Are there implements that you consider feminine or masculine even though they can be effectively used by either gender? For example, I think of the hairbrush as being a feminine or maternal implement despite the fact that some of my hardest brush punishments have been given by males. I suppose I associate the hairbrush with females because they’re more likely to have one on hand for the primary purpose of brushing their flowing tresses. The flat back just happens to make an excellent improvised disciplinary implement.
Similarly, I think of the belt as a traditionally masculine implement because I picture a man wearing one as a part of his everyday attire and then quickly removing it to tend to a naughty bottom.
Do you associate certain implements with a particular gender or am I the only one to sort them into such categories based on their primary domestic purposes?
August 5th, 2008 - 7:25 pm
Hmmm. Never thought about that, but I think you may have a point. Most belt spanking videos I’ve seen are M/f. I’ve seen M/f hairbrush spanking videos, but the best spanking story I’ve ever read was about an F/f (mother/daughter) harbrush spanking.
August 5th, 2008 - 7:38 pm
Pixie, this is an interesting viewpoint. I have never thought of implements belonging to a particular gender. But then again, for me, the spankers are always male, no matter what they’re using.
August 5th, 2008 - 9:40 pm
I completely agree with your thoughts and examples. And in addition to the implements you’ve mentioned, I also think of wooden spoons and other items found around the house as more feminine/maternal.
August 5th, 2008 - 11:41 pm
For me the belt is a uniquely masculine implement because most men carry it around with them wherever they go. I don’t think other implements are masculine or feminine. The hairbrush can be considered somewhat of a feminine item – just not the way I use it.
August 6th, 2008 - 1:29 am
Good question, Pixie. I do agree that a hairbrush fits perfectly in a woman’s hand. And kitchen tools as well (yes, I’m aware of feminist reactions) as they are always ready to use.
For males implements should not be necessary as I believe that their hands are strong enough to dish out a good spanking. And… Nothing feels better than smacking the bare buttocks of a lovely girl…
I love to fondle and caress in the process, love female buttocks anyway, so I prefer the male hand…
XXX, Funbun
August 6th, 2008 - 2:28 am
Pixie–at this past weekend’s Crimson Moon party, I did all my spanking just using my hand. So I don’t think of implements as masculine or feminine–I just think of them as, “there if I need ‘em…”
The party was great, btw….great people, good food, good vendors fair….a nice summer spanktacular…
Dr. Ken
August 6th, 2008 - 5:22 am
pixie an interesting post i agree with you over hairbrush spankings i love the new video with beautiful juliette she is amarvellous spankee as youare and clare as the spanker great love from tim
August 6th, 2008 - 5:27 am
If my primary knowledge of spanking was “adult spanking”, then I’m guessing I wouldn’t associate certain implements by gender. However, since I’ve been interested in spanking since I was very young, I have associations similar to yours. A mother was the parent far more likely to use a hairbrush, and fathers using a belt was very common.
August 6th, 2008 - 7:10 am
Yep, I do this! Canes are slightly male because of the historical context of them in all-male schools. Big paddles are male because of fraternity/principle associations; little paddles are female because they have a more erotic association for me. Birches are more female because they were what was used in all-female schools historically instead of canes. Riding crops are more male, again because of the historical connection. Single tail and signal whips are definitely male.
There are some gender-neutral implements though – straps, tawses, although if I had to pigeon hole them I’d put straps as male and tawses as female. What I’m noticing from this is that there’s also a correlation between the shape of the implement and its gender. Long implements with a single tail (as it were) are phallic, whereas rounder implements or implements with multiple strands are female. Interesting!
August 6th, 2008 - 9:33 am
Why do I get the girl gun?
- Angelina Jolie in “Mr. & Mrs. Smith”
Another insightful post as always, Pixie, no matter what the topic. Come to think of it (now), I do see certain implements as being more or less associated with a specific gender and, yes, the hairbrush seems more maternal and the belt more paternal than vice versa. Not that the person wielding either is made more or less their gender by using one or the other. Unless a spanking has been ritualized, taking certain steps, in a specific place, using a specific implement (or none), etc., people tend to use what’s at hand (including the hand – my favorite implement.
) Thus, a woman (in the old days, at least) would tend to have a hairbrush, spoon/spatula, or other household items readily available, whereas a man might have his trusty man-sized belt (none of those foofy slender “girlie” belts!) – no sense digging around in the toolbox.
Another oldie-but-goodie was the razor strop (a.k.a. “razor strap”), which my grandmother said her father used with great effect in the early 1900s (straps also included horse harnesses). When I moved to the South many years ago, I observed the mothers of the neighbor kids employing the switch, which I took to be for “outdoors,” but heard it was used indoors as well. Still, it seemed a more maternal implement, when one was used, as both moms and dads in those days tended to just wail tail in the simplest fashion, wherever it was called for.
August 6th, 2008 - 10:11 am
Growing up in the Mid West where willow trees were abundant…we had three in our yard…Mothers, Aunts and Grand Mothers were known for thier…go cut me a switch…edicts which meant go cut three low hanging strips and entwine them together…while most Men simply slipped thier belts from thier pants or had a special belt, not my experience, I was rasied by a single Mom who also employed the hairbrush and our own belts in addition to the willow tree switches.
As an Adult ( most days) I have seen that Women do seem to be more adept at wielding impliments for using in OTK sessions such as hairbruses and smaller paddles. But I do have to say that impliments seem to be equal opportunity discomfert givers no matter which gender is using them.
August 6th, 2008 - 11:58 am
I’ve not really thought about this before, but the only spanking implements I’ve ever associated with gender are the carpet slipper (a ‘Dad’ implement), and the open-top sandal (a ‘Mum’ implement). This probably dates back to the comics that I read as a boy.
I guess that a dainty hairbrush is going to appear more feminine that a large clothes brush. Likewise, a heavy leather belt will look more masculine than a thin strap.
August 6th, 2008 - 11:59 am
There are few things sweeter in this world than the hot sting of a supple leather strap on a girl’s smooth bare cheeks and thighs…unless it’s the no-nonsense CRACK! of a hard wooden hairbrush for more stubborn backsides. I’ve never been able to disconnect myself from the highly arousing aspect of baring and spanking a girl’s bottom, so to me it’s all about passion as well as discipline. I used to be a pretty fair hand spanker in my day until the effects of arthritis began to affect my swat. And one more thing…willow switches can be devilishly effective too, especially when applied to her upper thighs. Happy Spanking all!
August 6th, 2008 - 9:57 pm
A wooden spoon, spatula, cutting board, hairbrush, bathbrush, school ruler, and yardstick are all items that bring thoughts of maternal spankings I have seen or recieved in the past.
A belt, paint stirrer, ping-pong paddle, carpenter’s ruler, and Jokari paddle all remind me of paternal masculine spankings I have seen or been given.
A large hand could go either way but most likely would remind me of a masculine “impliment”
Linde
August 7th, 2008 - 1:44 am
Like certain spanking implements, washing someone’s mouth out with soap also seems more feminine for some reason.
August 7th, 2008 - 4:02 am
Apart from the fact that men who wear belts face great embarrassment if they remove them from their trousers – not very dignified to have the trousers sliding down because the appparatus which holds them up is taken away – I think I agree that the belt is mnore measculine and the hairbrush feminine. To me the “masculine” implements would include the cane, the birch (sorry Pandora – it was used at great Public Schools like Eton as well as the implement used for judicial corporal punishment in prisons), the cat-o-nine tails (used in the Navy), the Lochgelli Tawse, and the carpet slipper. “Feminine” implements would also include clothes brush, spatualas etc, flip-flops, light tawses and rulers (used on the hand)and light paddles (used otk).
But of course the hand is gender neutral:-)
August 7th, 2008 - 1:51 pm
To Me hairbrushes are female toys lol no matter what sometime i think guys buy girlfriend/wife a new hairbrushes for s reason to get spanked by the female in his life he may be thinking he know why he getting this.
doubt sale clerk will be thinking or wondering why the guy buying a hairbrush
also a guy may have a hairbrush on hand in case it is need for his bottom and when girlfriend /wife going use it for spanking heck that why i have lot of hairbrushes in cased it needed when time come for my own spanking
guys like me can just hand the hairbrush to the female when they going be punish for something
belt i seen male and female wear them when i see female wearing one i wonder if she ever has it for other reason and has she use it for other thing then just wearing it
August 7th, 2008 - 2:03 pm
I’ve read many people’s childhood accounts along the lines of, “Mom used her hand or a hairbrush, but when we were in big trouble, Dad used his belt.” The belt seems to have a more fearsome reputation — maybe because it’s associated with paternal punishment, maybe because it’s a bigger implement … maybe for other reasons. It’s sort of a “which came first” thing: Is the belt reserved for “big trouble” because it is actually harsher, or is just perceived as harsher because it’s often traditionally reserved for “big trouble”? Also, I’ve noticed that people tend to refer to “hairbrush spankings,” but to “belt whippings.” (I’ve heard of “belt spankings,” but not as often.) “Whipping” is a harsher, colder word than “spanking” (to me, anyway), so maybe those semantics have something to do with it.
In any case, regardless of reputations, my own (adult) bottom can bear (bare?) witness to the testimony of many other child and adult spanking recipients: The hairbrush can be just as bad as the belt, and often worse.
Jeff
August 8th, 2008 - 8:08 am
While I do enjoy administering ivory and/or ebony to a deserving hardened female brat, you know that I think the hairbrush is a perfect implement for a woman. At the risk of being a sexist, I think the extra force that a small, heavy wooden implement brings to an determined female spanker is frightening. It is also ironic that an item used to make a woman more beautiful to a male can be used to punish as well.
Conversely, I think a belt or strap is often what women think of when they fear a spanking. Many think it is romantic for a guy to use a supple, well-conditioned leather strap or belt on their innocent, but wily female bottoms.
Oh, I think that a man’s palm is maybe the best spanking implement as it often provides great coverage, and the guy gets to touch the rear view, not just watch the object of his appreciation. Why let an implement have all the fun?
Brad D.
August 8th, 2008 - 9:51 am
In general you’re probably right but my aunt seemed to use a belt more often than any other implement (aside from her hand). In fact, she kept a belt hanging on a hook at the top of the stairway leading to the basement. Whenever any of my cousin’s behavior warranted a serious spanking, my aunt would tell them to go get ‘the belt.’ The mere command often provoked instant chaos with my cousins crying a pleading for a reprieve. The belt was brown, long, and wide and was probably a man’s belt but it was clearly my aunt’s implement of choice.
August 8th, 2008 - 1:48 pm
Pixie,
I’m not so sure I really identify with the idea of categorizing implements..gender is sometimes a confusing issue for me.
But I do know for certain that, whatever the theme of your blog, you are my very favorite spankee.
Roses are the wedding cake, violets are the rice..no one has to doubt that Pixie is very nice!
Happiness…….:)
August 8th, 2008 - 8:29 pm
Hairbrush being Feminine!!!!
I take offense to that!
August 8th, 2008 - 11:00 pm
That second photo….OMG!
August 8th, 2008 - 11:06 pm
Smallhanded – I’ve heard a few real life accounts of F/f spankings and even done a couple of such scenes, but they do seem to occur less frequently than M/f belt scenes or F/f hairbrush scenes.
Erica – Makes categorizing simple then! All implements = M/Erica.
T – Yes. Wooden spoons fall on my mental list of more feminine implements.
Radagast – That’s part of what I love about the belt. Easily portable, doesn’t raise an eyebrow in the vanilla world, and always right at hand when needed.
funbun – Sort of off topic, but thinking about spanking with the bare hand, I think there is a bit of variation from person to person. Even within the same gender, the hand can feel different depending on size, technique, and power behind each smack. I suppose the very same can be said about one using any implement (hand included) though!
Dr. Ken – Sounds like a wonderful time!! With party fever in the air lately, I’m getting all the more bummed not to be able to attend any this season. Hopefully I’ll be able to attend one next time around and see you there.
tim – Juliet is a doll and was in top form the day we shot with Clare. They were both wonderful.
Eric – I didn’t even realize that a hairbrush was a common spanking implement until I was an adult and read stories about its use online. Maybe part of the association was from reading these stories that often featured females using hairbrushes more so than men.
Pandora – I think of the big paddles as slightly more male for the school principal reason, but occasionally used by females in sororities or cheerleading. Other than that, I’d agree that it seems that most harsher implements are male and there is that funny connection in shape as well! Very insightful.
Dreams of Horses – No, there is no reflection on the spanker due to choice of implement. I think these associations simply date back to olden times like you described. And I absolutely agree that the razor strop is a “male” implement. I picture the naughty one being dragged out to the woodshed for a dose of the strop from dad. Eeeep.
SpankerGuy – One of the models we worked with told us that her mom would also order her to pick her own switch when she misbehaved as a girl. She said she knew not to pick one that was really light and wimpy because her mom would then go out and pick a wayyy more suitable one. I can’t imagine how scary that must have been for her and even worse when you had to pick three!
Steve(UK) – Hmmm. Yes, I imagine it would be very odd for a man to spank with a woman’s shoe. Well, unless that woman was the one over his lap and the shoe was plucked freshly from her foot. Or perhaps one that she made the huge mistake of trying to throw at his head.
Oh, and I hate the clothesbrush. Richard Windsor has one and there is nothing dainty about it.
Serial Spanker – I can see the appeal of both the belt and the brush (though it’s often hard to remember those feelings when I’m in the middle of being on the receiving end). I can’t say I feel the same about switches to the thighs. :-/ Oh how I fear that.
Linde – Good lists. If you were to experience a spanking or more now with a “maternal” implement from a male or a “paternal implement from a female, would your lists change or do you think once they are categorized one way in your mind they stay that way?
T – That does seem traditionally maternal too.
Winchester – The hand is always great and wonderfully gender neutral. And even more so than a man’s belt, the hand is always … errrmmm … handy.
Mike – Well, if a bald gentleman were to walk up to the store clerk with four or five hairbrushes, I’d say that would definitely be reason to wonder what’s going on!
And I suppose it could be for either for him to use on a bottom or purchased in the hopes that someone will use them on his. Interesting point. I always envisioned the one giving the spankings as being most likely to provide the implements unless he/she orders the spankee to purchase his own as part of the punishment.
Jeff – A whipping is such a scary and harsh word. One of the few implements with its own term for its use (most implements = spanking, cane = caning, paddle = paddling, but belt = whipping? scary)
Brad D – “an item used to make a woman more beautiful to a male can be used to punish as well” Neat observation! And never let the implements have all the fun. They don’t seem to appreciate it as much as the hand or the person said hand is attached to.
Kevin D – Oh a designated spanking implement on display sends shivers down my spine. If I lived in that house, I’d try to usher my friends past as quickly as possibly so that they wouldn’t by chance ask why a man’s belt was hanging in the stairway.
dani – Just how my mind sorts things. I am always making lists and sorting things in and out of groups. You should have seen my sticker collection as a kid.
Brushstrokes – Teehehe. Certainly no offense intended, Brushstrokes.
It’s all in how they are used more so than their traditional domestic purpsoses anyway. And I have no doubt that if ever I had the chance to go over your lap for a dose of the brush, you’d have me regretting ever considering the hairbrush a feminine implement.
2Good – I know! It was a lucky google find!
June 27th, 2009 - 2:28 pm
My thinking is the same, but I have a preference I’ve never heard of for silver hairbrushes (well, plate at least) rather than wood, I love the idea of something associated with vanity and luxury being transformed into a tool for chastisement.