I have a few preference questions to pose in upcoming posts.  I’m not sure if the ideas have been sparked by the sessions I’ve done recently, from mulling over scene ideas, or mainly from my never ending quest to understand this interest in spanking we share.  It’s probably a good combination of the three and in any case, I’m glad for the inspiration.  Nothing is worse than feeling the pressure to come up with a blog topic when I’ve hit a writer’s block!

So my first question is about pulling a spankee into position or at least into the room where the punishment is about to take place.  Sometimes the girl (I’m using feminine terms here as I’m envisioning myself in the role of the naughty girl … feel free to substitute masculine ones as needed) will be compliant, either submitting to her fate or not knowing what’s about to come.  There’s no resistance and she’ll willingly (albeit nervously) bend over or take her place over the knee.  Other times, she’ll have to be marched in and placed in position.  When this occurs, what is your preferred method of getting there?  Feel free to answer in respect to viewing a scene or taking on the role of spanker or spankee yourself.  Here are some of the ways in which I’ve been moved along and my personal preference commentary with each one.

* Verbally commanded in a firm tone to go to a specific location or to get into position

* Led by the hand – A mixture of a caring gesture and yet dominance.  Love it.  Sense of intimacy (and I don’t mean in a romantic way, just in a more personal manner).

* Grasped by the upper arm – Absolutely great.  I really feel in trouble.  Sends true punishment vibes and is preferred for less intimate role plays.

* Clasped on the back of my neck – A little scary for me as it signals fears of being choked.  I know it’s the back of the neck, but is a little too close for personal tastes to being taken by the throat.

* Dragged by the ear – Kind of neutral on this one.  Once in a while it’s totally fine.  I hate how my pale ears turn fire engine red after being tugged though.

* Pulled by the hair – Perfectly cool when I have a pony tail or pig tails.  They almost beg to be grasped.  Reaching along my scalp and grabbing a big fist full of my hair isn’t a hot button for me, but it’s not a hard limit if that’s something that is really important to the spanker.  Just don’t yank my hair out or snap my head back, please.

* Pushed on the upper back – Not such a fan of this one.  Being guided to a room with a firm yet caring open hand on my upper back is ok.  So is equal resistance as I try to rise up and fight my way off the lap.  But a big push that sends me flying or smashes me into the floor isn’t my cup of tea.

* Picked up and carried – Love this as long as I feel safe and that the spanker is not about to buckle under me or drop me!

What do you like / dislike and how does it impact a scene for you?

I greatly enjoyed reading everyone’s responses and the theories behind the guesses my “Which Is It?” post.  We just might have to play that game again!

The correct answer is #3 was not a real reason I was spanked.  You see, I was in fact pulled over by a police officer for passing on the right.  It was a two lane road that was soon to go down to one, and I was stuck behind a slow driver in the left lane.  I pulled around him, but was then pulled over myself as it is a moving violation to pass on the right (apparently even when the person in the left lane is going to speed of a snail).  I was informed that I was driving like a “knucklehead” but I was not given a ticket.  My husband did not spank me because he said he would have done the same thing if he was driving!  LOL.

I was indeed spanked for scaring the bejeezus out of him when leaping out of the shadows and then laughing my head off at his startled reaction. 

I was also given a few swats for gloating a bit too much over fixing the checkbook.  Hmph.  Maybe next time I won’t fix it, eh?

And although many people guessed that #2 was the fake story, it was in fact not only true, but of the 3, it was the one I was spanked for the most.  You see, my husband’s strong reaction was to the thought that if I was ever in a truly dangerous situation – attacked, stalked, assualted, etc – that I would simply give up and not fight for my life and well-being.   It may seem like an odd reason at first glance, but hopefully the backstories add some insight.

Regardless, I’m sure many of us have been spanked or given spankings for seemingly odd reasons.  Any odd ones you’ve experienced or heard about?

I am greatly enjoying everyone’s theories as to which was not a reason I was spanked.    I will reveal the correct answer and the backstories soon.  First though, I wanted to give an update on Cause for Paws.

The eBay auctions have wrapped up and were wonderfully successful.  I hope that the winning bidders will greatly enjoy their DVDs, spanking toys, books, outfits, and more.  Many thanks to

Cane-iac

Shadow Lane

Chelsea Pfeiffer

Northern Spanking

Richard Windsor

Bob Sacamano

Tom The Dom

To date we are up to $3583 !!!  We are soon coming to a close with this year’s fundraiser as I’m asking for all donations to please be in by September 1st.   Already it’s going to be a wonderful gift to bestow upon the shelter and it’s sure to be a great (and looooong) thank you spanking video plus a fabulous raffle drawing. 

And remember last month I posted a link to Devlin’s blog to vote on the photo to use for the cover of the Amazon Kindle version of his book, A Maid For All Seasons, Volume III?  Well, the votes were cast, the cover created, and the e-book is now available for purchase.  Check it out!!

Ever play the ice breaker / travel game, 3 Truths and a Lie?  I was engaging in a couple rounds of this not long ago and thought I’d test out a spanking version. 

Now I’ve been spanked by my husband for some pretty random things in our playful mock discipline manner, but can you figure out which of the following was not cause for a red bottom?

1. Jumped out from around a dark corner and completely startled him

2. Said if Iwas in a real life version of the movie Halloween, I’d be the first one dead because I’d be too scared to run or hide

3. Was pulled over for passing on the right

4. Gloated too much over correcting an error in the checkbook

Can you spot which one it is?  Or am I totally fibbing and they are all true … or all false … or … hmmm.

Sometimes when I wish to refer to this group of ours that enjoys spanking, I am stuck for a good term.  I’ll often say “spankos” but I know that not everyone is fond of the word.  Every time I go to write a post and type the word spanko, I pause wondering if I’m going to make someone cringe.  Spanking enthusiasts is equally common and more P.C. but it’s a mouthful (not to mention a handful to type!).  The thesaurus is of course completely and utterly useless in this case.  Can you help?

How do you refer to those of us that share our passion for spanking?  Spankos?  Spanking enthusiasts?  Spanking lovers (though that could be interpreted in many different ways)?  Patting Pals (ok, now I’m just getting silly)?

Believe it or not we are winding down the Cause for Paws charity drive for 2010.  I hope to have everything wrapped up and all donations in by about September 1st (aaack … September!  Where did my summer go?) as the walk will be held shortly thereafter.

Today I have put up 9 DVD listings courtesy of Northern Spanking and Shadow Lane!!  These will be 7 day auctions so the end date on the following items will be August 19th.

Northern Spanking’s Wheatley Manor DVD

Northern Spanking’s Hot Fuzz DVD (so brand new, I don’t even have a DVD related photo so I have put up a picture of Amy Hunter who is hotness personified!!)

Northern Spanking’s Strictly Come Spanking DVD

Northern Spanking’s Reformation At The Abbey DVD

Shadow Lane’s Bed Bad & Beyond DVD

Shadow Lane’s Bare Assets DVD

Shadow Lane’s Brat Whack DVD

Shadow Lane’s After School Discipline DVD

Shadow Lane’s Super Spanking Revue 3 DVD

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And don’t forget to get your bids in on the last round of listings.  They end August 14th approximately 6pm EST!!  Don’t let them get away.

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Now that I’m all done playing on eBay, I am off to work on tonight’s Punished Brats update featuring the adorable Lorraine (yayyyy!)

and then it’s time to hit the books and practice metabolic calculations (ummm … yay?).

It’s auction madness time for Cause for Paws.  I have just listed 18 items on eBay … all starting with bids of $9.99 each.  Lots of spanking and vanilla items up for auction and all of the proceeds will go to the shelter.  Can’t beat that. 

Click on the photos below to be taken directly to item page on eBay.  See something you like?  Be sure to bid today as these auctions are only up for 7 days (end date August 14th).

I will be adding a few more items early next week and then wrapping it up as the closing date for the charity is September 1st.  And remember, if you’d like to make a direct donation, just click on the CauseforPaws2010 page for more details on how you can contribute via snail mail or via credit card.  Anyone donating $25 or more will automatically be entered into the raffle drawing for more fun prizes including memberships to Punished Brats and Clare Fonda’s sites, a Punished Brats DVD of your choice, an autographed Cause for Paws t-shirt and more!

  Dug into my own costume treasure trove for this one.  My Gretel costume from Faulty Fairytales.  It’s an adorable outfit and great for wearing to parties, role playing, or keeping as a colletor’s item. 

  A very ouchie paddle autographed by Richard Windsor

  What’s left of the hairbrush Chelsea Pfeiffer broke on my bottom during the filming of Chelsea Spanks Pixie  ***Update!***  The missing brush handle has been found and will be provided to the winning bidder.  A complete set now!

  Chelsea Pfeiffer’s SpaceGirls! DVD featuring Pixie & Ashley Fires

  A set of spanking books by Bob Sacamano

Beatiful hand crafted jewelry by TomTheDom

  Rainbow Flourite & Black Tourmaline pendant set

  Amethyst & Black Tourmaline pendant set

  Lapis Lazuli pendant

  Labradorite pendant

Lots of wonderful items from Cane-iac!

  A Green Rubber Paddle — yeeeowch!

   A Sizzler Walnut Paddle with holes — double yeeeowch!

   A rubber flogger

  Adorable but strict, Mr. Bend Over Bear

From Hell’s Belles

  A Love Sucks belt buckle

  A Love Kills patent leather purse

  A patent leather pirate girl purse

How do you measure the severity of a spanking?  It is something so subjective.  When someone says they give moderate spankings, that might actually be severe or mild in the opinion of the one on the receiving end.  Hard to know for sure until you start playing and providing feedback.  Yet an outside observer might rate the spanking altogether different than either participant based on their interpretation of the reactions, the swing, the physical state of the bottom (redness, marking, etc). 

I think intensity is related but not the same as severity.  A spanking can be very intense, but not necessarily severe.  Intensity to me has much more to do with the headspace and the overal emotional tone of the spanking whereas the severity is more about the physical aspects.  That being said, if the atmosphere surrounding a spanking were to take a serious tone, be emotionally deep, and then the act itself be only a series of light pats you’d give a puppy, then I think the intensity would be considerably diminished.

In my opinion, severity is on a scale such as this:

Mild – Light, playful hand spanks.  A warm up.  Not too much sting or burn.  Results in a pale pink bottom that is slightly warm to the touch.

Moderate – Heavier hand spankings.  A more rapid pace.  Increased sting and/or thud sensations.  Gets the attention and evokes a reaction.  Definitely a red bottom that is kicking off some heat.  Some use of smaller implements on a well warmed bottom.  No swinging from the rafters!!

Firm - Use of lighter implements (hairbrush) at a rapid fire speed or use of heavier ones (large paddle, bathbrush, strap) at all.  In some cases, a heavy hand is also considered quite hard.  Causes the spankee to gasp or cry out.  Results in super red bottoms of practiced players and easily the marks on someone that is fair skinned or not accustomed to frequent play.

Severe – High levels of pain and discomfort that will be felt for a couple of days.  Likely to cause some marking even when the bottom is accustomed to regular play.  Takes the bottom to his or her personal limits (without crossing over).  

Over The Line – Anything that is done with the intent of causing major bruising or any bleeding.  Any play where the bottom is badly bruised or the skin is bleeding but play continues. 

Remember, this is just my personal opinion and my own scale.  What is over the line for me, may be someone else’s ideal.  And what may be moderate for me, may be too severe for another. 

I prefer a moderate to firm spanking.  I like when my reactions are completely genuine and I feel the warmth building as the spanking continues.  I am safety concious though as well as emotionally cautious and don’t like when it seems that the goal is to truly damage the flesh or the mind.  Any sort of disregard for safety or degrading acts/comments are beyond turn-offs to me. 

What is your take on levels of severity?  It is so very different for everyone, so I’d like to know how you decide what might fall under the various terms and what your preference is – in either giving, receiving, or viewing.  No right or wrong answers here so please be respectful of everyone’s opinion.

After quite a busy week, I am taking it easy (well, sort of) today.  Hanging at home, sitting with just the slightest discomfort yet at my desk, and working on various projects. 

I had a blast at the SSNY  party on Saturday night.  I had the chance to meet, chat with, and play with some really great folks.  My poor bottom was pretty sore by the end of the night and one gentleman gave me a bandaid to help make it better.    A skull and crossbones bandaid at that!  I think that makes my bottom official pirate’s booty.  Arrrrrgh!

I’m still working on putting the eBay auctions together for Cause for Paws.  Several of the auction items have arrived including the hairbrush Chelsea Pfeiffer broke on my bottom (note that the handle even snapped right off!), books from Bob Sacamano, and some lovely pendants from TomTheDom.  I plan to list the items this week. 

Right now I’m adding more scenes to the Punished Brats Clips4Sale store. 

 We are adding more clips every day so be sure to check it out to find lots of our classic and “lost” scenes!

I’m also noodling through some ideas for changes to the Punished Brats website.  No major overhaul, just a little tidying and freshening up.  I’d call it a spring cleaning, but Spring has long since past by now.  I want to get a more accurate tally of our videos and photos (the count got a bit off when I was out on sick leave), make new and different tour pages, and change up the index page.  Hopefully by the week’s end I’ll be ready to publish the changes and you can enjoy the fresh look. 

On the vanilla side of things, I need to carve out some time to tend to my garden.  It’s weed city over in the flower bed!!  Thankfully, my veggie patch continues to thrive and we are now harvesting tons of yellow cherry tomatoes.  I know, shouldn’t they be red?  A perfect spanked cherry red?  But variety is the spice of life and there is usually plenty of cherry redness around here as it is. 

Well, I should get back to my various projects so I can scratch things off the to-do list and then rest up a bit.  Lily Anna and I have a session tomorrow and I want to go in with boundless bratty energy.  If you’re interested in meeting with us, be sure to check out our sessions page – lilyannapixiespankingsessions

**Edited to add** I was sifting through my saved files and found the perfect comic to go along with this post.  Click to read the to-do list.  Ha!!!

Last week, Devlin O’Neill wrote to me asking if I could help in providing a photo for use on the cover of his forthcoming Amazon Kindle release of A Maid For All Seasons, Volume III: Education At Red Blossom College.  I was super  flattered and only too happy to comply.  And rather than try to scrounge up photos that might be similar to what he was after, I decided to put together a uniform that came as close to the one described (plaid skirt, tie, white shirt, ankle socks, black loafers, and most importantly - white cotton panties) and asked my husband to appear as the strict spanking professor. 

We took a number of shots yesterday and I breathed a huge sigh of relief when he replied that he indeed liked how they turned out!  He is now sorting through and working on making the final decision as to which one should be used for the digital cover.  He has posted the contenders on his blog and posted a poll where readers can vote for their favorite in effort to make the decision process a little easier.  Pop on over to Devlin O’Neill’s Blog and help choose!

I have started reading the non-Kindle version (despite being a tech geek, I don’t have an e-book reader yet!) and I know you will greatly enjoy this novel.  Reading certain passages gave me that pre-spanking tummy flip feeling!  Since it’s supposed to storm here tomorrow, it might be a good day to dress up in my Red Blossom uniform and curl up with a good book …