrush on your bottom. Is she completely vanilla or was she vanilla when you met but developed an interest in spanking over time? In any case, I think it’s wonderful that she is able to meet your needs and spank you when you ask for it.
Kevin – never allowed to see what implement you choose? Oh that must add a great deal of intensity too. A slap of leather? A wallop of wood? The sting of a switch? Never knowing quite what to expect would make me sooo anxious. I suppose that’s the point though.
Jeff – I’m glad that you and your “niece” have been able to develop such a trusting and caring relationship complete with respect of needs and limits to allow you to both benefit from the spanking experience.
I’ve noted down your questions for Veronica. Thanks for posting them.
Aristotle – Sounds like sometimes waiting can be the hardest part … not only for the spankee, but for the spanker as well!
Mike27 – Lots of good questions there. Thank you.
Todd & Suzy – Ohhh, that is an excellent and very challenging technique to ask the spankee to have to admit and explain why they’ve earned the spanking. It certainly directs the focus to the true matter at hand – the behavior that needs to improve, not just the pain that’s about to be experienced.
As for not being able to do a wait in position given that you usually choose OTK, I did giggle envisioning Suzy waiting impatiently over Todd’s lap as he reads a book.
Chica – Do you find yourself mostly standing by the window now, nervously awaiting headlights or the crunch of tires in the driveway?
^Mike – Variety always adds a little spice and extra excitement (or anxiety as the case may be). You’ve got a good point that changing how the wait time is exacted or if there even is wait time, will keep things fresh and keep that spankee on her toes.
maria – Clare and Veronica are both excellent spankers. I’ve had the opportunity to work with Veronica more often and try some different implements, but both are serious hairbrush wielders.
June 28th, 2011 - 8:49 pm
[...] as Exhibit B “The Dreaded Waiting Time When A Spanking Is Due“, and as Exhibit C “Prepare Yourself.” Now, Exhibits A, B, and C illustrate how disconcerting it is to wait for minutes or maybe [...]