Time for nosey Pixie to toss out another preference question. When it comes to spanking, where on the bottom do you prefer to spank / be spanked / see a person spanked? This may sound like an odd question at first, but bear with me.
From personal experience as well as correspondence, I know that different people enjoy being spanked in slightly different spots on their bottom. Some have the goal of every inch of the cheeks (within reason and avoiding the tailbone area for safety reasons) colored a brilliant red while others prefer certain areas of concentration.
I’ve made this crude chart, phases of the moon, to help illustrate.
Full Moon
Center Moon
Half Moon
Bottom Moon
I find it most aesthetically pleasing for the cheeks to be colored somewhere between Center Moon and Half Moon. I’m able to take the most punishment and have the best sensations from swats aimed at the Half Moon region. I guess that’s where I have the most curve and so it feels the best and the safest.
I strongly dislike swats that land too high because it scares me that I’ll be hit in an unsafe area (tailbone, etc) and the sensation is very different. It’s a bad pain – a closing your finger in the door on a cold, raw day kind of bad pain. Aiming a little lower on the bottom to hit the sitspot and the very tops of the thighs is fine with me and you’re guaranteed to get a very strong reaction from me as the sting registers. However, I don’t like when smacks are purposely delivered in full to the thighs. I used to be ok with it and even received discipline that was solely focused on the backs of the thighs all the way down to my knees, but my tastes have changed and both from a visual perspective as well as a physical one, I prefer the thighs be spared and the bottom cheeks be the primary focus.
December 8th, 2008 - 3:21 pm
Pixie very amusing post where you preferyour lovely bottieto receive your spanksi suppose it is either the spankers choiceor sometimes the spankees love from tim.
December 8th, 2008 - 3:25 pm
Pixie great post very amusing your bottie receiving spanks is always marvellous love from tim.
December 8th, 2008 - 3:53 pm
Pixie,
As a switch, I agree that somewhere between a center moon and half moon provides the best sensation for the spankee as well as the most pleasure for the spanker.
Bottoms Up,
Steve
December 8th, 2008 - 4:16 pm
Count me as another proponent of between Center moon and half moon. My favorite part of a female bottom is where it connects to the thigh, but even if I concentrated exclusively on that part, I think the size of my hand would make the resulting redness a half moon rather than a bottom moon.
Mark
December 8th, 2008 - 4:42 pm
I like the center moon/half moon combination as well with the odd surprise shot to the sweet spot, to keep things piquant.
Unlike yourself I do enjoy thigh punishments, this may be because it hurts more and as a man I have less than half the pain receiving nerve endings per square inch of skin than a woman.
Prefectdt
December 8th, 2008 - 4:43 pm
This view is from the perpective of a “viewer” only. I have had no real life experience spanking members of the opposite sex (did smack our two sons when they were little and when they “needed” it).
So from that viewer point of view I lean toward what Pixie has illustrated as “half moon” and then I like the “bottom moon”. Actually I also like to see some reddening of the thighs but high up near the bottom.
Now if ONLY I had some real life experience to back up my preferences (sigh)… alas.
gramps78
December 8th, 2008 - 4:48 pm
Hey Pixie-
Great post! As being only a spankee myself I agree with you on the half moon to lower moon spanking spots. Having endured a few punishments where my tailbone was smacked a bit too much I know how badly that can hurt. As for full theigh punishment I don’t care for that either. A few smacks at the sit spot and a little lower in fine, but I think that it should stop there. If I am wearing shorts I don’t want the whole world to know that I have just been spanked. Not to mention I hate the deep muscle pain that is left over from the spanker focusing too much on the theigh area.
So spank on girl!
Alex
December 8th, 2008 - 6:22 pm
Hi Pixie,
I prefer the “half moon” area and the very top of the thighs at the crease between bottom and thighs. My main focus and goal is to make the sit spots and sitting regions of the thighs very tender and sore so that sitting is uncomfortable afterward. Thanks for all you do for us
December 8th, 2008 - 6:40 pm
As is often the case, Pixie, you and I are in agreement — I like the Center to Half Moon as well. I dislike being struck too high — I have no padding up high and it feels like someone is hitting me on bone. Not a pleasant feeling at all. And I have come to love/hate the sweet spot — it stings like hell, but I love how I feel it when I sit the next day.
I don’t like the full-on thigh slaps either. But once in a while, a single smack to the upper thigh to get my attention (or to shut me up) is OK.
December 8th, 2008 - 7:24 pm
My wife is not into spankings ay all but the
few times that I have spanked her I always go
for the center to half moon I stay away from
the back and thighs.Also I have never spanked
my wife with out her saying she needs it and then
they are hard.
Pixie as always I love your post.
Pixie you and every one have a good day and to
all, dont forget to kiss your other half good
night. .
Bye Bye
December 8th, 2008 - 10:13 pm
I feel the half moon is the most visually pleasing since there is no doubt that a spanking has occured. Sensation wise I prefer the area of the bottom moon and top of the thighs which most refer to as the “spank spot”. I like the area about one hand width below the butt crease and just slightly on the inside thigh (blush — LOL), but like to be threatened with more spanks to the area than actual spanks delivered but when one or two zingers are given at the beginning at the top of the thighs it keeps me wondering (okay — worried LOL) about how many more I will get.
I know this post is about location, location, location (Sorry ..LOL) but I want to add that what I do not like to see or experience is what I call the British method of smacking the lower butt in a circular motion that seems to be trying to push the cheeks up instead of spanking them.
Good post and interesting(as alwasys)topic, Pixie
Linde
December 8th, 2008 - 11:41 pm
I prefer the half mooon and bottom moon areas. Center moon stretches too high for me. I have some weird nerve and skin sensation problems at the low back area due to an old injury and back surgery, so I try to avoid anything striking above about the halfway point on the bottom. I tend to like the bottom moon, or sweet spot area because I like to feel the after-effects when sitting later.
Visually, I think the center moon is probably the pretties though.
As far as thighs go, I can take some light sting-y slaps to the thighs but that’s about it. The very tip-tops of the thighs where it connects to the bottom I guess I consider part of the sit-spot/sweet-spot area, so that’s ok.
December 9th, 2008 - 12:56 am
I’m of the same mind as you, Pixie. I try to avoid the upper quarter or so, and love to focus on those tender sit-spots.
I’d be happy to demonstrate sometime.
December 9th, 2008 - 2:41 am
Dear Pixie,
Well, you took my answer. I prefer to avoid going “full moon”, just ’cause that seems to high up for me. There are, y’know, like, organs and things in that general upper vicinity that are best not jostled….
My own preference is to aim for the spot on a lady’s bottom where the curve is most pronounced, i.e., the “bottom moon” area, but since a good spanking needs the variety, I like to “spread the wealth”. The first swat may be on the ripest curve, but the following ones will definitely climb higher–so, half moon to center moon is usually what the, uh, “finished product” will look like.
Dr. Ken
December 9th, 2008 - 3:38 am
Definitely half moon when I give them. I refuse to aim anywhere that would harm the tailbone or kidneys, and I refuse to strike the thighs as that’s all solid muscle and really bad pain for the recipient. I tend to aim for the sweet spot as often as possible but spread around as well to avoid “same darn spot syndrome”. Unless of course it’s a discipline spanking, in which case the concentration is merited
December 9th, 2008 - 7:12 am
As a viewer, somewhere between centre and half moon – which encompasses some swats around the bottom moon – pleases most. (A thigh swat to keep the legs from kicking can also add to the entertainment – provided that it is in the spankees contract!) What DOES annoy, however, is to see a concentartion on one cheek (usually the right if the spanker is right handed)- I am not sure how spankees manage when one side is coloured far more than the other.
In terms of self-spanking, I think it is bottom moon however – easier to target with a backhanded cane!
December 9th, 2008 - 9:03 am
Hmm. I would have to say that my preference is a step or two above yours Pixie, around the center moon mark (and your mention of the tailbone is very well made) as I just can’t help feeling the job’s not quite done otherwise.
December 9th, 2008 - 1:55 pm
I invariably spank my two ladies in the half moon area….with the occasional smack landing slightly higher. If I haven’t much time, then for maximum effect with minimum effort I chastise the bottom moon area…..especially the tender and sensitive bottom flesh on either side of the lowest part of the bottom crack.
I find that spanking both ladies as I do is aesthetically pleasing for me and painfully effective for them. And I have to say that the ladies have very different-sized bottoms: one is a pert little bum whilst the other is a plumper, more mature backside……..but both so lovely and so feminine.
Aristotle
December 9th, 2008 - 10:44 pm
center moon and half moon is my preferance,never high but cover the sit spots and as much as you can,as a switch,thats what i perfer. i guess too if implements are used,with the hand as a warm up,one should be a bit more careful,but again center moon,and half moon is the best,and always leave it a really rosey red.
December 9th, 2008 - 11:39 pm
Dear Pixie,
No doubt about it: this is the best treatment of naughty brats… (smile)
December 9th, 2008 - 11:47 pm
Excuse me,
my former remark was the red porto speaking.
To redden one’s bottom, you have to aim at the last quarter of the moon… but do it gently.
Bruno.
December 10th, 2008 - 2:14 am
Ah after your excellent lesson on the various phases of the “moon”, I watched one of your vids, Pixie. It was the one titled “Just Spank Me” in which you got a very nice OTK spanking with a hairbrush. I watched your cute bottom with interest and concluded that by the end of the spanking your “mom” had achieved the “full moon” effect. It should looked very pretty.
And I loved the final scene where you start to sit on your bed, but wince and change your mind. A neat vid. Loved it.
December 10th, 2008 - 10:46 am
pixie great to have Bev backshe is a lovely spankee in the latest video love from tim.
December 10th, 2008 - 3:48 pm
I go along with half moon to center moon, but I’m more curious to know if that’s an abandoned diet coke which you’ve just rescued from the discount store?
Or is it an experiment to see if thought-power alone can turn a diet coke into a bag of bubblegum?
December 10th, 2008 - 9:18 pm
Pixie,
I’m another half-moon kind of gal. Later on, it provides that lovely reminder every time I sit. In terms of the horizontal plane, I would add that I hate to be spanked on the hips. As you say, that’s not a good kind of pain.
Thanks for a fun question!
Hugs,
Bonnie
December 10th, 2008 - 9:38 pm
a lovely glowing center moon is what I prefer to have over my lap. toasty and hot.
Dave
p.s. idea for a future holiday-themed post–do you think gnomes and christmas elfs and other seasonal creatures should be spanked, if they are up to various naughty things?
December 10th, 2008 - 10:54 pm
In the center where the bottom is the softest. Tom
December 10th, 2008 - 11:26 pm
Have to say I, like almost everyone else responding, am Half-to-Center Moon. Early on, when trying to achieve a Full Moon effect, my first partner demanded I stop hitting her on her back, and I took it to heart. Funny how that kind of initial feedback sticks with you.(She also preferred I only spank her across the bottom crease, but I ignored that.) Personally, though, I find slapping the thighs (or any other part of the body) a bit off-putting as I prefer to confine “spanking” to the bottom. Just my limitation, I guess.
December 11th, 2008 - 12:06 am
I particularly enjoy seeing the way you kind of jiggle when a hairbrush hits you right on the crease where your thigh meets your bottom.
December 11th, 2008 - 1:47 am
This is off topic… Pixie is the best girl in the world and is correct 99% of the time. But this love for Diet Coke has to come to an end. It’s no good for you pixie! It’s just using you! Come and learn to love something that will love you back. Diet Pepsi is waiting with arms (ok it doesn’t have arms) open wide.
Eric
December 11th, 2008 - 12:43 pm
Being a sensual (as well as strict) spanker, I long ago dicovered the “sweet-spot.” By lifting a girl’s cheeks you expose the very bottom of her bottom, where her cheeks blend into her upper thighs. Being spanked on her sweetspot can be highly arousing to a very bad girl as well as delivering a devilish amount of sting.
December 11th, 2008 - 8:48 pm
My vote will go to half moon as well, especially with implements. When spanking by hand I like to wrap around laterally and spank the gluteus medius high on the outside of the hip. That’s the muscle that gets needles if anyone was wondering.
As for thigh spanking, I have two short lengths of tubing, one stiff, about the diameter of a pencil and one flexible, about half an inch in diameter. They both make stingy, cane type of impacts, and the larger one yields a scary “whoosh” before it lands.
December 12th, 2008 - 3:40 am
Hi Pixie,
My preference is for center to half moon, but one should give spanks to the other sections of the full moon too. No part should be forgotten or ignored.
Charlie
December 12th, 2008 - 7:14 am
Half-moon is my favorite but I try to at least give a few spankings a little lower and some a little higher…not too high, though! I always spank my partner with my bare hand and I think that a slap right in the center of the cheek is the best place.
I never spank on the thighs. It just doesn’t occur to me.
Fascinating blog…i just discovered it. It’s good to read the thoughts of other spanking lovers.
December 12th, 2008 - 9:01 am
for me i like getting spanked and the spankings. for me getting spanked i would love the full moon type spanking i want my butt all red and sore to help me learn lesson better
if i am watching somebody getting spanked or doing the spanking i would want full moon or center moon type of redness.
to me if person been bad naughty and need learn lesson then they should get the full moon type of spankings.
to me a moon does look better with little or some color add to it i am sure you will admit and agree.
p.s have you decide to become a spanker yet or are you still in the spankee range and feeling still
December 12th, 2008 - 10:54 am
Tim – I’m glad you enjoyed my post. Since a spanking usually takes place between two people, I think that they both have some say in where the spanks are placed. There are elements of preference, limits, and a chance when it comes to where they land.
Steve – So no matter whether you’re giving or receiving, your moons are always a little over half full.
Mark – You must have big hands!! Ouch
Prefectdt – Oh yeah. The sweet spot is almost always going to get a reaction. Less than half the pain receiving nerve endings? Can I then send you at least half my punishments? Veronica will be right over.
Gramps78 – Some redness on the very tops of the thighs is bound to happen if you aim for the very bottom of the bottom and the sit spot (sweet spot). That touch of redness at the very top from maybe half a handwidth landing on the thighs helps round out the color nicely.
Alex – I cringe at the thought of being smacked on the tailbone! That is so scary and one of the main reasons I’m cautious about who I let punish me with a bone cracking frat paddle.
I’m also with you about not wanting to show the whole world that you’ve been spanked by having red marks extending below your shorts. While there is a certain level of excitement in displaying evidence of your naughtiness in fantasy, the reality of having to explain yourself to nosey Mrs. Jones down the street might not be so much fun.
Seatscorcher – Those areas hurt and sting for a long time too! But as much as I will whine about not being able to sit comfortably, when the pain is gone, I kind of miss it.
Erica – We are two peas in a pod, Erica. I wish we could chat about all things spanking and not over a good lunch of non-spicy food (hold any funky cheese) on a warm, sunny day while dodging large, anxiety-provoking get-togethers.
Ed – It’s probably safest to stay away from the back and even the thighs and concentrate in the middle where you’re aiming. I imagine your wife must have really done something naughty for her to ask for a spanking even when she’s not into it at all.
Linde – Wow!! That is one tender area. I know exactly where you mean and I give you major props for being up to taking even just one or two zingers!
I agree with you about style preference. I’m not a fan of the more stylized pushing up smacks or waving the hand in between spanks. It is more artistic I suppose, but to me, it doesn’t seem as intense as a solid, straight down spank. Let the bottom cheeks move on their own in reaction to the smack rather than push it here and there.
Munchkin – having a nerve / sensation condition, it must be all the more important to you to have a safe and well-practiced partner. Safety and relative comfort have to come first. Of course having a nice reminder of the spanking every time you sit is a nice bonus!
Fireman Chris – Yes, I think a demo is in order just to make 100% sure we are in total agreement.
Dr. Ken – I love your phrasing. I picture the warmth and redness spreading upwards like a sunrise.
007 – SDSS is especially bad if you’re using implements. Of course when a lumpy bruise or a weeping skin area form, it seems extra hard to avoid them. Much better to spread out the punishment within the safety zone.
Winchester – “thigh swat to keep the legs from kicking” You mentioned that as a viewer. I can imagine that as a spanker sometimes you would not want a spankee to kick for both her safety as well as your own (no one wants a stiletto to the head), but when watching a scene, do you not like to see a girl kick and react to the spanking? I always prefer to see proof that the girl is struggling the endure her punishment rather than lie there motionless as if she were bored and not feeling a thing.
The lop-sided spanking can be tough to avoid if a girl is positioned tightly against the spanker while otk. It just isn’t that easy to get that inner cheek with good force. When I’m being spanked in a lengthy scene and feel like my outer cheek is getting a tough break, I’ll scoot out a bit or even roll my inner side upward a bit as if to signal “spank me here!!”.
D – If the swats are all focused too low, it does look like the spanking is only half delivered, but from a sensation point of view the lower half is for me.
Aristotle – I think most readers would agree that you are a very lucky man to have the opportunity to spank not just one, but two lovely naughty bottoms.
Hairbrushman – A perfectly rosy red bottom is always a site to behold.
Bruno – Absolutely! Naughty brats ought to be synonymous with red bottoms.
Gramps78 – Yes, my “mom” Susan left no spot of the moon untouched there!
Tim – Beverly is fabulous as both a spanker and a spankee. She’s such a pleasure no matter what role she takes on.
Steve (UK) – Diet Coke is my fizzy love. Although I’ve been better recently and have been drinking lots of herbal and green teas, Diet Coke continues to make up a significant portion of my dietary intake!
Bonnie – Wrapping and getting spanked on the hips is terrible. Definitely one to add to the bad pain list.
Dave – I don’t think anyone would turn down a toasty hot bottom OTK.
All naughty creatures, seasonal or not, ought to be spanked!
Tom – You should see me pressing on my bottom trying to determine the softest spot. I think on me it’s the mid-lower portion. I’m sure each bottom is shaped slightly differently.
^Mike – I’m glad you were able to compromise a bit and literally find middle ground! As for the thighs, I’m not sure what changed it for me. I was once ok with receiving smacks of the hand and even dozens of strokes of the cane or heavy strop to the thighs. But now, I am not a fan of receiving severe discipline beyond my bottom.
Anonymous – Ever see those impact shot photos where a spank is caught just as it lands? It’s amazing to see how the body reacts and ripples upon impact.
Eric – I’m not one to snub Diet Pepsi entirely. In fact, I really love Diet Wild Cherry Pepsi. But Diet Coke will always reign supreme to me.
Serial Spanker – If you have a girl positioned in classic OTK (inverted V), you don’t even have to lift. The bottom is stretched tautly and the crease is easily accessible. Of course it may actually be your preference not to do it that was as part of the fun I’m sure is in having to lif the cheeks!
Redchief – wow, I bet that tubing leaves some serious marks. My thighs bruise when a dandelion fluff collides with them so I’d imagine that a whipping with rubber tubing would leave wild red and purple loops for a long time.
Charlie – So you prefer a little color everywhere but concentrated on the center / half?
N.T. – I’m glad that you like my blog and are enjoying how interactive it can be. Lots to learn from our fellow spanking enthusiasts.
Mike – No Mike, I’m not a spanker. I don’t know that I ever will. Perhaps a leopard can change its spots and perhaps it can’t, but for now, I’m most content being a spankee and a spankee only.
December 12th, 2008 - 7:25 pm
The tubing rarely marks. And the pieces are straight, not looped, so any marking is just a temporary stripe like you sat in a slat style chair–hard.
December 12th, 2008 - 7:26 pm
Must be a challenge leaving that many responses.
December 12th, 2008 - 7:38 pm
Redchief, sometimes it does take me quite a long time to respond to each comment, but if people are kind enough to post here, I’m always happy to return the favor and respond. The interaction is a big part of what makes blogging fun for me.
December 13th, 2008 - 3:04 am
Thanks for always taking the time to respond to EVERY post. I know I always look forward to reading your response to my opinions and that is one of the reasons this site is so active and enjoyed by so many!!
Linde
December 16th, 2008 - 2:13 pm
Just for the record, I prefer to lay her across my lap while sitting on the edge of the bed, so she can rest her upper and lower body as I spank her. This allows her to relax while I take my time rubbing and caressing and fondling…and of course, spanking. This is not to say that from time to time I throughly enjoy being a strict disciplinarian by grabbing her arm, tugging her over to the spanking chair, then jerking her down across my lap (amidst much fussing and resistance) then walloping her while bent over in the classic inverted V position. I cannot say what happens next. But I’m sure your imagination can fill in the blanks for you
December 17th, 2008 - 9:19 am
ok pixie i understand and agree with what you saying i won’t ask again
if i do i will earn a spanking. and you get to choose the female spanker and how many spankings i get and which implement i get spanked with and you get to wintness the whole spanking how that for a deal lol
December 20th, 2008 - 9:42 am
Definitely half moon. The sit spot is the best.
June 22nd, 2009 - 12:34 am
true story-exactly how it happened.
When I was a kid I was a wimp about spankings, but a few things happened. My first sexy memory was going “ow” because of a penicillin injection, cute nurse. I was scared at the time but after six months I wanted to get B12 shots. The second big event was being whipped by rattails at camp. I was in the shower, and I did not like getting hit on the back of the thighs.I was rattailled hard and long enough for blood to be drawn. I cried for an hour.
A third event was a hard wiffle bat shot that made me yell and jump around going “ow/ouch/yeow” for several minutes. These were not fun incidents, but they toughened me
up. I had a paddle match with an older friend. He won, I gave up after five licks. My left cheek was bruised for five days. He made a point of aiming for the same spot, and bare assed it was easy for him to see red on red.
I also took the wire hanger on the bare butt as punishment by the stepdad for stealing and getting brought home by the cops. I cried and begged for mercy, but I secretly loved it. My favorite spots became the middle butt (muscular area), the lower cheeks, and the crease or fold area. I could take licks to the fold all day, but since I am not too crazy about the legs getting hit, it is not ideal because it is not uncommon for crease-shots to miss the lower buttock and hit the thigh. The best looking bruise I ever had was from a belt-spanking match with a cuz, but the bruise was on the side of the hip. The side of the hip was not errogenous-zone to me. When I was 19 or 20, I thought of going to a dominatrix to get a proper riding-whip spanking to the crease, the middle cheek, and the lower cheek from a mistress who knows what she is doing with a crop, but I was afraid that I would become addicted to it and not be able to pay for more than a few sessions. Every spanko should have a sibling or cousin who is absolutely discreet and silent, and knows how to properly hit and bruise the sweet spots.
I unfortutely was not blessed with Doctor Dobson parents.
Anyway, nothing beats 10 good paddle licks to the mid-cheek, follwed by 5 hickory switches to each crease.
Tastier than baked alaska with a tequila sunrise.