I received a couple of interesting emails recently.  One was asking spanking purists and the other was a request for a sement of additional non-spanking punishments to be added to the Punished Brats website. 

Let’s first address the term “spanking purist”.  Some claim the title proudly acknowledging that their interest in the fetish world is restricted to that of spanking and spanking only.  No back whipping, no bondage, no tickling, no bare foot worship, nothing but spanking.  Others use the term with the intent of a slight dig that those with a spanking-and-spanking-only outlook are perhaps a bit snobbish or close-minded when it comes to other seemingly related interests. 

But how do you truly define a spanking purist?  Is it one that only enjoys OTK hand spankings?  Some have told me that is the proper and ONLY way to deliver a spanking.  What if a paddle is used?  That could be termed paddling and therefore not a simple spanking (especially if said paddle is one of those large frat style boards to be delivered to the recipient in a bent over position).  Is one booted out of the purity camp if they consider implements or other positions to be acceptable play?  Is a strap on the bottom still spanking pure and a cat o’nine tails on the back something else entirely?

And what about those non-spanking punishments that are more domestic or traditional in nature that are often seen coupled with spankings like corner time, writing lines, mouth soaping, enforced early bed time?  Those things are not spanking so do they cross the line as well? 

It was those sorts of additional punishments that were requested as a separate section on the website; I assume with full clip segments of the girl in the corner or writing lines.  A very high percentage of the clips currently filmed end with the closing shot of the girl in the corner, but not a full five, ten minute, or hour long clip.  Do many spanking enthusiasts enjoy seeing these other punishments in full length?  Could a spanking purist enjoy such a thing (my guess is no) or would even the closing shot of a girl writing lines or getting a mouth soaping ruin the thrill?

Tell me, how do you define a spanking purist?  Would you consider yourself one?  Can other related punishments be appealing as long as spanking is still the primary focus?

Blogging had to take a backseat for a little bit as I tended to vanilla matters, but I’m back again.   

I recently saw a commercial for an online dating service where the guy claims the 9 gazillion point personality questionnaire used by the service makes them superior to other means of meeting a partner.  He says if he met someone through a soccer website, it would have to be the World Cup all year long for them in order for them to have any connection and keep the relationship alive.  Hmmmm.

I understand the company is trying to market themselves and highlight what makes them unique, but I find the paid actor’s logic a bit flawed.  I’ve been fortunate enough to meet many, many fellow spanking enthusiasts through parties, shoots, and of course, online.  We start out knowing we only share this one common interest – spanking.  Over time we learn if our viewpoints and roles in spanking play are compatible.  And since we humans are not one-dimensional, sometimes we hit it off on other levels as well because we have other shared interests and passions.  Just because we meet through the world of spanking doesn’t mean it has to be Spank Fest all the time … or does it?

Do you enjoy or even seek to meet spankos that share other common interests or do you prefer to keep things a bit more separate in your life?  Vanilla friends for vanilla interests and spanking friends for Spank Fest only?

 
Cautiously mixing that chocolate and vanilla goodness

I take caution in mixing my vanilla and spanking worlds since I am not open about my interest to absolutely everyone I know, but I love when a spanking acquaintance blossoms into a well-rounded friendship.  It gives us more to talk about and it can even enhance the spanking dynamics.  How about you?

Richard Windsor encouraged me to take a look at some of the keywords that people use in search engines to find my blog.  I have now spent way too much time being amused by some of the unusual phrases such as “a real bear from the woods spanking another bear”, “clare fonda hamster”, and “I want a pixie in my panties”. 

But one phrase caught my eye as a truly wonderful idea – “Bedtime spanking breakfast in bed”.  Add this one to my fantasy list.  I envision being gently awakened as the covers are tugged away and then given a warm, playful good morning spanking first over the seat of my pajamas and then on the bare.  Then my charming spanker and I would cozy up back in bed together and enjoy a delightful breakfast in bed consisting of eggs, bacon, toast, milk, and fresh fruit.

Perhaps the person who entered that phrase though had something much less fun and punishment oriented in mind – a painful spanking delivered at bedtime and then made to get up the next morning to serve the spanker his breakfast in bed before heading to the corner or some dreadful thing. 

Nope, my fantasy is way better.  Don’t you agree?  A little over the knee and eggs over easy to start your day off right?

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I received an email from a reader asking about the fear of spanking marks being accidentally discovered. 

Receiving a spanking can be an experience unlike any other when, if done right, the subspace and lingering feelings can be very heady indeed. But in order to get there, some force and subsequent bruising and discoloration are needed. Hence the event is not concluded at the end of the spanking, but the marks and bruises can carry on for days. Are any of your readers concerned about being ‘outed’ by a boyfriend or girlfriend? a trip to the doctor’s for an unrelated issue? in a gym locker room? or any other accidental viewing by another party? It sometimes seems that you almost have to plan out the few days and hope nothing unusual happens. Perhaps I’m paranoid moving from the spanker to spankee part, but since this is one fetish that is REALLY not socially accepted and can have personal and economic implications, the cautions needed seem to diminish the ‘letting go’ part of the experience. What do you think?

 Ok, so lots to think about here.  Are marks and bruises an absolute?  I think a healthy red glow is, but bruising isn’t necessarily something everyone wants or in the case of seasoned players, not something that can be easily achieved.  But there is still a chance of marks occurring even when making a concerted effort to avoid them.  And in knowing this, there is a chance that you’ll be playing with fire if you unexpectedly have to show your punished bottom to someone other than your spanker.

I think the fear of being outed by a boyfriend or girlfriend is the trickiest scenario as it is an intimate relationship.  Maybe the partner is not aware of the interest or not approving of spanking.  If spanking secrecy is a factor then yes, I’d say careful planning is required in this case.  Otherwise you may need to avoid intimate moments which could quickly lead to relationship strain.

With the doctor, well certainly schedule that appointment accordingly if the doctor might see your bottom.  The doctor is going to be concerned to see unusual bruising and want an explanation.  Of course not all medical attention is scheduled in advance and so if there is an urgent matter requiring a visit to the doctor or hospital, then take a deep breath and go even with those marked buns.  The good doctor has probably seen stranger things.

In the locker room, put on your undies in the shower stall, point your bottom towards the lockers, or simply stare down any of those cheeky bum-lookers trying to get a peek at your derriere.   

Accidental viewing by another party?  More cheeky bum-lookers!  Either they are everywhere or you are flashing your pretty bare bottom all over town.  Cut it out. 

Bottom line (ha!) is you do have to take the end state of your bottom into account if you are concerned about people seeing it and don’t wish to have to explain your love of spanking.  If you want to go all out and experience an intense spanking to the fullest, you may need to do some planning ahead of time.  Pick your play time carefully, schedule that physical for another time, and stock up on fluffy pillows if you plan to sit in the near future.

What are your thoughts?

Wishing you all a very festive holiday!

I got back into spanking action a little bit yesterday at the Punished Brats shoot with Joelle and Beverly Bacci. 

It was only in one scene, but I’m actually really sore today.  Beverly has a solid spanking arm and my poor bottom hasn’t done an on camera scene since March. 

Most of the day I was helping film Joelle’s scenes and leaping around taking photos which I really enjoy.

Beverly sits back and tries to cool down as Joelle kneels in the corner cooling off her bare bottom! 

Only since having had more opportunities to be the spanker do I understand the occasional desire to implement the crossover move.  You know, when the spanker suddenly goes from spanking the girl lying over the knee with his natural dominant hand in the traditional fashion to using the non-dominant hand to continue on without repositioning the girl.  I used to think it was just a flashy attempt to be ambidextrous, but now I realize that when playing for a while, the arm is going to grow weak, tired, and possibly become strained.  And yet maybe play isn’t ready to end so soon, so there is the temptation to put that non-dominant hand to more work than restraining flailing arms.  Once that spanking arm has had a little break, it’s back to full force action! 

So I get it, but I’m not necessarily a fan of the crossover in action.  It can be done well, particularly if the spanker is truly ambidextrous, but often it’s not.  Trying to spank from the opposite angle increases the risk of a smack landing too high and hitting the tailbone or even the lower back.  This is especially awful if the spanker is wielding a hairbrush or other implement or he is trying to make up for inherent weaknesses of the underused arm by coming crashing down from maximum height.  Even when done well, I find it less pleasing as it’s not the sensible, traditional method and I suppose I’m just a stickler for doing it the ol’ fashioned way. 

So why would I even be tempted to engage in the crossover myself then?  Hypocrisy much?  Well, for the simple reason I stated above – sometimes the arm gives out before the bottom does.  So what’s best in that situation?  Is it better to keep playing with a crossover fill in move or to call a temporary pause in play to recharge?  If up to me entirely, I would opt to pause and move to another position entirely such as a bent over stance as not only will it afford a few moments of recovery, but when play resumes, it’s a different swing using different muscles.  That is not always feasible though as sometimes OTK is either the most appropriate or requested and play must carry on in this manner. 

What are your thoughts on the crossover.  If you are a bottom, do you mind it?  If you are a top, do you engage in this practice?  And when you watch videos or look at pictures, do you mind if the moved is used occasionally?

Yep, I’m about to go on a real life rant!  You’ve been warned.

Sometimes I wish that life could immitate art just a little more often.  And when I say art, I mean spanking video art!  Tell me that my real life tale of woe does not sound like a classic spanking video set up.

A few weeks ago I was headed over to a friend’s house when I encountered a road closure due to down power lines and turned down an unfamiliar side street so I could make a U-turn and go another way.  I turned around in a driveway and was about to continue on in my travels when my car was sideswiped on the passenger side! 

I hopped out of my car and out popped a college aged girl from hers.  Our exchange went as follows:

College girl (clutching her phone): “Are you ok?”

Me: “Yes, are you?”

College girl: “Yeah”

Me: “What happened?  Didn’t you see me?”

College girl: “No.  I got a text.”

Me: “Sigh”

College girl then starts dialing her phone and I ask if she’s calling the cops.  She says no, she’s calling her parents so I phone the police and they come out to complete the accident report.  I was upset of course, especially as I had only just gotten my beloved car all of 10 days prior and here it was with a mashed fender before I even got the permanent plates.  At least my car was driveable though.  Hers was not.  I figured all would be fine since she hit me and it was due to texting (or reading a text) while driving.  Her insurance should cover my damages.

I received a call from my insurance company today saying that due to the vagueness of the police report in which neither party was listed as at fault, her insurance would not cover my damages.  AND the girl had the audacity to claim to her insurance that I struck her car which even the agent said is laughable based on the photo evidence of the scene, the placement of the vehicles, and where the damage is located (it would be near impossible for me to back out of a driveway as she claims and hit her driver’s side with the front passenger side of my car … the damage shows that she wasn’t looking, failed to stop, tried to swerve, and sideswiped me so nice try, honey). 

Now I’m ticked off.  And a ticked off Ms. Wells is not a pretty thing.  I can do little as it’s only my word against hers as far as the texting and with unassigned fault, I’ll be stuck with a sizeable repair bill or driving around a crunched up car.  Grrr.  And this is where I wish I could add a heavy dose of spanking fantasy to this reality and give this texting brat the spanking of her life!  Orrrr … go back in time and when her parents arrived on the scene of the accident, they could have given her a good spanking while I look on approvingly.  Yeah, yeah, I like that. 

Anyone have any real life situations of their own that they wish could be peppered with spanking fantasy?  Or if all I can do in this situation is perhaps one day reinact this scenario on video, any suggestions on who should play the texting college brat about to endure my wrath?

The holiday gift shopping season is full speed ahead.  Black Friday, Cyber Monday, shop shop shop!  I am actually pretty much done at this point which is a huge relief and I think the earliest I’ve ever completed my Christmas shopping thanks in large part to the wonder site, Amazon.  It also helped that I’ve been pestering my friends and relatives to start coming up with their wish list ideas since around Halloween and most of them complied (probably just to shut me up). 

But what do you get a spanking friend or partner as a nice gift that could possibly be opened in front of vanilla company?  Something you can pick up at your local department store and not the fetish shop?  Well, here are a few ideas.

 For those of you that love As-Seen-On-TV products, move over Snuggie, here comes the Forever Lazy one-piece pajamas with drop-seat!  When I first saw the commercial for these, my reaction was, “you can’t be serious,” but hey, pajamas with easy access to that naughty, spankable bottom are pretty popular.  And while I don’t forsee a lot of guys wearing their Forever Lazy pajamas to football games like they show on TV, there won’t be quite as much embarrassment if you’re caught wearing one of these around the house compared to the ones with rubber duckies or teddybears on them.

How about a festive breadboard!  Home decor stores often have these cheerful seasonal items to add a little holiday cheer to your kitchen or living room.  Of course they have the added bonus of making great paddles.  I think this one could knock a person into next week.  Oh, and you could also probably serve bread on it or something, but who really does that?

 For those who aren’t quite as naughty as breadboard recipients, theres always the classic paddle ball games.  And you know what happens when the ball flies off its tether …

Underwear.  A timeless classic.  Who didn’t get a package of socks or underwear as a kid?  Well, there won’t be any whiny disappointment with fun panties like these. 

 And for a great stocking stuffer idea, consider a nice bottle of anti-monkey butt powder.  Nobody wants a monkey butt.