A reader sent me an email tonight asking what I do for my bottom when it is red and sore after a spanking. Since I don’t think I’ve specifically covered the topic here, I thought I’d answer with a post.
Rubbing: It can help reduce the tingling sensation, but more often than not I do it just to feel the amazing amount of heat my scorched cheeks are generating.
Lotion: Lotion helps to keep my skin soft and hydrated after long spankings or ones that involve wooden implements. I don’t like using it right afterwards though as I find it really stings the sensitive skin. Instead of being soothing, it actually adds to the punishment.
Arnica: I haven’t experienced significant results in using arnica, but when I need to be free of marks as soon as possible, I use it as it’s certainly not going to hurt. I do have to be careful to stick with the tablets and cream formula as I’m allergic to something in the gel. No need to add insult to injury (literally) and be itchy and ouchy.
Ice: After very severe spankings I’ll apply a bag of ice to my upturned cheeks and have even tried sitting on a large ice pack on my drive back home following a shoot. It really helps to reduce the swelling and pain. In a pinch, any cool surface will do. I’ve been known to rest my punished buns against the cool body surface of a car or take a seat in the snow.
Massage: The day after a hard spanking, the surface sting will have subsided, but the deep down muscle soreness really sets in. A loving bum massage from my boyfriend is the nicest of all methods of tending to my punished backside.
Neosporin Plus: Although broken skin isn’t something I aim for, it does happen from time to time. Usually it’s more that a couple of the top layers of skin have worn away, but on rare occasions I’ve had the skin actually open up. In either case I use Neosporin Plus to help heal, prevent infection, and reduce scarring. I don’t find that it does much in the way of pain relief despite the label’s claims, but it definitely speeds up the healing process.
Any other bottom soothing techniques you’d recommend?
October 7th, 2008 - 9:58 pm
Aloe is helpful especially in a gel form. But you want to be careful about what else is in the bottle since there are a few products that may cause alergic reactions or have some adverse reaction if the product should drip onto very sensitive areas. Some have Aloe but also have some sort of alcohol based content in them also. I like the cooling effect plain aloe vera has and you can also grow your own and just break off a leaf when the need arises.
Linde
October 7th, 2008 - 10:19 pm
Multiple orgasms have been known to help.
October 7th, 2008 - 10:40 pm
After paddling her bare bottom hard, I like to take her over my lap and spray on a topical anesthetic like Solarcaine. After the anesthetizing, gently blowing air on the hot spots, either by mouth or by fanning with something semi-rigid like a folder or sheet of cardboard (about 8.5 X 11) helps take out the heat. Following that with an application of aloe gel helps further, and it gives me a chance to stroke her gently in contrast to the hard swats of a short time earlier. Finally, I cap off the after-care by stretching her out on the bed or sofa, on her tummy, and applying crushed ice in a Ziploc bag.
Anon VII
October 8th, 2008 - 3:59 am
Ice: After very severe spankings ………… or take a seat in the snow.
This is a fantastic idea for a winter movie! I would like to see you jumping outside afterwards and cooling your butt in the snow.
October 8th, 2008 - 11:04 am
Pixie,
I can think of a sweet distraction: bubblegum!
October 8th, 2008 - 3:58 pm
I agree with your idea of the application of lotion, but later rather than right after. I’ve been known to do it right after and without complaint from the person to whom I applied it. But, because of the added aspect of getting a massage later, as you pointed, out, I think later is the best time to apply the lotion. Also, keeping your behind soft prevents the last thing you mentioned, which is the skin breaking. A hard bottom is the culprit there.
Now, I’m sorry to have to do this, but I have to break in on a non-topic on this chain. Sorry! But, tim keeps calling and leaving a number that is not going through. It could be that the connection is pretty bad and I can’t quite make out all that he’s saying. So, the problem with him logging in to GoodSpanking Classics is that his membership has expired. He either quit and forgot, or there’s another problem. In any case, he needs to re-join if he’d like to.
Thanks, Pixie. He says he doesn’t have an email right now, but he apprears to be able to keep up with your blog.
October 8th, 2008 - 6:08 pm
Pixie — broken skin, really? Yikes.
I’m a huge fan of ice, especially during Shadow Lane weekends when I’m playing multiple times. I find that oftentimes after playing hard, my bottom skin will feel very rough, even though the pain has gone away. I like to use an exfoliant scrub in the shower, and then lots of lotion.
Arnica has never done a thing for me. Sometimes I think it’s an urban myth, but I know people swear by it.
October 8th, 2008 - 11:03 pm
[...] a recent post at her blog, Amber shares several effective aftercare techniques in a post entitled Soothing the Sting. Well done, Amber. Keep those paddles [...]
October 9th, 2008 - 12:44 am
Not really soothing the sting but taking away that itching sensation, coconut oil, twice a day for four or five days after a serious whupping. It’s also good for long term use as a skin moisturizer and for us male spankees, does not smell too “girly”, a common problem with, what would otherwise be, some excellent skin products.
Prefectdt
October 9th, 2008 - 6:12 am
I often tell my miscreants at parties that if they complain too much about their sore and swollen bottoms that I will make them take out a couple of packs of frozen vegetables and have to sit on them in the central party room where everyone is talking.
It stops the complaining, but I suspect one day a bratty young woman will want to test me and show off her newly acquired swollen seat to the rest of the spankcrowd.
October 9th, 2008 - 10:46 am
CHELSEA THANK YOU FOR CHECKINGFOR ME OVER MEMBERSHIP I DO NOT REMEMBER CANCELLING AS I LOVE YOUR WEBSITES AND WANT TO REMAIN SO I TRIED TO RESUBSCRIBE BUT WAS NOT ABLE TO REJOIN I SHALL HAVE TO TRY AGAIN I AM MISSING ALL THE UPDATES THANK YOU AGAIN I DO NOT KNOW WHAT WENT WRONG WITH THE PHONE I WAS CALLING FROM U.K.MY NUMBER IS XXXXXXXX A CODE FROM U.S.A. HAS TO BE ADDED AT THE BEGINNING. PIXIE MANY THANKS LOVE FROM TIM
October 9th, 2008 - 11:08 am
tim – I’ve edited out your phone number here in the comments section to protect your privacy. I forwarded the original message along with your number to Chelsea via email.
October 9th, 2008 - 12:37 pm
PIXIE MANY THANKS FOR DOING THAT FOR ME LOVE FROM TIM.
October 9th, 2008 - 12:51 pm
I might have another solution, that might not be liked by everyone. Don’t spank that hard..! It gives me the creeps to read that Pixie’s skin breaks… I love her way too much to read that, as I firmly believe that such should NOT happen! Playing is fine and I love it but ‘damaging’ the body is not acceptable to me. It might happen in the frenzy of a spanking game, but I firmly believe that it is more fun to spank more often than too hard.
Great topic by the way..
October 9th, 2008 - 6:21 pm
but ‘damaging’ the body is not acceptable to me.
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I agree with that… Never really thought about the “wear and tear” for the models…. Didn’t realize that the smacks were that hard…
October 9th, 2008 - 9:12 pm
Ice really is good after a hard spanking… then lotion until everything heals up. After a mild/moderate spanking though, lotion works fine. Have to say though Pixie… snow sounds like the best possible option. Have this picture in our head of you getting a hard outdoor spanking… then sitting down on a snow drift… with steam rising around you. lol…
Todd and Suzy
October 9th, 2008 - 10:43 pm
I assume you have tried all the methods you listed.
How did you gain all that knowledge in the first place when you first started out? Was it from medical research, spanko blogs, trial and error?
October 10th, 2008 - 1:30 am
A good warm-up at the very beginning helps….
Dr. Ken
October 10th, 2008 - 2:29 am
It stings like mad – but the received wisdom at school was that sitting on a hot radiator after the cane helped draw out the bruising and so the lingering after effects were reduced. I never tried it however!
October 10th, 2008 - 11:05 am
Before I suggested using a vitamin E & Aloe lotion I’ve used for years to treat sunburns, which is similar in some respects to the skin abrasions you described in the last paragraph, I decided to test it after shaving very closely. Unfortunately, there was a very faint sting that I’ve never experienced when applying it to burns. The lotion itself feels cold as it goes on, soothes instantly, and disappears into the skin so you don’t even know it’s there, but that barely-there sting might be enough to negate any comfort it would provide. The only other thing I might suggest, also from experience with sunburns (which are inevitable if you spend much time outdoors in Florida), is relatively cool showers rather than hot, as the skin is damaged and hot water further stresses the tissue. Hope I didn’t add “fool to the fire” here.
October 11th, 2008 - 12:30 am
Excellent, as always, blog post, Pixie on post punishment posterior…um…caretaking. These informative posts compiled together would make for a wonderful “Spanking 101″ book
Keep up the wonderful work,
Dave
October 11th, 2008 - 1:43 am
p.s. loved your latest Pixies Previews featuring you and Chloe and featuring a political party I had never heard of before: “The Brat Party.” And I thought the Republicans were scary….
October 11th, 2008 - 2:31 pm
Linde & Angel – What an excellent suggestion. I’ll look into growing an aloe plant. It will be good to have on hand not only for spankings but when my accident prone self decides to bake cookies.
Tony – I’m sure! I think even singles would do the trick.
Anon VII – That must take out the heat and reduce the swelling quickly. And of course gentle, loving aftercare is always extra soothing.
kaiser – I’d be totally up for trying to do so on film in a winter themed scene.
dani – Absolutely! Bubblegum is the right answer for almost anything but soothing a toothache.
Chelsea – Later is definitely better, especially if there is a chance of any more spanking happening. The freshly moisturized skin stings even more!
Erica – Yes, I’ve had broken skin. It happened more often in my private play years ago when I would engage in super severe spanking play / discipline. The number and intensity of the spankings I’d receive in a short period of time would lead to weak areas. These days I try to make sure that I don’t do scene after scene with heavy implements because I don’t want to permanently damage my skin or scar. The only time I get weepy patches these days is when I book several shoots back to back to back.
Your routine of using an exfoliant and lotion must work well because from the looks of it, your bottom is beautiful and appears baby soft.
Prefectdt – oh the itching of healing! Good point. Coconut oil does smell quite pleasant and is far better than trying to covertly rub your bottom all day.
Brad – Sitting on frozen veggies? Finally a use for frozen greenbeans I like.
funbun – I don’t play that hard these days in my personal life in comparison to what I once used to take. I ended up with dark marks and weak areas on my skin that took a while to completely heal and that was a clear sign it was time to take a step back. I still like to have the challenge of a real and severe spanking for a dynamic scene once in a while, but I make sure it’s safe so that I don’t burn out physically or mentally.
justme – The smacks add up. Even when the spankings in one scene may not seem to be all that much, then receiving several other complete spankings after that gets up there. I usually receive three spankings in a PB shoot these days, but I have done up to 9 (with implements) back in our earlier shoots, 12 in a row im a day with firmhand, and then if I head out to visit my spanking company friends in LA for three days in a row of hard spankings, I usually end up sitting gingerly for a while.
Todd & Suzy – I could make snow angels with very well-defined bottoms.
2Good – I learned nearly them all back when I was into heavier play before even considering doing anything in the industry and before blogs became as popular as they are now. The person that would spank me regularly and so firmly introduced me to arnica and would provide bags of ice following very severe spankings. The lotion and neosporin plus were items I found to try to keep my bottom in good condition. I also would use a pumice stone (much like Erica uses the exfoliant scrub) to help smooth the hardened skin after a few days of discipline and also tried Mederma to help fade the scarring. :-S
Dr. Ken – … and is always greatly appreciated.
Winchester – Would they sit on the radiator the same day or a day or two after the caning to help speed the healing along? I used to sit on the radiator in my home as a kid (while wearing jeans of course) after coming in from a freezing cold day. It felt so wonderful to feel myself thaw. Can’t say that I ever had the opportunity (thankfully) to see if doing so would help with cane marks though.
^Mike – If the sting of the lotion is only fleeting and helps to soothes afterwards, it might still be worth a try. And you’re right about the hot showers. They can sting right after and even a day later!
Dave – Thank you Dave! We may be scary, but the Brat Party is hoping we can count on your vote.
October 15th, 2008 - 4:56 pm
I wasn’t aware that you’re getting that many spankings per shoot/day. Amazing that you’re not putting up more fuss at the end of the day lol.
I love your work, please keep it up.
My bottom usually heals extremely quickly and I hardly get bruises. Different situation though and I’m usually not allowed to use any lotion… uhm well, I only tried lotion once and it did good magic
November 1st, 2008 - 4:22 pm
thanks for all the great comments and ideas. after a good session with our wooden implements including a number of heavy school type paddles with holes i do find that Borion’s Arnica Montana helps heal up the bruising quickly i can also sit on a well paddled ass right away with little discomfort & I’m ready for another session sooner so i have to say i love arnica. i do have to be careful because after 2 or 3 heavy sessions (lots of paddling) my normal cheek color didn’t come back for a couple months; but the major surface bruising was gone in a few days. it’s also easy to travel with. i’ve used a number of different types of homeopathic’s over the years with great results. the gels, creams & ointments need to be applied 2-3 times a day for best results. they are not used like a skin lotion that is applied daily. i first used arnica for my arthritis and the sublingual melts help with deeper stiffness & pain or after surgery. With the oral melts it’s best not to eat or drink anything for 15-20 minutes before or after taking them. also there are different strengths some are for chronic conditions (like arthritis pain) and others are for occasional use (injury or spanking) so make sure you check with your pharmacist or vendor for appropriate dosage to get the best results…of course getting the attention of a tender loving application of anything soothing is special. when my husband & i were in high school he got a swat and when he told me i placed my hand on his left butt cheek and he swears to this day that my hand took the pain away. unfortunately i was unable to keep my hand on his ass all day and when i removed my hand the sting returned. he says the relief was only where my hand was so there is also something to be said for the touch of a lover & some healing massage!