Thank you to hairbrushman for suggesting this topic. A year ago, almost to the date, I wrote a post called Spanked To Tears where I shared what it takes to get me to cry from a spanking. But I don’t believe that I addressed the particular point of hairbrushman’s question which asked how do I feel about it as well as how do I feel about crying on camera in particular.
Tears are most often welcome as I’ll feel a huge reduction in stress and tension when they’re shed. Even though the spanking may continue for a while after I begin to cry which can be stressful in itself, there is an endorphin based release that tears bring that soothes and helps cope.
I can’t make myself cry and sometimes, no matter how much I hope for a flood of tears, it doesn’t happen. It’s not necessarily indicative of a lack of remorse for what I’ve done or the need for increased severity. It can be terribly frustrating and disappointing, but the tears have to form on their own – I can’t force them.
Sometimes I think it would be great if I could force the tears to flow, not only for the endorphin rush, but also for dramatic purposes in a spanking scene. Then again, if real tears were so easy to produce, perhaps they wouldn’t be so highly coveted and magical.
That being said, while I’m not embarrassed or ashamed to cry on camera, sometimes I will get a little self-conscious. As I’ve said in previous posts, tears are beautiful but snot is not. Unfortunately, a runny nose is a natural part of crying, especially when you’re positioned bottom up and head down, but it’s not something I’m keen on having captured on camera. Calling a cut in the middle of a great scene to ask to ask for a Kleenex would be a shame and so I’m left to desperately try to sniffle as effectively yet quietly as possible. Not an easy task, but I wonder if I could practice this technique by doing yoga while watching sad movies.
June 19th, 2008 - 1:16 pm
i would not like to see you upset to tears really a suggestion could you and some of the other girls wear tennis dresses misbehaving and receive spankings from the young ladies best wishes tim
June 19th, 2008 - 5:12 pm
I was just wondering with your dealings with the wonderful spanker’s on Punishedbrats if they have ever caused you to tear up say from the pain of the spanking? I like you have a very difficult time crying and it is usually only when I am over the knee of my hubby for a real punishment spanking that I can let the tears flow. But not always. I do find it intresting in what makes some people cry and others not. But keep up the great work! You are a joy to watch and I look forward to all the new updates on your blog and on Punishedbrats.
Alex
June 19th, 2008 - 6:48 pm
“Tryin’ hard to bring the wter to your eyes.
Hopin’ it will stop her from whippin’ your behind.”
There is a site named Spanked to Tears that I ran across awhile ago, which boasts a picture of you
June 19th, 2008 - 7:31 pm
“Tryin’ hard to bring the water to your eyes.
Hopin’ it will stop her from whippin’ your behind.”
– Stevie Wonder “Livin’ for the City”
There is a site named Spanked to Tears that I ran across awhile ago, which boasts a picture of your tear-streaked face. While tears and spanking are inevitably linked, so is the ick-factor. I’d never want to see you, or any other model, beaten bruised and bloody merely to achieve real tears, as seems to be the whole point of many videos and sites.
Tears are a display of submission and remorse, which is the point of spanking as a corrective measure, and for many, tears are part of the “complete package.” Personally, I find an interesting scenario, attractive costuming, and a well-acted interplay (both verbal and physical) to be key to “believability.” Otherwise, what’s the point in watching? If tears come along too, that’s an added bonus. Your instincts are on target, Pixie.
June 19th, 2008 - 7:37 pm
(Spend a few minutes composing twisted thoughts, and the computer is just too impatient to wait. All I can say is, “DOH!!” Sorry for the duplication, Pixie.
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June 19th, 2008 - 8:07 pm
Very interesting post…interesting to think about. But what brought me here to comment was the picture. I literally LOLed!
You should do a scene where you’re spanked for making your future spanker laugh at the wrong time. It would certainly fit in with the sense of humor at your site.
June 19th, 2008 - 10:11 pm
I’ve read that in the movies, sometimes tears are produced by inserting glycerin drops in the actor’s (or actress’) eyes. If you tried that and it worked for you, it would allow you to APPEAR to be crying on camera, but you would not have a runny nose.
At night, I always use those Tears Naturale drops before going to sleep. They seem like tears… and they are 100 per cent safe.
Cheers,
Dan
June 20th, 2008 - 1:51 am
jDear Pixie,
My feeling about crying is: if it happens, it happens. You can try to fake it or force, but all too often that’s the way it comes out looking to the viewer–faked and forced. The problem, I suspect, is that–no matter how much the actors and actresses may throw themselves into their role–they can’t get past the fact that they’re acting out a scenario. The spanking may be real, but the reason for it isn’t. And no real reason means no remorse and therefore, no tears.
Besides, we all know a spanking can be very effective even if it doesn’t produce tears. I remember one time the lady I loved was obviously in full-tilt brat-play mode. She’d already been spanked twice that day, and it only took her until early afternoon to earn another. And believe me, it was a good one!
She didn’t cry, but when it was over, she stood there rubbing her bottom with a surprised yet happy look on her face and she said, “I actually think I’m going to have to behave myself for a few hours”…..
Darn, I miss her….
Dr. Ken
June 20th, 2008 - 8:59 am
thank you Pixie for your view on the subject of crying from a spanking,both on and off camera. i respect all the other views you got as well,from your loyal fans. its an interesting subject in the spanking community,and im happy to have brought it up.
June 20th, 2008 - 9:44 pm
I love all your scenes. I appreciate the emotion that goes into every scene you do. You’re so believable. I don’t need to see a whole bunch of sobbing scenes though. It’s fine occasionally. What I’d rather see is you joking around when you’re in BIG trouble and trying your spanker’s patience or being an EXTRA defiant brat pressing your luck. That mischievous look in your eyes. That’s what I like. It’s just my preference.
June 21st, 2008 - 6:40 am
Hey Pixie, great well written post and one that I can truly relate too. Like you, I can’t cry to order but when I have real punishment (i.e for real reasons) the lecture beforehand alone often gets me in tears and asking for a reprieve. I know this may seem weird as I am supposedly someone who would crave spanking, but when its real, it hurts. Role playing and stuff are not the same, although I have by now trained myself (and I am training to be a proper actress too lol!) so that as soon as I have a meaningful role play situation, my headspace is there as if it were actually real. It took me a couple of years to be able to do this but I can, but it depends upon how realistic my co-stars are, how good the scenery/setting is and my emotions on the day so I can’t always do it to order.
They are still the same real tears and I get catharsis release from this and when it happens in a 121 or shoot it feels just as good as after real punishment, and of course the sore bottom as a reminder helps tie it all together!
Love from the UK, love your site, you rokkk!
Emma
x
June 21st, 2008 - 4:29 pm
Hey Pixie!
You hit the nail on the head with this one for me! The release from crying is amazing, yet it’s such a hard thing for me to do! Like you said, ya just can’t force it! For me the easiest way to get there is when Nick gets inside my head…that really sets the emotional tone for me!
Thanks!
~sarah
June 22nd, 2008 - 9:18 am
Crying is a fascinating topic. Control and self-control has something to do with it, but explaining it is difficult.
I don’t cry from pain. Broke a leg playing hockey and was cracking jokes except for when someone moved the leg.
However, I do cry from sentimental memories. It is hard for me to look through old family pictures and seeing people I loved who are now gone. I even have a hard time looking at pics of my kids when they were young.
Another interesting topic is the differences between men and women when it comes to crying.
June 22nd, 2008 - 10:59 am
sometime i think it ok for the spankee to cry as long it was real and mean the lesson is being learn. i mostly don’t like to see a female cry it make me sad then make me wish i was doing the crying for them instead of them doing the crying lol
one thing i do think about if the model is crying or a regualr female is crying it mean the spankings they getting is really hurting them. but i guess some female don’t mind crying maybe they want to cry to them spanking not good enough unless they cry. then it mean the spanking was worth it. i see spanking clips where female was crying during then after the spanking which could mean it hurt and lesson was learn.
June 23rd, 2008 - 8:50 am
TIM – love tennis dresses and skirts. They often make them with attached shorts sewn into them, but it might be worth the hunt to find the ones without for a future scene.
Alex – I have teared up a couple of times during PB scenes. Once because I had asked not to be hit in a certain spot that was already badly bruised and had formed a lump, but with what seemed uncanny accuracy, the belt kept hitting that particular spot. I cried not only from pain but out of anger as I felt it was being done on purpose. After the scene I was told that wasn’t the case and it was more that the more you try to avoid something, the more you’re drawn to it. The other time was a member requested scene in which the member asked that tears be a part of it. During the spanking the dialogue ceased and I thought terrible things – upsetting images, loved ones dying, repeated vicious words that had been hurled at me in the past – and that got the tears flowing … at a price as it wasn’t a good cleansing cry, it was one that left me drained and even more sad as I tried to once again push away those awful thoughts.
Usually when we shoot scenes at PB and as is the case when I’ve shot with most other companies, I’m focused on the dialgue (scripted or ad lib banter) and I’m playing a role of a naughty brat. I’m not often being punished for something that I’ve truly done and have the emotional connection to. The spankings may hurt very badly, but I need that true emotional element to cause the tears.
Dreams of Horses – I googled and found that spanked to tears site. I believe my pic must be long gone by now as it it’s a TGP site that has photo links to spanking pay sites … and errrmm a bit more too.
Tears that naturally accompany a spanking are a treasure, but I agree that it would be a pretty scary thing to have all limits and safety boundaries ignored just to achieve them. While I’ve never experienced such a thing in a scene, I have had a couple of spankers tell me they were going to spank/strap/etc me until I showed them tears. Earlier on I would just submit but stubbornly refuse to cry even if I had to purposely dissociate to get through. Now I just put an end to that sort of play before it gets to that point because I know it isn’t the right way to go about things for me.
JC – That would be a very fun playful scene.
Dan – I don’t think I could ever in good conscience use eye drops. Faking tears to me would be like faking a spanking by adding blush to the bottom. Using them in vanilla movies makes sense, but to do it in spanking videos would feel like cheating.
Dr. Ken – You hit the nail on the head! Or perhaps the brat on the bottom … whichever the case may be.
hairbrushman – thanks again for suggesting a hot topic of conversation
2Good – Delivering a sassy comeback at the perfectly ‘wrong’ time is one of the most fun parts of a scene to me.
And just as it’s hard to get into the mindset of crying when I’m trying to interact and say bratty stuff, it’s hard to come up with bratty lines when I’m sobbing.
Emma – Yes, you and I sound alike in a lot of ways with regard to crying as well as craving a spanking but feeling the pain. I’ve heard that some really enjoy the pain in and of itself, but if I’m not misinterpretting, you, like me, enjoy many aspects of the spanking but are not simply in search of the pain.
sarah – the emotional tone is so key. I think trust has a huge part to do with it as well. You must trust Nick a lot not only to let him see you cry but also to get inside your head to bring you to the point of tears in the first place.
Brad – No tears after a broken leg? I think I’d definitely be crying in that situation – as much from being scared as from the pain.
Do you find it harder to cry being male and receiving many social messages that it’s not ok to show emotion?
mike – a lack of tears certainly doesn’t mean that the spanking didn’t hurt. I think many of us can attest to receiving intensely painful spankings and not shedding a tear and as Emma mentioned, she has begun to cry at times from a lecture alone. But I’d agree that from a video perspective, it does make for a very powerful and extra convincing scene to witness a spanking coupled with real tears.